Soon to be 54, I need a man who will respect my privacy. I want to pamper him, want him to pamper me once in awhile, but don't want either one of us to EXPECT it. I can respect his issues, if he can respect mine. I don't like children, in-laws, NO SMOKING, extensive drug use, alcohol abuse, or over eating. No money loans, no borrowing my car, no forcing religious beliefs on anyone. Did I mention I hate smoking? I just want to enjoy life for as long as God lets me. Am I expecting too much? What do you thinK? Good Luck & Blessings
2007-10-10 18:16:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, most of your wants are reasonable. Maybe the children or in laws thing might be a bit much. If he has kids treat them with respect and you should learn to deal with in laws. Unless you want a creepy loner. But the rest of your requests are normal.
2007-10-10 18:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by Das ist mein fluch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No--just don't expect to find someone immediately. I think you're better off sticking to your guns, and eventually the right person will come along. But I do think you should try to have a sense of humor--that alone can help immensely. And remember that you're not perfect either--so try to be flexible when you can. Love tends to make us more willing to overlook certain things, and yet there's also an aspect of love that makes you focus on the most minute details in a way that may not be fair. Moderation in all things? Good luck--he's out there somewhere.
2007-10-10 18:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by Corozal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are you looking? You might want to try Yahoo personals. You have some specific things you are looking for and if you use the computer to help you ,you might find him faster.
I tried Yahoo personals a couple of years ago and met some women. Some were definitely not my type but a couple were nice. Nothing worked out long term but there were some possibilities.
2007-10-11 02:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by Big Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no, you are not asking too much. I just had this conversation with my 50 year old girlfriend this evening-who is drop dead gorgeous by the way, and I told her she had EVERY right at her age especially to make some demands and get whatever she wants out of a relationship. I think your demands are pretty simple for any decent respectable guy to meet. Do not settle for less either!!!
2007-10-10 18:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of your request seems to be reasonable with the exception of the "no children" part. Usually people in your age group have children. They may or may not be living with your prospective date, but they are at some part a part of their lives. You need to get used to that one or you may never find anyone to be a part of your life.
Other than that, you seem to know what you want. Most normal people who don't smoke would rather not have people around who are druggies, alchies or bring way to many bad problems into a relationship.
2007-10-10 18:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, those sound like typicaly logical wants. You don't seem to want a particularly rich/good-looking/impeccably clean person, etc etc, so I personally think your expectations are fine.
2007-10-10 18:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck no. move to utah, find a mormon, you'll be satisfied with every other single guy you meet.
(no, mormons do NOT practice polygamy, i would know, since i am a mormon)
2007-10-10 18:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by jeff_cougsfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yupp. I agree with Jeremy.
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2007-10-10 18:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by freako03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋