How would you know if your ready to get marry?

Answer 1

If you have to ask you're not ready.

I knew I was ready when I began to accept integrating another person into my life entirely. I began to realize that my life would be different (in a good way). I stopped wanting some of the things that I used to want and found myself incorporating him into my goals for my life. And I was okay with changing my goals-- anything I was "giving" up was for the better of my relationship and that was a good sacrifice to me.
For example, I always wanted to be a rock star (and got pretty close). When I realized that I would never want to tour without him, my goals changed. I OF COURSE still play music, but I'm focusing on aspects that allow me to spend time with my husband too. I'm not saying you should give up your goals necessarily, but you will notice your priorities change. Then you are ready-- you're not in the "me" phase of your life anymore. You accept yourself as part of a "we" that is awesome, powerful and full of its own goals. (Not that you shouldn't still salvage yourself as an individual-- but being part of a couple is a sacrifice in some ways.)
I was also able to trust him financially and knew that I would never love another man the way I loved him. I could see our goals as a couple as beautiful and whole and I didn't resent anything about that.
I felt like I had accomplished a lot as an individual and was ready to share my life with another person that inspired me and taught me about his life-- made me a better person.
I found someone I admired and wanted to wake up to every day, with bad breath, sick, pissed off, or poor. Didn't matter. Of course, we are happily none of those things, but that's why I feel fortunate every day to have such an amazing man to share my life with!
Signs you're not ready: jealousy/trust issues, financial burdens, inability to hold down a job on either of your parts, wild goals that you still have to accomplish that don't involve having a husband (for example, picking up alone one day and retreating to an undisclosed European location without telling anyone, or being a stripper), you live with your parents, you have commitment issues or need to sow your wild oats, OR you need to ask someone on Yahoo if you're ready.

Answer 2

That's "you're" (not your) and "married" (instead of marry) and you know when your heart tells you, when you've been an adult a few years and experienced various relationships so have a strong feeling this is the right one for you, and when you've had a chance to be independent and take care of yourself, so you'll make a better partner for someone else...when you're ready to share your life with someone on a daily level, from the mundane of housework to the romantic of making love, to helping bring home the income, to helping bring home the groceries.

Any doubts...then wait.

Answer 3

If you have to ask, you're probably not ready.

But anyway:

* When you've gotten an education and/or have been in the fulltime workforce for a couple of years.

* When you have earned enough money on your own to live decently, and you have health insurance and some savings to take care of yourself if need be.

* When you've done lots of things on your own (or with friends) that you've wanted to do ... travel, take up hobbies, etc.

* When you've learned basically who you are, and can function as an adult (pay bills, have good friendships and relationships, manage bad habits, keep your home and person clean and healthy).

* When you can learn to live on your own should the need arise. It's nice to have someone you love, but you shouldn't *depend* on them to get by, or be 100% lost without them.

* When you have the confidence to trust in yourself, and do the things that YOU want to do, no matter what anyone else says.

* When you're not afraid of what your parents think/say, and when you don't need their permission for things.

Answer 4

There's engaged encounters/classes/counseling that can led you in the right direction. If you've talked about expectations after marriage you should be okay. I like who's going to work? Both? Just one? Parenting styles? If you're even going to have children? Who's going to handle the money, and do you agree on which bills or things take priority in the budget? Me and my fiance disagree on things, but we're aware they we disagree and someone is going to have to sacrifice. But you should be aware of issues that could come up. Are you going to let your 14 yr old daughter get piercings? I mean there are countless things that could come up that you need to be prepared for, if you can. It's amazing what can come up that you didn't know about your partner. My fiance told me if we have kids he doesn't want me to work full time. I have to be prepared for that. Be financially prepared helps.

Answer 5

"you're" ready to get "marry" when you can actually type a sentence that makes grammatical sense. And you wouldn't be asking this question if you were actually ready...

Answer 6

You just know. If you're not sure then your not ready. maybe bring it up to your boyfriend. say something like "what do you think of getting married?" That'll get him thinking about it and you can gauge his reaction. I wouldn't do it unless you're sure it won't scare him off.

Answer 7

When you are ready for family life, you are ready to get marry.

Answer 8

It's one of those things that you just know. There's no thinking about it. No doubts, no hoping or wishing or wondering about someone else. When you know, you know.

Answer 9

~Age.
~Experience with members of the other gender.
~Time you've spent with the other member.
~Your own fianancial situation w/o relying on the other person.
Until all of your answers are high numbers, don't talk or dream about it.

Answer 10

You just know... it's a feeling you get inside and you have no doubt that is what you want to do.