My boyfriend said to me...what does this mean?

Question

The other day my boyfriend and I (4years) both 21, were talking about me getting a nose job, I brought it up and want to change my slighly beaky nose. He said whatever I chose to do he would support me and he loves me because I am beautiful ither way. This is my only flaw apparently, everything about me is great.

He also said that "if i did have it changed, i probably wouldn't stay with him" - WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?

Did he say because he thinks I will be alot better looking and would want other guys or because of something else, is it a compliment or not?

I am so depressed sometimes because of my nose and i am always trying to hide it with sunnies or hats and i never wear my hair up because i hate its shape, its for me and not for a new man because my boyfriend is my life!

Answer 1

He's insecure. He thinks if you're so much hotter with a new nose, better guys than him will be hitting on you and you'll chose one of them. He's got issues. He should be more convinced than ever that you'll stay with him since you've been together since you were teens.

Answer 2

The problem here for your boyfriend is not your nose, so forget the fact that it might be a compliment or not! Obviously he feels insecure and this might seemsome what normal. He feels that if you get a nose job you will feel better about yourself and your selfesteem would be through the roof. Which you would have every right to feel good. So try talking to him and explainin to him that he is your life, and that no matter what your going to be by his side (if you really mean it). Good Luck.

P.S
I have a beaky nose aswell...lol I was always very insecure about it until I realised that gos gave it to me because it was meant for me! I love it, it sets me apart from every other woman.

Answer 3

It means that he feels insecure that you might leave him for someone better, and if you looked even hotter than you currently do, he's certain that you'd find a hotter boyfriend.
Basically, it's a compliment in a weird way, and more importantly-- a cry for reassurance. Let him know he's crazy! He's just scared you'll be so hot that you'll be out of his league all of a sudden and get scooped up by some super hunk.
Explain to him that you don't spend four years with someone you LOVE just because you can't do any better. Would he leave you if he started working out an got a Brad Pitt body? No. Of course not. He's just being insecure. If you get a nose job-- Do whatever you like with your nose, let him know how much you'll be depending on him during your recovery because he's the man of your dreams and you love him, and make plans to go out with him one night when you're better. Dance with him, hang on him more than usual, go out of your way in public to make him feel like The Man. If guys hit on you, brush them off and tell them immediately that you're with your boyfriend. Let him be proud of his hot girlfriend (you should do this with or without a new nose, by the way!)

Answer 4

everyone thinks their nose is all wrong, because its right in the middle of their face. Actually the ear is the ugly part of human. If you are one to look outwardly towards others, with high sincerity rating, and sensible healthy lifestyle, you will radiate beauty.....with or without that new knows ...er uh.....nose. He was giving you a compliment...at the same time maybe wondering if you will become self absorbed toward vanity, and yes...consider another to be a better match for you, based solely on appearance, not a partnership of wonderful realization of existence experiences. I remember seeing the actress 'Arquette' in a movie, and wondered why I thought she was attractive, my type not so thin..as I went through the list of appearance attributes I discovered that all my girlfriends had slightly crooked teeth! It was the way her eye teeth made her lips seems more kissable...but maybe it was simply because of this slight flaw they each had, made them 'easier to approach' and talk to...the relationship just the subsequent result, which further conditioned this look-ism based sub-conscious projection. If you do change your appearance you run the risk of being attractive to a more shallow group of suitors and losing some inner character and beauty to others.

Answer 5

It sounds like a backwards compliment .... meaning, with a different nose, you'll be so beautiful that you'll consider him beneath you, status-wise.

This could just be something that popped into his head as the most appropriate remark to make at the time.

It could also be that he's feeling a little apprehensive. He knows that you know he's fine with your appearance currently - otherwise, why would he be with you for four years? He may think you are doing this to become more attractive to other men. If you aren't doing this for anyone but your own feelings of "I hate my nose", reassure him that your nose has always made you dislike your face, and you have always thought about having plastic surgery done, but you DON'T want to change your boyfriend.

Answer 6

He loves you for who you are not for how you look apparently and what he said about he would support you shows he really does care but the part about you not staying with him afterwards is not a compliment it is showing his concern and insecurity in the relationship. everyone has a flaw somewhere that they would like to change but most of us don't worry about it to the point of cosmetic surgery. I would consider the surgery only if there was a medical need for it. Like you nasal passages are closed or some other serious illness not just because you don't like it.

Answer 7

Obviously you are not very confident because of your nose. He is afraid that you might get OVERLY confident. It's just like if you were overweight and not confident and then lost all of that weight and you were confident enough to do things that you normally wouldn't. He is afraid that you would leave him.
Maybe I am not making any sense. I saw on a talk show that a woman was going to get breast implants and her husband was not happy about it because he knew that she would change. I mean, she had NO breasts at all. They were like a man's.

That probably didn't help because I am not good at explaining things sometimes, but here you go.

I think you already know what he meant but is just so shocked that it came out of his mouth.

Put yourself in his place. How would you feel if he tried to change himself?

Answer 8

Maybe he feels insecure about your relationship.Without breaking into an argument ,you should sit down & talk about your reasons for wanting to go through a drastic approach like plastic surgery & why he feels the way he does.The most important thing is for neither one of you to do this when your upset or worked up about something;sometimes our emotions can make us say & do things that we don't mean to do.Just a reaction.Have you ever had problems in the past?Maybe there's a reasoning about his insecurities that might even lead up to when he was a child.

Answer 9

The question is: Will you look at other guys? If you are beautiful either way, just stay the way God made you. Just think about this guy though because if he loves you, he should never ever say he'll leave you for any reason whatsoever.

Answer 10

Yes a very big compliment! He thinks you want to change your looks and if you feel better afterward his 'flaws' will glare at you and he will think you will be looking for someone else.
Also he may feel you think you need to change something he already feels is great. Why? You have a great guy who loves you already. His insecurity, he loves you obviously.
Think of it this way, If he decided he needed to 'buff up" hit the gym and have a bodybuilder body. Wouldn't you wonder why?

Answer 11

Sounds like he has confidence problems. You might encourage him with compliments, but let him know the comment bothered you a little because you liek the way he looks.

By the way, a nose job is just going to profit a surgeon. It won't help you at all. I don't recommend spending your money