I am 24 female, almost 25.
I have never been in a serious relationship. I have had very high expectations and I DEFINATELY know that being obese has not helped.
I was a late bloomer, my first bf was when I was almost 20. Then a year later I got into a really bad car accident and over a year of not being able to move I gained 75 pounds.
I thought people would judge me on the inside but that is not how men are.
So now I am losing weight and also losing hope in finding someone who cares for me.
Why is it so hard to find a nice guy that is educated and around my age to love me?
2007-10-10 17:51:21 · 5 answers · asked by Okay Hero 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love comes when you are not looking. My type when I was looking was blond, brown eyed and not a gym freak but a naturally good build. Men who looked like that made me speachless at first site. They never did anything good for my life in the long run and I was with one beauty with a great job for almost 9 yrs.
My other half, my husband is dark skinned, brown eyed, black haired and the most perfect man I have ever known. A man who thinks before he speaks, avoids all drama and is succesful and responsible. If I had stuck to my type I would still be looking for some unattainable guy because perfect doesn't exist. I have a real man who loves me and I wasn't looking. That is how he got in the door with me. I wasn't interested, although I thought he was great looking he wasn't my type, he was just a friend to talk to and hang with and he turned out to be my other half.
Last night he told me that he loved me 109 1/2 %, the good and bad about me. I wouldn't trade that for all the black, purple, rich, poor, fat or thin men in the world.
Stop looking for love and just be open to a true friend, focus on school and losing weight for you so you have the pride of looking good for yourself and the right guy will come.
2007-10-11 02:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a bit difficult no matter what your size or age - but a lot of what happens is due to what you expect to happen. When I've felt insecure about my weight, I wouldn't flirt much (or at all) didn't walk with confidence, wouldn't make eye contact, and therefore didn't attract men. But in reality, there are plenty of men who like full-figured women - and I know that you are also losing weight, so there will be men who like that too. Just hang in there - try to work on how you feel about yourself and be open to the men out there. There are good men - it just seems like single good men and single good women are having a hard time hooking up (not the sexual way). You'll find someone!!!!
2007-10-10 18:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dearest Gianina: You ROCK~ Girl !! The little I know about you~ I can almost GUARANTEE that you will Magically Find a Meaningful Relationship! I really enjoy reading all your questions! Your Pathway is leading to a very special place! Just keep being "true" to yourself. Be the Best You~ that you can Possibly Be! Being "hurt" is all a part of our Daily, Grand Human Experience! If we do NOT Hurt~ we are NOT Really LIVING or Feeling. Permit me to warn you about~ "Disney-Love"! This is a Fantasy. There is NO Such Thing As~ * "Prince-Charming"! That is a Movie! You will discover true love within the next 10 years, as you gain maturity & "Emotional-Intelligence"! You will probably meet a HUNK who plays soccer in South America! He will probably look like Anthony B.! :-) Good Luck Girl~ Have FUN! Awesome Things Are Right Around The Corner For YOU~ Gianina ! You are a special young lady!
2016-05-21 03:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we feel unloved if we are hasty in believing that we need someone to love us. Do not hope that people will judge you in the inside, it is innate in men that physical features matters first. Maybe you are sulking in your world and does not socialize with people due to insecurities. Love yourself, give it lots of confidence and self-esteem. I think the problem is not with the obesity.
2007-10-10 18:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by hermecshec 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you will gain more confidence when you lose the weight, you need to love yourself before you can love anybody, people are shallow is naturall we like to see pleasurable things but the thing is beauty is subjective..just be happy for waht you have..just focus more on your goals..sometimes when your not looking, that person will find you!
2007-10-10 18:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋