I often receive stares from men, however none of them ever approach me. I am a beautiful person inside and out, intelligent and confident. I am polite and friendly, but men behave as if I would bite if they came and said hi, or asked for my number or asked me on a date. I don't understand why. Men, can you help me out?
2007-10-10 13:33:24 · 16 answers · asked by Dimples 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Many times men see a woman like you, and think you are too good for them, so they smile and stare, but don't act. THey lack self-confidence around beautiful women. Or, maybe they have been unsuccesful in the past, due to how they have been treated.
There's nothing wrong with you initiating the conversation. I know I would love it. I get in that same situation, but I do smile and say Hi. But then I tend to leave it at that. It comes from past rejections for being shorter and having less hair than most women think is important in a guy..
But, if you want to meet... email works!
2007-10-10 13:39:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try this for a change since you are beautiful inside and out and very confident why dont you approach the men for a change, why wait time aint slowin down for nobody. So if you see someone you like how about you get up and head over theyre way. Guys happen to like that.
P.S.
When your in a situation like that take a minute to realise what you are feeling and Im sure thats what men feel when they want to approach you! Good Luck
2007-10-10 13:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by 1st Baby Due 03/9/2010 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
About ten years ago, I had the same problem. Then I had a guy come up to me one day and start talking to me. He told me his friend was interested in me but said I looked "unapproachable". I asked what he meant by that and he said his friend figured I probably got asked out all the time by alot of guys and would just say no anyways. He also said I didnt smile much and wouldnt make eye contact. This guy wasnt being rude, he was telling me things I wasnt aware of at all. We talked for quite awhile and it was very insightful. This guy told me that men are so afraid of rejection that they would rather not approach a woman then to have her say get lost. Its an ego thing. And all this came from a guy. It took me awhile to learn to smile. I guess I look pretty serious when I am not smiling. I also practiced making eye contact, that tells a guy if you are interested. So, even if you dont want to sit there and smile like an idiot, at least try to look approachable. Smile at people who pass by and just be friendly in general. And, you can always approach THEM, you know. It works both ways. Some guys are just shy. So I say go for it, if youre interested in a guy, go talk to him. What do you have to lose??
2007-10-10 13:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by answers4u, not insults 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In light of the way that you have described yourself,only one other thought crosses my mind to explain the failure of guys to approach you. It is possible they screw up your face into a"do not approach look"scaring away potential suitors.Could it be that they are intimidated by a significant size difference? Try to smile more, take the initiative and ask a guy out if you like him.Let them get to see and appreciate,the beautiful intelligent,con fident,polite,and friendly person that is both inside and out.If you like ,you can let them know that you will bite but they will keep coming back for more bites.---Dracula anyone.Let us know how you are doing, I wish you the very best.
2007-10-10 15:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Dimples,
Have you ever tried winking, when a guy gazes at you?
Have you ever maintained eye contact and just approached him?
A lot of guys hesitate when they see a beautiful woman. A few random thoughts run through their mind :
1. Is she "with" someone (who will beat my a$$)
2. Is she here with friends (doesn't want to be approached)
3. I've never talked to a woman this attractive before, what would I say?
If you would give a friendly smile, little wave, or another sign you notice them and are receptive to an approach or a greeting - a few of the guys I just described would be comfortable approaching you.
I'm just saying ~
2007-10-10 13:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by yoak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, most guys are a bit intimidated by beautiful girls. Most believe that beautful girls get approached all the time by guys and probably have plenty of choices. So because of that she'll be more choosy. You said you were tall. Well, being a shorter guy, I probably wouldn't go out with a girl that was too much taller than me. If she was more than 3-4 inches taller, then that would be too tall. You said you have high standards? I think there is such a thing as too high as to be unreasonable.
2016-04-08 01:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because they think you are too good-looking to have a chance with you. Or maybe you have just been around some shy guys lately, I dont know maybe try approaching them? if it continues just talk to them.
2007-10-10 13:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by Will 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you might give off a certain energy or vibe like you're too good for anyone. try a pick-up line yourself. if you break the ice they won't be so afraid.
2007-10-10 13:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to them, BUT BE SUBTLE! if you verbally attack them, they will tell all the other guys, and no guy in school will talk to you, just try to make nice, and be cool
Hope this Helped
LAZEr
2007-10-10 13:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by lazer726 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe its the big eyes and the big teeth you have
we know what almost happened to little red riding hood
2007-10-10 13:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋