Ive known him for two years, Ive liked him for a year & a half. He has a girlfriend-who lives far away.He began actually dating her 3 months ago.When I found out he got a girlfriend I was crushed. But I saw how happy he was.
When he has that smile on his face, it makes me smile;just knowing that hes happy. & Im happy for him. I just want him to be happy, even if it is with another.
Its been 7 months since her. I cant let him go. I tried to & I told myself I didnt like him. It didnt work. I told one of my friends that I didnt like him-she caught me.
I cant let him go. Its hard on me because it makes me sad even though Im happy for him.
I can just stop liking a guy-but with him its different.There are little things that make it like we belong together.At first I thought it was coincidence, but theyre a constant.
I want to stop liking him, but I dont. I dont want to tear him away from who makes him so happy. My friend said that I more than like him if that was case. I just dont know.
2007-10-10 18:27:10 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*If u knew him for 2 yrs. , then why did u wait for so long ???
Maybe he is not interested in u ,,,,,, hence he found a gf only 3 months ago !!!!
Leave them alone and find someone who will reciprocate yr feelings !!!
2007-10-10 18:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by ๏๓ รђคภtเ, รђคภtเ รђคภtเ ....... ! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If his relationship falls apart on its own, then perhaps things will come together for you. If you tell him, he's going to do one of two things that you won't like. He will probably feel really bad b/c he likes you as a friend and/or loves his gf too much to abandon the relationship, and will then feel guilty at the thought of your unhappiness and disappointment w/ the situation. The other possibility is that he will break it off w/ his gf just for you. This sounds good, but should he do that, you'd be stuck wondering if he can drop a 7 month girlfriend at the drop of a hat, then who else could come along that would have him doing the same thing to you. Normally, I'd recommend being honest w/ him about your feelings, but in this situation I don't see what good could come from that.
2007-10-10 18:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by asig33882003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you better move on with your life. Dont close your windows on his world. If you really cant control your emotions, then its up to you to confide it to him and accept the results. Mind you, he might have also this feeling for you since the last 2 years but didnt have the courage to tell you coz it "might" ruin your friendship or the other way around, which is he will keep distance from you since he has a new girl. Either way, accept it.
Set goals, go out, party with friends, communicate with long lost friends which you havent done for the last 2 years with him. Coz if he's really for you, no matter what you do or have been done, he will eventually come back to you.
So for the time being, like ive said, go on with your life. Having friends and family on your side will also strengthen and will make a way to enjoy life without that significant other that you're hoping for the last two years.
2007-10-10 18:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by jo3y80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear, I have been in this situation before and it suuuuuucks!
I always trust a women's instincts. So you're probably right. If he's giving you all these signs that it's meant to be, then you're vibes are probably correct. Buuuut, as much as it sucks, you can't do anything about it until HE comes to you and makes the attempt. It's not his current girlfriend's fault and it wouldn't be fair to her if you came right out about your feelings. He has to make that first step of breaking it off with her and THEN coming to you.
It's such a bad place to be in...the waiting. You just have to trust that true love always finds a way. If he is meant to be with you, oh, it will happen! It's totally fine to care for him, but if you choose to wait for him, I wouldn't recommend putting the rest of your life on hold while you do it. Just take it a day at a time and just wait...love will always find you. It may not be in the specific man you want, but it will come! :)
2007-10-10 18:34:32 · answer #4 · answered by courtneealexis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should just move on with your life!! If you don't want to hurt him then you should just let it go. Sometimes you have to sacrifice things for the ones you care about. If you truly care about him like you say then allow him to continue to be happy and you just find another way or person to make you happy. Continue to be friends with him only if you can handle it. If you know that you can't handle it then just keep your distance from him for a while. If you think that you can handle it then show him that you are really happy for him that he's happy!!!
2007-10-10 18:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by bRoWn SuGaR!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! im dealing with the same thing as you right now! but him and his girlfirend have been going out for 2 months. what i did was i told him how i felt about him and he told me he felt the same way about me! the reason why i told him because i was getting clues on how he was acting toward me. he was holding me certain ways the way he looks at me during class, the way he goes to my desk after class and stares at me for the longest time until the butterflies in my stomach are flying like crazy! dont be shy tell him how you feel! its better to try and get atleast one chance to win his heart than not try and not get a chance at all! good luck! i hope everything ends well! :]
2007-10-10 18:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by Angiee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let it go, he is happy with someone else, stop dwelling and try doing other things eventuallly you will get over him, but dont try to break him up, if things do not work out with this other girl, be there for him. And remember every thing happens for a reason and if you are meant to be with himjust hold on and one day you will
2007-10-10 18:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by mianivi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he likes you - possibly a little more than friends, but he can't do anything about it because he already has a gf and he doesn't know whether he wantes to dump her for you and go out and have some new adventures.
If you like him, I suggest that you let him know that you like him too because maybe that's the signal that he is waiting for that if he is no longer going to go out with his current girlfriend that he can have you instead.
But other than that, if you like him, I guess you'll just have to wait until he no longer has a gf.
Best of luck
2007-10-10 18:29:54 · answer #8 · answered by exoticdoll1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is best to leave things alone with this guy. since his girlfriend lives far away, things may dissolve between them but I would not wait for this to happen as you might end up hurt.
also, just imagine if you had a boyfriend then found out that another girl wanted him. how would that make you feel?
2007-10-10 18:41:30 · answer #9 · answered by chit-chaat7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is tough. It sounds like you really like this guy, so just make sure you're always there for him when he needs you. You do have to remember that he's taken, but try to spend more time with him if you can. Maybe after a while he'll decide he likes you better. If not, you're better off without a guy who doesn't share you're feelings. Try going after a different guy yourself to take your mind off of him.
2007-10-10 18:32:48 · answer #10 · answered by ~Think About It~ 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋