My family is about to move to another state, and I'm not going with them. I'm going to move in with my boyfriend and live with him. They obviously don't know this, even though I've brought some of my things to his house. We have never been an "open up and talk to me" family. Even my online friends know more about me than they do. My older brother is living with his girlfriend, whom he has kids with, and though they don't like it, they don't say anything. But I'm the girl, so they're going to treat me differently. The only way I can think to tell them is just to leave a note, but I know that's not a good thing to do. If I have to do it, I will. But, if there's any other method, please tell me. (And, I'm 19.)
2007-10-10 19:22:39 · 11 answers · asked by LivingDeadKat 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well..........
Sounds like your family has a serious communication problem, (like, there isn't any).
There are a few different avenues you can explore:
1) Don't say ANYTHING, just move. Eventually, someone will call, just inform them them that you've already moved, and you hope they'll enjoy their new home in whatever State their moving to.
2) Causally mention you're not planning to relocate with the family. Don't explain anything unless or until you're asked. Don't be defensive, you're 19, there's nothing they can do about it.
3) (Notice this isn't #1 or #2) Start a fight with a family member, (pick one, who doesn't really matter), scream that you can't take it any more, you're leaving.....move out. Nobody is going to argue because you've already proved that you're unstable and possibly in need of institutionalization.
4) Sit them down and tell them that you don't want to relocate, you're planning to move in with, (insert name here), you love them and will come visit when possible.
Notice that all these examples have a common thread, you have to tell them what your gonna do, (because unless you do, they'll never know)
Luck
2007-10-10 19:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by spam_free_he_he 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee whiz, it is tremendously easy. you'll be able to flow next summer season while you're pre approved. there are a number of "ifs" there. Why not wait till you get approval, %. out a house and characteristic a settlement with the sellers of the abode.........then tell your loved ones you're shifting. no could leap the gun previously understanding for particular and no could bypass and supply your mom a heart attack while she solutions the knock a the door. Use slightly undemanding sense, please.
2016-10-22 00:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to be honest with your family for whatever your decision in life because time comes if something happen to you and your boyfriend the family is the first thing who will be on your side. I think your family will be happy if you'll show honesty with yourself because they will know somehow that you've matured enough on your age. Better tell the truth that lying so that they will know on what to do if something all you don't like to happen.
2007-10-10 20:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by ☺ĦЄŖ§ĦЄ¥☺ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A note is sort of how one says "So long, I hope to never see you again." I don't know how well you get along with your folks, but that seems a bit harsh, you know?
Talk to them, wish them well in their new home, give them your new phone number, kiss them good bye and so on. You're an adult, they must expect you to leave the nest some time. Leave it in style, I say.
2007-10-11 02:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Up front and honesty I find are always best. In a kind way remind them that you are an adult, and that you have made different plans from them. Tell them your plan (have one already), anticipate their questions and have the answers ready. It will be hard but then again it may not be. Just face them, have a positive attitude and good luck.
2007-10-10 19:31:01 · answer #5 · answered by ywroseoftx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come out and tell them your not going with them,at the age of 19 there is no legal reason you can't live where you want to live,nor can they tell or force you to go or do anything you don't want to go or do.
2007-10-11 00:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by JOHN T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, tell the truth and be honest
say this: "Mom, dad, i'm a grown up girl... i'm not a little girl who needs to ask for pocketmoney from my parents... i wanna be an independant girl, i want to stay with my boyfriend"
good luck..
2007-10-10 20:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by TM™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you tell them in person have your boyfriend next to you and make sure he's there helping you side by side, cause then your parents might think it was his idea and not yours, same thing is happening with me, I'm waiting to turn 18, and since me any my parents don't talk so much they think that it was all his idea and that he's trying to manipulate me
2007-10-10 19:30:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break the talking barrier and just tell them! Pretend you are the parent and it is your future child- how would you want to hear this news?
2007-10-10 19:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just flat out tell them in a nice way that you arent moving with them.
2007-10-11 07:32:50 · answer #10 · answered by Living for Life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋