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My girlfriend just told me that next weekend she wants to go to the movies or something with her ex because they will both be back home from college (they go to colleges very far away). I am also going home next weekend with her. She just told me that she talks to her ex almost everyday on the phone and they are good friends. She had a serious relationship with him and slept with him while they were together. I'm assuming he doesn't have a gf if he talks to her everyday. I am not ok with her hanging out with him at all. I've brought it up with her before and she thinks i don't trust her and says im too jelous. My point is why is she seeing her ex if hes not in her life at all besides texts and phone calls, especially when i will be home with her that weekend. Also we go to school very close to eachother and see eachother very often so our relationship is very serious (its been a year we've been together). What should I do?

2007-10-10 15:59:09 · 28 answers · asked by mang256 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

28 answers

Yes - and dump her if she doesn't stop.

2007-10-10 16:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Honey, you did the right thing. YOU told her how you feel.
Now, this wouldn't sit well with me. I had an ex who pulled this crap. I told him, and I got the lecture of how I didn't trust, and they knew the same people, etc, etc. Here's my take on it:

If they care, they will stop. If not you got a lot to think about. Obviously you are making something of yourself by going to college. Secondly why is she still talking to someone who had broken her heart at some point in her life. And if she was the one dumping, what gives her the right to play with men like that? Speaking for my sex, I don't think I want her in my 'club.'

So, think long and hard of what you want to do. And if she's not thinking of your feelings, then drop her bum like a hot potato!!! If she cared, she would drop that old baggage before she would give you a chance.

Good luck, Mang256.

2007-10-10 16:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by Vetty 5 · 0 1

ok well do you honestly think that she would be cheating on you if she tells you shes going to meet him? i think not. if u r still feeling abit insecure about it then i would ask her if u could tag along with them too. it is quite possible that the reason that the two broke up is because they thort that they wer more good friends than bf gf, and sex was just an extra... i think you are being too jelous... but that just shows how much u love and care about her. you have been going out for a year so she obviously loves you, and she hasn't dumped you so she isnt looking for another relatioship. trust me everything is fine !!!

2007-10-10 16:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Well I think that you should tell her that is makes you feel uncomfortable, and regardless if it is jealously or trust issues it is still how you feel!! I do think it is a bit strange that they talk everyday. An ex is an ex for a reason. I would be a little cautious with the situation, and just be as honest as possible.

2007-10-10 16:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kathi 3 · 0 0

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2016-10-22 00:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yes definitely voice your feelings. The worst thing for a relationship is not be truthful. I don't see the necessity for her to continue having a close relationship even if they are friends. She should respect your feelings and perhaps distance herself from her ex. I would wonder how she would react if the roles were reversed.

2007-10-10 16:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by Bride08 2 · 1 1

It's not about you not trusting her or being jealous - it's about her not respecting you or your relationship with her.

Tell her how you feel. Show her this question. Sometimes being defensive and saying you don't trust her or are jealous is a cover for her deceit - ask her if that's what's happening here, if she'd rather be with her ex.

I don't think you're over-reacting, I think you should definately tell her you're not okay with it & that you feel it disrespects what you guys have. Good luck.

2007-10-10 16:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 5 · 0 1

This may sound harsh: Tell her to choose between you and her ex. If she chooses her ex then your relationship was never going anywhere and it's better to find that out ASAP.

Remember, there are women everywhere. All you need is the confidence to walk up and say, "Hi!".

2007-10-10 16:13:19 · answer #8 · answered by bit_shifter52 1 · 0 1

Be honest! Tell her how you feel! In my opinion she shouldn't be talking to her ex! I think she may be playin' you. She may not have cheated but there is something going on. Cuz I don't even talk to my friends everyday!!! LOL If she cares about you and values your opinion she won't talk to him anymore. Hope I've helped! Good luck!

2007-10-10 16:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by luvgurl 1 · 0 1

GOD, GROW UP! You're just afraid she doesn't like you and wants to go back to him. You are too insecure about yourself. I still talk to one of my ex girlfriends. Matter of fact she is my BEST friend, and I DO talk to her every day. And we don't do anything anymore except hug, even though we did have a sexual relationship before. And even though I now have another relationship. Get some self esteem man. Too bad you cant but it, cuz it sounds like you need to stock up. YOU ARE ALL TO INSECURE.... Everyone who has posted before me anyways, is seriously lacking self confidence if they are afraid of this situation...

2007-10-10 16:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by ~Hobo_Blood~ 3 · 2 1

Tell her exactly how you feel. It is not ok that she wants to spend so much time with her ex. Even show her this thread. If you let it fall to the wayside then she will just walk all over you.

2007-10-10 16:04:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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