But now she appears to be disgusted by them, and accuses me of ruining her good day. She used to tell me she was very attracted to my mind, and she told she deeply appreciated my social insights. She had requested that I give her opinions. I had asked her to tell me if the point ever got reached when she doesn't want them anymore, to avoid problems of the sort that have now arisen. Suddenly I am told that I am always ruining things. This accusing me of being out to make her feel bad---it sucks!
For example, she took her 9 yr old girl on a haunted hayride, involving actors doing things like hanging a girl from a tree and pretending to stab the girl while she screamed for help. I said "I'm glad you guys had so much fun, great!" Then I was silent. I said I need to think. She got pissed off. I explained that I question our increasing social practice of extremely violent dramatizations in the name of entertainment, saturating kids with the stuff. So now, I'm the bad guy. ?
2007-10-10 21:24:58 · 10 answers · asked by Theron Q. Ramacharaka Panchadasi 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How big is mine, someone asked? That's irrelevent here. The sex is great.
2007-10-10 21:31:15 · update #1
Yeah, actually I did not offer my opinion,, but remained quiet and said I wanted to get off the phone and go to bed. At that, she got pissed off. So I felt that I needed to explain. I had not wanted to say anything, but she had got huffy when I calmly wanted to end the conversation.
2007-10-10 21:34:51 · update #2
Yes I am this intense all the time. In fact, this is me being light. I have always noted social trends; I have always been aware of social things--highly. I have a degree in philosophy. It is a strong part of who I am. I have voiced my opinions only upon her request that I do not stop doing so. .
2007-10-10 21:38:12 · update #3
Well, I broke up with her today because I have had enough. I do not need the accusations from her. I'm plenty good at feeling bad about myself without help. Just right now, I'm feeling really down, because I have lost her respect. I'm not the bad guy here. Thing is, I listened to her story; I always do. I withheld my opinion until she worked it out of me. It is not I who is dark. Terrorizing little kids with bloody weapons is dark.
2007-10-10 21:44:30 · update #4
Besides, I am 50 yrs old, and am not about to change my ways any time soon. She's 36; maybe she's too young for me. I've been around the block quite a lot, so to speak. I've seen toooo much violence. I laid out who I am to her from the start. I've held to it.
2007-10-10 21:55:57 · update #5
Are you this intense all the time? I've dated someone like you for a couple of months. At first, it was really refreshing and I was happy that I finally met a guy who looked deeper into everyday events. After a while, it started to get on my nerves too. I wanted him just enjoy the moment sometimes and stop analyzing everything. Especially because I know that when he "thought" about things, they are normally negative. I'm not saying that you should change who you are, but maybe just lighten up a bit. Reflect on things when you are alone and when you are with her, try to see the positive side of things. Good luck.
2007-10-10 21:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like things have turned sour. In this phase, nothing you say or do will make things better. I'm not sure you can save it, but your best shot, if you want to, is to back off, keep your dark thoughts to yourself, and be a happy guy, untroubled by thoughts of the world going down the tubes. Maybe at first she thought you were "deep" and a fascinating intellectual but now she finds you to be a general downer, a wet blanket preoccupied with the negative. You can see how that wears thin, right?
2007-10-10 21:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by Johan W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intelligence is a double-edged sword- on the one hand, women like a man who is smart and can hold a conversation, on the other hand, they don't want a man who they feel is too smart for them. I'm afraid your intellect means you're walking a tightrope.
The other thing may be that you have trouble switching off your brain sometimes- you feel you HAVE to offer a detailed opinion or analysis. Whenever you have that feeling creeping over you when you're with your girlfriend, stop yourself- if she truly wants a more detailed point of view, she'll ask for it.
2007-10-10 21:31:52 · answer #3 · answered by darth_timon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 00:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love intelligence too, but sometimes people over analyzing things can get on my nerves too. Not everything in life needs to be analyzed. Sometimes it is better to step back and just experience the situation rather than pick it to pieces. It is just like choosing your battles when you argue. Reserve your right to an opinion only when it is truly necessary, and keep the rest of them to yourself. Being too intelligent can be a social handicap. I know, my son is like that.
2007-10-10 21:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your constant social commentary became annoying (sure these things can be charming in the beginning) to her after a while and she was keeping it to inside and didn't want to tell you out of fear of hurting your feelings. Maybe the way you said things or critiqued her child rearing skills made her feel small and worthless. Turn the mirror on yourself once in a while. I'm sure it wasn't all just her.
2007-10-10 22:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come off! !it you are not the bad guy you did the right thing she is the bad one and needs to find time to think.Can you give her some breathing space for a while.
2007-10-10 21:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by dicovi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont really know what happened to her, i think its not about your opinion that she just got pissed, its was right that you give her space, maybe she wants another in her life right now, this is not really you who was wrong , just let time solve it.
2007-10-10 22:09:57 · answer #8 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
human change. she's a little bit strange...
better be careful...
2007-10-10 21:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How big is yours?
2007-10-10 21:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Spock 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋