Abortion am i wrong??

Question

One of my friends had a abortion about a month ago. This is her 3rd abortion. She will not use protection. It makes me sick and disgusts me. 3 abortions?? Thats just cold hearted. I have a 3 1/2 month old son. He is my life, my joy, my happiness, he is everything to me. I look at him and to think what shes doing just makes me want to vomit. Am I wrong? I cant even talk to her anymore. I want NOTHING to do with her. I dont even ever want to look at her again. She cant understand, neither can anyone else. I mean its just SICK, i cant say it enough. I even believe I was friends with someone like that. She has said, well I dont have to pay for it so I dont care. What is wrong with her?? Anyone else agree?? Would you stick by that person??? I dont understand her nor I never will.

yea, its legal BUT, everytime you have sex you are taking a chance of getting pregnant. So you need to be ready, be responsible, and own up to it. And if you really dont want it, ADOPTION. Give the child a chance at life and let someone who cant have kids take care of it. Its just sad, after 3 abortions. Im pro-choice but not for abortion, for adoption. If you cant take care of a child than be responsible, use protection or adoption. Its not fair to that unborn child who can have a life. And yes to some of you, I felt the same way before my son, but now I feel so much stronger about it. Especially after 3 abortions, thats just sick and disturbing.

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Maybe this could help people like her. I hope cuz if not that person is just a waste of life.

http://www.silentscream.org/silent_e.htm

Maybe this could help people like her. I hope cuz if not that person is just a waste of life.

http://www.silentscream.org/silent_e.htm

Maybe this could help people like her. I hope cuz if not that person is just a waste of life.

Answer 1

3 abortions? is this woman sane? okay first off if your gonna open your legs to and not do nothing to keep yourself from getting pregnant then you need to deal with what you put yourself into without trying to find the easiest way out.. Most people don't see it the way you do or the way I do.. I see Abortion as of killing a living person.. Dang I would slap this girl and tell her what is up.. OMG.. this would piss me off.. She wont be able to have kids when she wants some and hopefully God wont let her.. But I agree with you.. She is dumb and you have every right not to ever talk to you again..

Answer 2

Every person is different, but an abortion can really damage a woman emotionally, mentally, and psychologically. She chooses the first abortion because she feels she will not be able to provide a good life for the child. However, after the abortion it hits her that she just killed her first child, that she is the worst of all mothers because how could a good mother do something like that. The guilt slowly begins to destroy her inside and then emerges the desire to eliminate the guilt and pain by attempting to replace the child by conceiving another. Afterall, that's what we did as kids when our pets would die - just get a new one. However, we find ourselves pregnant again and our situation still has not changed and we know that we can't take care of a child. It continues as a downward spiral until the woman hits rock bottom. I find it hard to believe that she truly is so cold about the situation - it's more likely a defense mechanism she's employing to hide what's really going on. I would suggest you advise her to see a psychologist to talk about things so she can find peace within herself and stop the self-defeating cycle.

Answer 3

I do believe in abortion. Sorry. I hate kids so if I ever got pregnant abortion would happen. I don't want kids they would ruin my life forever. But anyways you may not like her decision but the fact is it's HER choice it's HER body. She can do whatever she wants with it. I don't think she should use an abortion has her method of birth control - I actually think she should fork over some cash and go to her local drugstore and get some condoms. I think you should get an abortion - if you really want to. And just because YOU may not be okay with an abortion doesn't make it a wrong decision it's just something she needs or wants to do. And adoption is not always okay either I have a friend who's adopted and she just wish her mother would've gotten an abortion along time ago. She hates her adoptive mother and father to the point where she wants to kill them, they're so small minded so i can see why she'd want to. They're just un - empathetic and now she's looking for the birth mom and wants to piss all over her asking the mom why she didnt' get an abortion in the first place. I give her support. But hey anways I'm not okay with your friend using abortion as a form of birth control but I do believe in them. So I kinda agree but disagree.

Answer 4

It saddens me. She doesn't understand what she is doing.
I think that it is an opportunity for you to show her the error of her ways. If you really feel like you do, you should confront her in a way that could persuade her that she is doing a shameful and dangerous thing.
Ask her if she ever wants to have a child to raise?
If so, when?
Has she considered she is killing her own family. No matter who the father is, that is her mother's grandbaby, her brother's niece or nephew.
You could find some literature to show her how it is a mistake for her body, she may never be able to carry a child to term now.
The abortion can have a crippling effect on her psychologically later in life.
She may be under duress from her boyfriend(s) to have the abortion if he is willing to pay. This could be beyond what she thinks she can control.
The catholic church offers programs that educate about abortion and its effect on society.
Seek out information that can help you convince her to stop doing this thing.
IF you are willing to lose her as a friend at least try to convince her before you shake the dust off you feet if she doesn't change her attitude.
You should feel the way you do. It is shameful and tragic that three lives didnt' get to be played out, all that could have come from those lives is lost to the world and history.
The sadness is still there, but the joy has been stolen.
The heartbreak is everlasting and the happiness never was.
The beginning was normal, the ending all to near.
The reasons were fleeting but the action will last forever.
The life that was is now tragically wiped out.
Be a light in the darkness to her. If you can bear it you should.

Answer 5

She does not understand that there is a life growing inside of her. It is up to her for the survival of her offspring. If she is not smart enough to use birth control, and treats such events as buying a candy bar, she is not fit to be a mother and should get an abortion. Why torture a baby for life with that kind of parent. However, it is her choice. there will come a day when she will have to atone for her decisions. If she continues to treat such issues casualy, she will regret it. Help her to realize that there are ways to have a baby and give it a good life even if she's not ready to be a mother. perhaps she feels it as her only choice. There are people out there struggling to have children, while others kill thiers. What goes on in a womens body is her choice, but I do think that all options should be made clear. I do not agree with abortions. Especialy casual deals. but I am Pro choice to the bone.

Answer 6

No baby, you aren't wrong, but your friend is in a lot of turmoil right now. She is not a bad person regardless of the decisions she makes; she just doesn't understand what she is doing.

Myself, I am far from catholic and I hate their propaganda... Still though I feel like abortion is the assholes way of avoiding responsibility. Adoption is always a choice...

Heck I was dating a ER resident for a while. One time the conversation turned towards this matter and she told me that 'if she got pregnant she would probably not tell the father and would make up her own mind what to do' (abortion being a 50% probabilty for her) --- This really sucked because other than that she was really neat and wanted to do charity work in 3rd world counties. I cannot live beside someone who sees prospective human life as anything less than a sacred obligation.

Sometimes you need to find new friends :)

Answer 7

I don't think you are wrong. I had 2, one at 18 and one at 19. (Ectopic pregnancy and a terrible ex) Then I had a miscarriage at 24 with my husband. It wasn't until I finally gave birth at 28 that I realized what a HORRIBLE thing abortion was. The reality of it may not have hit your friend and it probably won't until she has or wants a child of her own. And if she keeps going like this shes chopping down her chances of having one. The scraping of the uterus during an abortion can cause her to have miscarriage after miscarriage. Abortions are not birth control and she needs to understand that before she f**ks up her body for good. Not to mention, all of this un protected sex and the STD's out there. HIV/AIDS is still out there and it still kills people, slowly and painfully. Also, 1 in 4 men are carriers or persons experiencing out breaks of Herpes Simplex Virus. She needs to stop this behavior before she gets to the point of no return.

A baby is a human life at conseption. Just because you can't see it doesn't mean that the soul isn't there. I wish I hadn't even had the sex that got me pregnant at 18 and 19. Pray for your friend. If she's not willing to change, follow your heart,

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I am on your side. Using abortion as a birth control method is both dispicable and EXTREMELY juvenile. Obviously her reckless sexual behavior is going to catch up with her eventually, in one way or another. And although I am sure you deeply want the best for her, some people only learn one way and that is the hard way.

I know it is little comfort, but think of this; If she is this careless and shows so little disregard for her unborn child, imagine what she would do with a baby.

Hang in there, find a new friend and hope for the best.

Answer 10

Hmm, people feel differently about abortion. She obviously has no moral objection to it. Did you feel that way before you had your child, though? Or is it only now that you are a mother that you raise such violent objections? If your morals and opinions differ as much as you indicate, then perhaps you should split ways, at least for a while. I won't say you are wrong, because that is what you feel. Personally though, I don't have moral objections to abortion and feel its right that its legal. On the other hand, to not use protection and just abort one after the other, that is irresponsible and unhealthy and just plain stupid.