I'm 30 and met a great guy. We've been together for 3 years and we talk about marriage often. I think things are going to work out. When I was younger, I did a few adult videos in a different point in my life. I want to be honest with him, but I'm scared of what he will think. Not many peole know I did this. Should I tell him?
2007-10-10 20:04:44 · 14 answers · asked by cooperpi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to be honest with him. These videos were done when you were younger, but that is not who you are now. From the way you wrote this, it looks like if you could redo the whole thing you would not do the videos.
It will be hard for him to come to grips with this initially, but if he loves you he will accept that this was something you did while you were younger & that this is now who you are now. If you do not tell him there is the risk that he (or a friend or coworker) will discover these movies himself, which would not be good.
I think that it takes a lot of courage to admit this & this is a sign that you are a genuinely good person in that you want to be completely honest in your relationship. I will be hoping for a great response from him!!
2007-10-10 20:12:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know what, I don't think it will be a big deal to him, but he may wonder why you didn't tell him sooner since you've been together 3 years.
Like you said it was another period of your life that is long over and it's not something you would ever pursue again. I don't think it will make any difference to him at all. We all have skeletons in the closet and if this is the worst of it, then relax and just mention it. Especially if others know and my spill the beans to him. Just laugh it off as no big deal and that it was stupid and you were young and dumb. No big deal.
2007-10-10 20:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by gma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no sense in starting your marriage out with a lie, I'm just a little unsure of why you didn't tell him earlier. You probably should have told him 3 years ago before you started dating and you wouldn't have to worry about what he may think or say now. Either way, good luck.
2007-10-10 20:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by beldner1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW........ur toast. Just tell him, stuff will always rise up to the surface whether you tell him or not, just do the right thing. It might take him a while to get over it and he may not talk to you for a while. MY ? why did you wait so long, this is gonna break his heart.
It surprises me how many of these girls here are saying TO NOT TELL, how can you live a marriage with a lie and guilt of not telling the truth.
2007-10-10 20:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by J M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell him especially in this stage of ur relationship it wuld be a test if he accepts it and still loves u and wants to be with u then u are very and u shuld hold on and not let go but if he cant handle it then his love isnt as forgiving as it shuld be and u wuld beta with that will love you and understand and accept not only u now but also ur past. Plus u do not want carry this into ur marriage bcos no matter what even if he doesnt know, u will and it bother u
2007-10-10 20:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by T.F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
persist with those steps to coach your boyfriend you incredibly love him: Step a million: Watch alot of porn and take notes. Step 2: learn. Step 3: utilized what you have found out. Step 4: ??? Step 5: income.
2016-12-29 04:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop!do not tell him that.it may make you feel as if you got a load of guilt off your chest but dont be selfish,think only how it will make him feel(lowsy,hell think ur a slutbag,it will change your relationship with him 4 ever )if u like the way things are dont tell.if you really dont like him and want to fck his head up 4 a long long time well then .......be my guest
2007-10-10 20:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him. Either he will accept it and move on or he will be mad and then you will see that he is not the right guy for you. Everyone has a past all he can do is be part of your present and your future.
2007-10-10 20:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow.. do u mean like uv watched adult vid.. or made them.. ???
anyways i think tht if he loves u.. and u pple talk about getting married and stuff.. u should tell him..
and start by saying i was young and stupid.. but god ouch thts gona give him a shock.. really im praying for u...
gud luck
2007-10-10 20:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh boy.
im a pervert, so you can trust my answer.
do not tell him.
UNLESS, he is a pervert. if he has mentioned filming you, or having sex with other men, you are all set.
I would love to marry a porn star, but again, i am a pervert. most men want to , at least think, their woman is a virgin. or has little experience.
I would love to watch the movies my girlfriend made.but that is just me.
2007-10-10 20:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋