Im 16 and i think the being gay is wrong, since it says that it is in the bible (1 Corinthians 6:9) and im repulsed by gay acts (such as kissing But the reason why i ask is i notice certain traits of other guys and think "i wish i looked like that" or "he's not bad looking", and i've never actually been atracted to either "side". but a lot of people think that i am gay, and ive began to talk in the way that is seems feminine, for example i say "like" a lot, etc. I really, (and i mean really) don't want to be gay.
although i'm not extremly religious i have done my biblical research. What i came up was: Everything is possible for God (Jeremiah 32:17), and everything is possible through God (Matthew 19:26, Mark 10:27). so it IS possible!
so my question is if i am gay, how can i become straight, and if im asexual (meaning "not being attracted to either gender", not "reproducing by oneself" for all you biology students)
And i'm not interested in "just be yourself" i want a real answer!!!
2007-10-10 14:13:55 · 23 answers · asked by Peter 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Oh and i asked this in the religious section because i think that's my only chance, so don't comment and be like "the bible doesn't mean anything" or "there is nothing wrong with being gay" etc.
2007-10-10 14:18:08 · update #1
ok! the first two examples are examples of how not to respond!!!!!
2007-10-10 14:19:11 · update #2
i am really certain i asked you to not post comments which said "just be yourself" and "the bible's wrong"
i appreciate all of you real comments though!
2007-10-10 14:34:03 · update #3
That's good that you're aware of these (potential) feelings. The best thing you can do is pray to God that He will guide you to do what's right. If you do feel like you are gay, there have been other guys who have gone back to being straight, so it's very possible. And don't listen to people who say 'you were born that way and can't change what you are' or anything like that. As you know, all things are possible with God. And here's other very encouraging scriptures:
1 Corinthians 10:13 -- No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.
James 4:7 -- Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
It might help you to talk to a preacher or elder at church, if you go to church. Or feel free to e-mail me, and I'd be glad to help you find one in you're area, if you're interested in talking to a Christian about this. Stay strong in the Lord! I'll be praying for you. God bless.
2007-10-10 15:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by kaz716 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I don't really believe that you are gay. Because you would have at least tried to experiment with it. But because your not attracted to either sex doesn't mean you are gay either you mind could be other places and that part of your teenager stage is just on the bottom of your to do list. I think that's a good thing though. Because it allows you to focus on your relationship with Christ before you make a lot of mistakes with sexual sin that you should avoid. The bible tells you all about those. Yes you can be delivered and I think that the enemy(Satan) is trying to implant false things in your head about you being gay. Your not gay In Jesus Name. That is an abomination in God's eyes and you should pray that God help you with your thought life and don't hang around people that encourage that behavior. Focus on being you and not being gay. Jesus said if you ask for anything in my name I will do it. So no nothing is to hard for God and you can be delivered from those thoughts. I hope this helps. God bless you.
2007-10-10 21:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're repulsed by homosexual acts, you probably aren't gay. I doubt you're "asexual" but maybe you just haven't had a chance to meet someone you're interested in?
I personally am bisexual. I like BOTH genders and still I RARELY find someone that I would actually consider dating. I'm just really picky and it doesn't help that I grew up in a small town where there just wasn't any choice.
So just take things as they come. You're bound to find someone that you're attracted to sooner or later.
Though there are Christians out there who are still okay with homosexuality. I would advise defining your morals for yourself and having an idea of WHY you feel something is wrong, rather than just because you were TOLD it is wrong. I have no problem with Christianity and if you have another reason for thinking homosexuality is wrong I respect that, but don't develop your moral system based off of what you're TOLD to believe is right/wrong.
2007-10-10 21:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by SheIsDeath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not necessarily gay just because you wonder about it or because you notice other guys. Noticing other guys or girls and how they look or how you look is normal teenage behavior. Talking a certain way, walking a certain way also does not make you gay.
If you really think you might be gay but do not want to be believe it or not their are Christians support groups out there for you. You really do not have to be anything except be true to your self. Continue to pary and worship God and cultivate your relationship with him. He will help you through this dificult and confusing time.
Hang in there!
2007-10-10 21:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by Reba 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Dear, don't let what others say offend you. I will say this much, the start of that is admitting that you are, God recognizes that and blesses you. Secondly, by you knowing that this is a sin and want to change, God is already working in your mind and heart to let you know the truth. Thirdly, just ask God to help you to change from that sinful way, ask Him to help you to get through it no matter how many rigid pits you may encounter. You realize this one thing, for the fact that you know it is a sin and the only one that can convict your heart of that is the Holy Spirit, then know that God will able you to change from that lifestyle. You have to be sincere about and strive sincerely as well. Keep praying to God and reading His Word allowing Him to guide you into the truth. God bless you and be strong be courageous and God will bless you.
2007-10-10 21:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Erica L 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you ARE gay...there isn't anyway to "become straight".
The closest you can manage is to repress your desires. Perhaps then, go on to become a senator.....
There is no *cure* to gayness...mainly because it isn't a sickness.
What you need to do is think...
Sit down, make yourself a list...why I might be gay,
why I might be straight, why I might be bisexual
List everything you have noticed about yourself which fits these catagories.
Then figure out what exactly it is that repulses you about "gay acts" and why...and if it really, secretly, attracts you, then admit that to yourself. You don't have to admit it to anyone else.
Finally, figure out why it is you really don't want to be gay. Is it only because the bible says so?
Or is it fear of public ridicule...fear of reprisal from friends or family...etc and so on? Those are terrifying possibilities to consider, but life must be faced and above all, (even though you said you didn't want to hear it) you must Know thyself and be true.
Good luck kiddo
2007-10-10 21:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by novaedawn 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You should try classical conditioning. Every time to your attracted to a male punish yourself in some way, doesn't have to be painful just something you don't like. On the other end of the spectrum every time you find yourself attracted to a girl reward yourself. Eventually you'll learn to be not be attracted to men and to be attracted to girls.
P.S. You can't ever stop doing this, if you do after awhile you'll go back to the way your are naturally.
2007-10-10 21:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by jetthrustpy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am religious as well, and I agree that homosexuality is morally wrong, but no worse than lust.
However, what you describe isn't enough to be gay. Homosexuality is a definite, sexual interest in the same sex. What you describe (noticing other guys' traits) is quite normal - you probably tend to compare yourself to others, and noticing desirable traits that you wish you had. Nothing wrong with that. As far as your speech, it's not gay either. I tend to do that also, and it's just a matter of influence and habit.
2007-10-10 21:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by DarkLightA 2 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Peter, Peter, Peter; Why would you want to deny yourself?By the sound of things you really don't sound gay at all. I mean theres a difference between admiring someone and lusting after them. Um and by the way saying "like" alot doesn't mean your gay, its just a bad habit. Also, why would you want to be asexual? Are you really that insecure?oh yes and like you really sound religious contrary to your statement.
2007-10-10 21:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by Eddie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well written articles on Changing sexual orientation (Link below):
"Reparative" therapy is ineffective; harms individuals, family, friends, communities. You can choose to be celibate, perhaps (though gay or straight people find this difficult and warping). You cannot change your sexual orientation. It is part of you, and while complex seems to include genetic predispositions.
Move that mountain with mustard seed faith first; it will be easier than changing your orientation. Or adopt celibacy but do not deceive yourself.
2007-10-10 21:19:43 · answer #10 · answered by SC 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋