well right my and my fiance are saving up money you see im 18 and hes 19 now were waiting 3 years so we can be in our 20's u know but everyones tell me i should wait longer idk!!well how should we start planning ???
2007-10-10 13:54:20 · 12 answers · asked by nancy n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
first i must say to the person who said you're not a fully formed person at 25 is a bunch of garbage. I'm in college, planning my wedding, and me and my fiance' moved into our first home together this past summer.
well i'm glad you're waiting a few years before actually getting married. As for planning, it IS too early for you to reserve places or anything but what you could do is go scout out venues for the ceremony, price the pictures and various other things that you think you might want and just keep track of it in binder or notebook.
Figure out approximately how much you'll need for all the wedding costs for when the time comes and since you're waiting 3 years see how much a month you'll need to save and aim to have the majority of the money saved in 2 years.
That way when you're starting the 3rd year, you'll have the money for deposits on those things and won't have as much to worry about. Good Luck!
2007-10-10 19:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by fallingstar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on being engaged, I'm there too! We already have been together for 2 years and plan on another two to get through most of our schooling. Don't listen to everyone else telling you to wait even longer.. I know it is hard, both waiting and school or whatever else may come your way. Do what you feel you need to do. You didn't ask for their opinion on that issue anyway!
Aside from that, try out www.weddingchannel.com or www.theknot.com They are both GREAT resources to start planning a wedding. Make a profile with either or both of them, and read what they have to say. I know wedding channel has a place where you can enter all of the information for all of the guests you want/need to attend, a budget calculator, and lots of pictures to pick out dresses and flowers and other vendors! they have a TON of information that is useful. Do remember, most places only book a year out, so you have plenty of time to figure out exactly what you want, and change things around if your preferences change, but once you do BOOK something, the deposit is usually not refundable. You may also want to look into wedding insuanrce (this is becoming more and more popular here in the states). I don't know much about that, but it basically covers you if for some reason the wedding doesn't go as planned.
other than that, Try to figure out your budget... what you are willing to spend on the wedding, and what things are most important to you about the wedding. Example: is it more important to have GREAT food? or to have an AWESOME photographer to always remember your wedding day with photos? What do you want people walking away saying? "We had the best dinner.. it must have been expensive!" or "That was the most fun at a wedding I've ever had! The appetizers were something I could have made, but the DJ kept everyone dancing!!!" or "The flower arrangements were so beautiful! They smelled so good, and I wish I could have taken one home!".
It's ultimately time-consuming, but have fun! and congrats again! Make sure to involve your hunny as much as he will let you so you both are happy!
2007-10-10 16:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by rusty_eyed 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Start saving money. That's the most important thing right now. you have plenty of time to plan-- you can't book anything this far in advance. Figure out how much money you want to have and start savings accounts, either together or separately (at this point I would recommend SEPARATELY-- you're too young for a joint account.) Promise to save equal amounts. Say, a couple hundred dollars each per month.
You'll have thousands to spend by the time you get married. Put it in a high interest account like ING Direct. Watch it grow. If you change your mind (not saying you will, but just in case!), you'll have a nice chunk of money either way!
2007-10-10 14:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree with "D"... in every word.
BUT...
If you really think that you are going to "live happily ever after"...then I would suggest the two of you start saving now in different accounts to that you are in debt when you finally get married. The average cost of a wedding is $23,000...think this through.
I do applaud you for at least waiting a few years (this shows some maturity!) But whatever you do...don't book anything with any vendor until about a year before so that you are absolutely sure you want to get married at that point...because the deposit is non-refundable. That doesn't mean that you can't go looking at all your options!
Good luck!!
2007-10-10 14:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
DON'T start planning now!!!!!!!
Go to school first and get a degree. Or, if college isn't what you want, then get a fulltime job and get health insurance, and try to live on your own for a while.
Don't think about getting married for at least 3 more years. Go to school and get an education, or work, and save up some money for yourself. Learn to function as an adult first before you worry about marrying a fellow child.
2007-10-10 14:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by BeatriceBatten 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is how it's done: first you get a good education (finish high school, then college), then you get a good paying job (due to the college education), then you get your own place BY YOURSELF and learn how to stand on your own two feet and pay your own bills, then buy property, then get married if you want to. But for the two of you children to jump into marriage is foolish. You aren't even fully formed human beings yet - even at 25, let alone the ages you mention! You will meet hundreds of new persons in your lifetimes and as both of you go through life experiences you will change and grow. If you rush this now, it's doomed to failure. Very, very few persons marry at that young age and stay married. If you want to "play house" get some dolls and play with them. Real life is vastly different and you have no idea what you are up against. Do NOT go from your parents home into a home with your fiancee. You need to be able to 'stand on your own two feet' and so does he. I know at your ages the hormones are going full tilt, but do please try to show some maturity and common sense. After all, if it's "true love" it will stand the test of time, right?
OK, here's another test: Look at your fiancee and ask yourself if something, heaven forbid, were to happen such as a car accident and he were paralyzed, could you care for him for the rest of your life? That means that you would have to work full-time, and also make enough to pay for someone to care for him. Then when you get home from work at the end of the day, YOU have to take over the night-time caretaking. Do this for at least 20 years. Believe me, it isn't easy. Remember, this means no dancing, no more going out as your both used to, no more of a LOT of things. It's hard enough for someone to do that's in their 40s. Could you do this as a 20-something? Remember, the vows you take are "for richer, for POORER, in SICKNESS as well as health." Or when times get tough, are you going to up and run?
Both of you have a LOT more maturing to do before you are ready for marriage. Take the time to become grownup people first.
2007-10-10 14:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by D 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is never too early to start planning (well, as long as you are engaged, if you aren't engaged then yes its too early.).
Start saving up now, DO NOT take out a loan or go into debt for your big day!
Start scouting out sites and ideas.
2007-10-11 03:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you in college? Wait until your through your education before you get married, because statistically speaking 1/3 of people who marry before age 25.. end up in divorce. I'm one those marriages.So take it from an old woman like me. WAIT.. Get your financial, emotional, psychological selves ready...
2007-10-10 14:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by navywife_2001 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you talk it over enough you'll eventually get most of it worked out. My husband and i started by picking the place and colors and went from there. I also kept a notebook with all of our plans in it. That way i couldn't forget anything. Also, talk to your mom about it. She can probably help you out a lot. If she doesn't support you then look for another married lady to talk to. It's nice to have someone with experience to share with.
2007-10-10 14:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by Angie 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Don't plan anything til a year before the wedding. Too many things can change.
2007-10-10 22:47:47 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋