GIRLS - What would you do if your boyfriend didn't want you to get a tattoo?

Question

I want to get a small tattoo (like 5cm square or less) but my boyfriend doesn't want me to and he always says that if I get a tattoo, he will get a motorbike. I don't think that's fair... do you think so? and what would you do? I feel like getting one without telling him.

Oh, I forgot to say that I'd hate for him to get a motorbike because it's heaps more dangerous than cars

For sure he'll ask me for financial assistance on the motorbike.

The tatt will be on the back of my neck.. I was thinking about a dog paw but not totally sure.

No, I'm filipino lolz

Answer 1

i feel the same way! haha. i want a small one on my back or shoulder and my bf is totally against it because he says au naturale is always better.

but it's entirely up to you. if you want a tattoo, then get one, if your boyfriend wants a bike, let him get one. just make sure the both of you talk to each other and know the risks involved for each. either way, a relationship is about compromise.

if you want to get one without telling him, then remember to anticipate his reaction. i know my bf will still love me even if i have one. do you have the same amount of confidence?

either way, it's always your choice. if you really love this guy and this issue has potential to tear you guys apart then i suggest you talk it out with him first.

Answer 2

I would tell him that he has no right to say what I can and can't do with my body, and go get the tattoo. If he gets the motorbike, so be it. I wouldn't give him any money to purchase it though. Tell him you're getting the tattoo, and then go do it whether he likes it or not. He has no right to control you in that way. If it's something that you want, and that has meaning for you, then it's your decision, not his.

Now, on the other hand, if you were thinking of getting a really dumb tattoo and he discouraged you, then that's a different story. I'm a big goof, and sometimes I come up with really goofy tattoo ideas. When I tell my spouse, he says "that's just dumb. Don't do it." and I listen, because I know it's goofy, and it's not like he's telling me to not get a tattoo period, because I already have 9, am getting more, he's completely covered, and owns a tattoo shop. So that's not an issue.

But seriously, he has no right to tell you what you can and can't do with your body. Would you let him tell you what hair colours and styles you're allowed to have? No. Let him know your concerns about the motorbike and how it's dangerous, and you would be devestated should something happen to him while he's riding it, and also that you won't help him financially with purchasing the bike.

Answer 3

Well, I am a lover of tattoos and piercings, but I strongly feel that tattoos should have meaning. I won't put flash art on my body, the only tattoos I'll get will be self-designed. Consider first the tattoo...it's your body and your boyfriend has no right to compare a simple tattoo to getting something dangerous like a bike. But if you know he'll ask for financial assistance, don't give it. If he doesn'tpay for your tattoo, don't help him with a bike. If he doesn't have money, he can't get it. I'd guess he'll eventually forget his game.

Answer 4

Just talk to him, tell him why you want the tattoo, what you want the tattoo of and how great it would be if you stood by you on YOUR decision. About the motorbike... you coudl tell him your problem with it and try to make him understand that it makes you nervous, maybe he'll be willing to negotiate. Don't get it behind his back..if he still disagrees with it... just nicely tell him you've made up your mind.. :-p I got my first tattoo very low on the back of my neck.. I love it and have no regrets :)

Answer 5

Your boyfriend has no right to tell you what you can and can't do with your body.

I wouldn't date someone who said things like that in the first place, but if my boyfriend ever said that to me, I'd tell him too bad, I'm getting it anyway. It's not his choice.

But then again, it's not your choice whether he gets a motorbike. If he asks you for financial assistence, it's a simple matter of saying "no." It's his bike, he can pay for it. Just like you should pay for your tattoo.

It seems like you both have some control issues to work out.

Answer 6

If a boyfriend didn't want me to get a tattoo because he didn't like it then I'd tell him to stuff it since it's my body and respect my choice. It sounds harsh but personally, if I want a tattoo I will get it. If you want to get it and he doesn't approve do it without telling him and tell him later that you made your own choice. It's both of your choices, neither of you really have to ask and after all, you are only dating so it's not like you have a marriage that will fall apart. He seems to be taking it really far to prevent you from getting a tattoo because he doesn't want you to have one. Ask him to respect you and if it will make him feel better he can go with you. Good luck, hope you get it figured out. At the end of the day ask yourself what you want to do with your body. :)

Answer 7

Well first ask yourself why you want the tattoo. It sounds to me like the tat doent matter too much since you dont even know exactly what it will be.
Second why doesnt he want you to get one? Is he just too controling. Is it like a religious thing. Does he think you will regret it later. Does he just not like girls with tats? what is it? and is the reason valid. If you care about him you should consider what he is saying. NOT let him tell you what to do do, but consider where he is coming from and whether or not its a good enough reason for you.
Third, decide how much his opinion means to you. It doesnt seem like it means all that much since you to just do it and not tell him. thats a bad idea anyway. he will see it eventually and then it will be a problem.
I say decide how important it is to you and if and why you want it. talk it out explain your reasons for wanting it and hi\ear him out. he may have a good point.
when it comes down to it. its your body you can do what you want with it and he has no right to tall you what to do. also dont get financially envolved in his bike espeacially if you doint even want him to have it.

Answer 8

I would totally do it...he's your boyfriend, not your mother. It's fine if he tells you he doesn't like the idea, and it's fine for you to consider his opinion, but ultimately you should do what you really want (and, honestly, the same goes for him and his motorbike). Don't be sneaky about it though--that never leads to anything good.

Answer 9

My fiance didn't want me to get my tattoos, or my piercings.
But, I wasn't getting my piercings or tattoos for anyone but me, and I sure as h*ll was not going to NOT get them for anyone else.
So now I have 9 piercings, and 5 tattoos, with more of both on the way, and he still doesn't like them, but he LOVES me, regardless of what I do with my body.

I suggest you sit down with your BF and discuss how spite is not something you want in your relationship (ie him getting a motorcycle out of spite because of a tattoo) Tell him that he needs to accept you for who you are, and tell him that he can't blackmail you into being someone you aren't.

Best of luck.

Answer 10

whats wrong with him getting a motorbike? whats wrong with you getting a tattoo?
I believe that you both have the freedom to express yourselves, enjoy each other and discovering each ones hobbies and lifestyles. You may find out that there is a great compatibility between both of you. GO FOR IT!