I don't want to submit to my husband?

Question

But he is Catholic and according to the bible I have to do what he says. He hasn't expressed a desire to be in control of our household, does that mean he isn't doing the right thing by God? If he DID ask me to be submissive I would get angry and no way would I do it, how can some women handle being slaves to their husbands? I don't mind him having an opinion but I am very against taking a back seat when it comes to decisions and anything really. Do other women feel like this? Who does what their husbands say and do you do it because of religion?

Tinklebell - Sorry that happened to you, that's terrible!!

Answer 1

~Honey do NOT listen to these people! Women should never allow men to control them. A lot of the passages in the bible were written by power hungry men driven to keep their power, and others were altered or translated incorrectly. ***Remember the bible was originally written in Hebrew; and many words and phrases meant different things in a different time.

God made everything a part of a dual relationship. Night and Day, Sun and Moon, Adam and Eve, Water and Fire, Hot and Cold.... Women and Men are just another pair, both of which are EQUALLY IMPORTANT!!!!!

Answer 2

I don't know where r u but this is a common problem in westrn countries. It is b coz of attitude towards marriage- attitude of both the man & wife. I think marriage is union of two souls & not two bodies. Both partners are supposed to be considerate to each other.
Now, for you, you seem to be under a state of egoism. Just be a little cool. Submission is a bad word, may any religion vouch for it, but there is a word "agree" which is much milder. Marriage is an art of living together respecting each other. If u don't have that art (either of you) separation is only way out. Remember, it's only away not a solution. b coz u r likely to feel the same with other husband.

Answer 3

I let my husband make all the financial decisions while I stayed home with our new daughter. When my daughter was 3, I returned to work but he still handled the money. But I became ill and began to gain weight and I cried all the time and was exhausted. It wasn't until a year had passed that we found out I had Hypothyroid Disease. But by then it was too late.

One day I came home from work and our 3 bedroom home was gutted. Everything was moved out within hours, our car was missing from the driveway and my baby was taken from the daycare provider. Our bank accounts were also closed and none of my cards worked.

Even though we married in a church (he's Catholic, I was United) and vowed "for better or for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, til death us do part," he said he was fed up with me always being sick and not pulling my weight around the house. He thought I should work all day, come home and pick up the baby on the way and then have dinner ready for him.

I WAS STUPID! I NEVER should have given up all my power to him. From now on it's 50/50 all the way or the highway!

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Answer 4

Both men and women are EQUAL but have distinct roles. The technical doctrine is called complimentarity. If you look at the latter half of Ephesians 5 there are specifics for both the husband and the wife. Being submissive to your husband does not mean that he is to hold that over you. On the contrary he is to love you the way Christ loved the church. How did Christ love the church? He died an incredibly slow and painful death for her. I'm adding a link to a sermon I heard once that really made a lot of sense to me. To go through everything would take too much typing on my part. Hope it helps.

Answer 5

What is wrong with trying to be a good wife?If your husband is good and you respect each other I don't see why a man shouldn't be the head of the household.That doesn't mean he has to go around barking orders at everyone.If there is Respect between the two of you there should be no problem with you being submissive.I consider myself a submissive wife .That doesn't mean that I don't speak my mind.We have our disagreements.I think that when there is Love and Respect that a woman should be able to be submissive and not feel demeaned.by it.

Answer 6

God isn't telling you to be a slave to your husband. We are to be submissive to our husbands as we would be to the Lord. Are you submissive to the Lord? You are leaving out a really important part of this law: Men are to love their wives as themselves, to love them as Christ loved the church. That is a LOT of love. If your husband treated you with endless amounts of love and kindness and respect, why would you have a problem letting him be the spiritual head of the household? Isn't a man like that worth submitting to? The word "sumbissive" has such a negative connotation in American society; it is not a bad thing at all. And NO you are not in any way supposed to be a slave to your husband or do everything he tells you to do. A marriage is an equal partnership, and each partner needs to recognize that.

Answer 7

This is spiritual submission, not physical submission. God did NOT put Women on this earth to be slaves or wh-res to men. The part of the bible you are refrencing has been taken out of context for a very, very long time.

It refers to a time when Women were not allowed in the temples because those in charge thought that they were a temptation and would cause the men to stray from their righteous endeavors. But, people generally agreed that Women did have souls and thus, were in need of spiritual teaching and coaching. Since Women were the property of their fathers/husbands/etc, this edict was issued for men to take SPIRITUAL authority over their entire households (Wives, children, slaves, etc) by teaching those who were not allowed into temple about God and how to live by God's laws. The edict was also to Women to submit to their husband's spiritual teachings and authority so that they would also be able to enter heaven.

Today, however, this section of the bible is no longer necessary in all but the most orthodox religions because Women can fully engage themselves in spiritual and religious endeavors and do not need men to teach them because they have been barred. It is no longer necessary to submit spiritual authority to your husband because it is no longer necessary to remain barred from praise, worship, and religious education.

The verse has NEVER meant physical submission to a husband even though some people have warped it to fit their own agendas.

However, God did say that Eve was made from Adam's rib to be his EQUAL and his helpmeet. This means that men and Women are capable of helping one another to take care of themselves, their families, and their souls.

Men who love their wives should treat them as Equals and this includes giving them power in the relationship to help make decisions. Men and Women should help eachother on the physical aspects because we are Equals in God's eyes.

Best of luck to you!
Peace,
Jenn

Answer 8

Can two walk together while disagree with each other? No.

Unless you agree one another, you going to have a divorce on your hand.

Here the rule that God created.

He ask every wife to be submissive but He also ask the husband to be loving.

Now what if you knew that it against the Bible to do things?

Who is more right? Your husband or God?

There has to be a line drawn in the sand. Yes you will obey him but you will not do evil or wicked things.

The Bible didn't say it ok to do bad things that is a sin. So if your husband put a drug in front of you and he tell you to eat it. Will you obey? The choice between your husband and God is your.

God alway come first.
Husband come second.
Yourself and your kids come third.

You might have to consider seperation if your husband keep asking you to do evil things.

Answer 9

You have to remember that many passages of the Bible were written by humans, primarily men, in a time when women were often subjugated. Perhaps don't take the Bible quite so literally and use it for the insightful portions where good lessons can be learned. God wanted us to have an equal partnership with our spouse!

Answer 10

(shrugs) Then don't submit to him. Saying that a wife should always submit to her husband seems to imply that the husband is always right, or at least right more often than the wife. Is every husband smarter or more knowledgable than his wife? Hardly. Contrary to what some people on here seem to believe, belonging to a church and having faith don't excuse you from the responsibility of thinking for yourself or forming your own opinions.