On Sunday 30th September 2007, I did something really bad to my dad....?

Question

well, first of all I come from New Zealand but originally from the Philippines and because my "PARENTS" speaks Tagalog (national language of Philippines).... well ever since I was a little child, my dad always say stupid and dumb to me in Tagalog, the way he says it to me breaks my heart and it really hurt... so on 30th September, I did nothing wrong and my dad just keeps on saying to me stupid, dumb and etc in Tagalog and so well, I couldn't stand of what he said to me, I said to him "FUCK YOU" and when he heard, he starts hitting me and throw one of my black school shoes but unfortunately, nothing happened to me instead it happened to my mum since she was blocking for me from being hurt... =( now she got all the pain especially when she was kicked by my dad... so im wondering any advice??? of what can/should I do.... my mum said to me that I should always greet him even though he dont talk to me, but its weird for me, so please its urgent...otherwise I will put myself into death! and another thing is that do you think I will be put into hell from god since I swear to my DAD? im scared!!! =(

Answer 1

This is an awful story ... if your dad beat your mom ... call the police. It's not a laughing matter.

†Refuse to Abuse†

Answer 2

This is a problem of your father was wrong...was abusive...has been abusive...is abusive. Nobody should go through life being called dumb and stupid, this is not the roll of a father. Also, hitting is an improper respose for a father to a child and throwing things is the action of a child.

That being said... you were wrong... No child should ever use profanity at their parent, even when provoked by recurrent abuse.

No you will not go to hell...though maybe asking forgiveness for swearing is in order. Also possible consider asking forgiveness for not honoring your father.

Talk to your mother. Make sure she is available, and try to talk to your father. apologize, explain why you were provoked, and ask forgiveness. Ask him to stop calling you names and explain how it makes you feel.

If you can't talk this out, don't take the abuse, get help. Seek help, counselling, and if neccessary, as for police protection. You still need to feel safe in your own home. But if your father is the working one in the house, also consider where the money comes from. If you need to seek help from your church, they will have counselors, and shelter.

Answer 3

..Sorry to hear your situation..I think you should ask for a talk with him and clear things up.. you know, not to be violent and stop hurting your feelings bc it only puts you down.. it really does, when someone calls you something bad or tells you that you're stupid, they'll actually be stupid enough to believe it, and never feel smart and think that they can't do much. So its really the person putting them down's fault, and if they actually gave positive comments or advice to the person, that will actually Help them and benefit them and correct them from their mistakes.

I think it's great of your mom to block you and protect you..but you have to be responsible for your own actions. No matter how angry you are, calm down and watch your words. Imagine at that moment your dad..gone. Gone as in you know, Gone. Of course thats a bad thing, so you'll learn to correct your mistake and feel sad that if they do pass away, you'll feel worse at all the bad things you said to them.

I don't think you will be put to hell from god for swearing at your dad.. it's pretty bad but once we all get mad at them and say crazy things..

I think you might need some consouling? You'll put yourself to death, no, there are lots of moments like this in life, but you have to tolerate them and get things cleared and cooled so that you can move on and be happy. Suicide is not an answer, so just have a talk and be friendly, control anger too.

Answer 4

First thing, you will nnot get put in to hell for swearing at your dad. You have been abused and I think that if this is a serious problem for you and your mum you should talk to your mum about approaching womans refuge. Also do not put yourself to death under any circumstances, there will always be a future for you, just hang in there and you will be able to get through this and oneday be happy again. For free counciling phone the wassup helpline.

Answer 5

Hi friend,
I think when you said "fuck you" to him, it's the culmination of all those debasing things he did to you. Yes, in the eyes of the society saying that word to your dad is supposed to be wrong. But how many times has he hurt you with his degrading words?? Just because he is your father doesn't give him the right to just say degrading words. And honestly, if someone does that to me (yes, even my dad), I would had reacted the same way. The problem is not with you. It's with your dad. How many kids hate their dad because they are not allowed to answer back even if it's obvious that their dad is the one at fault. We are taught to respect our parents. Correct. But let me just add. We respect our parents if they are deserving of the respect. I, myself is a parent of 4. Before I expect respect from my kids, it's my duty to make myself respectable 1st. Your mother is right. Greet him when he comes home. Not because you're wrong, but because you just want to patch things up. You're only human, you've simply reach a boiling point.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

no u wont go to hell God forgives all as long as we ask for forgivness and mean it. sounds like you are. Sounds like ur dad is abusive! in cali he could go to jail for that and they ll make him take anger management classes. If ur feeling that bad tell him your sorry dont worry if he respond as long as u feel better. Always remember dont EVER let anyone make you feel dumb or stupid your NOT!!!! the person telling you that is the one that is stupid just pray for your dad forgive him in you mind and dont take to heart what he said cuz he obviously is mad with himself and takes it out on you the fool!

Answer 8

Don't be scared you are not going to Hell. You dad is being an ass. He does not know how to be a man and solve the problem. The problem is with him and he needs to control of himself. Your dad need to be taken out behind the born and given a spanking.

Answer 9

oh my god. that happened to my sibling once. kind of similar. calm down! u should just confront ur dad even if its really hard to do. tell him how u feel. even though he might hit u. i mean its the only way you can actually.. fix it. i think u should apologize :) like, do something for him. and tell him ur REALLY sorry. or maybe you should talk to ur mom about it if its really really serious. :) u should tell her how scared u are and everything. u could always just leave it alone..? maybe it will get better soon. :( dont worry, he probably just lost his temper :|

Answer 10

Just apologize to your mother for getting hurt. Tell your dad that you realize that you were out of line, and ask that he forgive you. also, ask him to please not to call you stupid and dumb because it hurts your feelings. Actually no parent should do that to their child. All teenagers get upset and say stupid things. Ask God for forgiveness and he will always forgive you.