I have two older brothers and one older sister. In total, they have had eight kids and have chosen each other at least once to be a godparent. Why don't they choose me? I'm not extremely poor or an irresponsible person and I can't think of any other reason why they wouldn't pick me. Should I let it bother me?
2007-10-10 20:31:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am 22 years old, and they ask me to watch thier children often. They even compliment me on what a good dad I would be. I love these kids to death and I know they see it. What gives?
2007-10-10 20:38:49 · update #1
If you look like your avatar picture... you didn't need to ask the question. Aside from that: since most people want their godparents (and I'm not Catholic, so I could be wrong) to be examples for their children. Are you married? What type of work do you do? What type of lifestyle do you lead? Odds are your siblings have more in common with each other than with you. Since they want their kids to "turn out" more like themselves, they choose the more similar siblings.
The more important part of your question: You shouldn't let it bother you. Odds are, you will be a great uncle because of your differences (unless they become too extreme). Its only a title, you actions - how you treat your nephews and neices - will determine your relationship with them (and for that matter your siblings), not some title.
2007-10-10 20:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by Z-Force920 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There could be a number of different reasons. Maybe they don't trust you. Maybe they think you have enough to deal with in your life and don't want to burden you. Maybe they chose people who have kids because they thought the addition of one child to their family would be less of an adjustment for them than it would be for a person who has no children. Maybe they don't think you make enough money to be able to care for a child. But you don't know the reason, so I don't think it's a good idea to jump to conclusions. If you are really bothered, you can always talk to one of your siblings and share with them that you are worried that they didn't choose you to be a godparent because you feel it seems like they don't trust you. It might not be that they thought you had bad characteristics that made them not want to choose you, but rather they recognized something in another that they chose. So it might not have to do with you at all.
2007-10-10 20:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't ask my younger sister to be the godmother of my child for two reasons:
1. She's not married, and most people want a set (godparents, plural!)
2. My husband's family is Catholic and they wanted a formal baptism ceremony, which includes Catholic godparents.
I think number 1 is most prevalent. It'd be dumb to select a single male godparent and a separate single female godparent if the two weren't married. Most people will also choose godparents who are in a very stable marriage.
The godparents of my child did not choose me and my husband to be their child's godparent. We could've been offended, but figured they had their own reasons and have never asked them why. In general this role is a figurehead and never truly utilized.
2007-10-10 20:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by busseysmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a Godparent is not just a title, it's a responsibility which could also be seen as a burden to someone so young as yourself.
I'm guessing they don't want you to have the burden of trying to raise the child(ren) if something happens to them - after all you are only 22 and don't yet have your own family.
Talk to them if it's really bothering you ~ I bet they think they're doing you a favour. Good luck!
2007-10-10 20:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? No offense but you have to prove yourself as a responsible parent. The point of a Godparent is to take custody of the child in the event that your sibling and their significant other should perish or become incapable of taking care of the child. Maybe they don't feel you are in a place in your life where you are ready to take on a responsibility like that, I personally would not choose my sister as a godmother to my child, not because I don't love her but if anything should happen to my husband and I, I am NOT confident that she could care for my child (if I had one!)
2007-10-10 20:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by ~~*Paradise Dreams*~~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married and have children of your own? If not, maybe that's why. Maybe they want an experienced parent to be the godparent to their children. You can always ask them why they haven't picked you.
2007-10-10 20:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by gigi_victory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they probably havnt chosen you because they feel that by leaving you with children, if something were to happen to them, would be unfair to you. Maybe it would be worth letting your siblings know that if the situation did arise, that you would be more than willing to look after their children. I doubt it would have anything to do with your capabilities to look after their children, they are probably just thinking about what situation they would be putting you in, if they were to leave you with that responsibility
2007-10-10 20:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by glorybnaughty1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them
2007-10-10 20:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by stephany 22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have a mohawk :D
I wouldn't let it bother you.
2007-10-10 20:33:34 · answer #9 · answered by savoryjawbox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋