I'm 22 yrs old and I want to have casual sex with a guy I know. We're both willing parties, but he doesn't know I'm a virgin and I don't want to tell him. Do you think this is wrong of me?
2007-10-10 14:05:53 · 9 answers · asked by ItsJustMe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I get the feeling this will be more than casual sex to you. Please reconsider your plans if you have feelings for this guy as losing your virginity to him could be a disaster for you.
When you lose your virginity to someone you have an inexplicable emotional connection to them for a very long time if not forever.
In answer to your question: It's your business that you're a virgin but if you intend to bring that up later as some kind of bargaining chip then you are doing something wrong by not telling him.
He may also not be interested in casual sex with a virgin because of what I said before about losing your virginity to someone.
Think long and hard before you decide to do this - once it's gone it can't be regained...good luck.
2007-10-10 14:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no obligation to tell him. Some people want to have the fantasy of having this great romantic time as their first and 98% of the time it doesn't happen that way, even if they plan to. Just be sure to use protection and go slow. It gets better.
2007-10-10 14:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by Ferocious Love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to tell him, keep silent. Virgin is the most important for you? If say Yes, keep it safe for last minute. Do what you want which you don't fell guilty.
2007-10-10 14:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally if it is just casual sex you have no obligation to tell him. If you have no problem with it and he wants to do it just go ahead and do it.
2007-10-10 14:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by beachnerjl2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i was 18 when i did it, i was kinda embarrsed still being a virgin so i slept with him just thinking it would be a one night thing and he turned into a 2 year boyfriend. my first boyfriend and ONLY serious one, he thought i slept with one person before i met him, he still doesnt know he took my virginty...
2007-10-10 14:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by trustTHYself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may hurt you BECAUSE he may think that you AREN'T because you didn't say anything...that first time when the hymen is penetrated may hurt even if you are relaxed..the fact is..you WILL be nervous and he may read that in your face..
YOU may also be a bit impressed with the pressure necessary to puncture the hymen..I would bring it up with him so that he is aware of how to take care of you appropriately...it will benefit BOTH of you...
2007-10-10 14:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because really what does it matter in 50 years time???? as long as you have safe sex and make sure he REALLY knows how to please a lady then you will (if not totally enjoy) at least have a pleasant experience ----- have fun
2007-10-10 14:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just talk to him about it..
tell her its a big thing for you and stuff..
if its ok with him which it probably will be..go for it.
if not then..idk.
2007-10-10 14:09:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if he were to find out eventually, he would feel guilty... don't you think.
2007-10-10 14:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by jjbre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋