My 12 year old niece is going to be one of the junior bridesmaids but lately hasn't been acting good. She trashes every dress idea I show her, refuses to carry the flowers I picked, back talks me and is just plain rude. My brother has talked to her sevral times as well as his wife and she still acts like a brat. In school she hasn't been doing to well either, bad grades and fights. I want her to stay in the wedding. What should I do? HELP!
2007-10-10 13:05:47 · 7 answers · asked by Jasmine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She used to be very nice. Now she's Miss Rebel dressing in all black and dying her hair and stealing.
2007-10-10 13:26:35 · update #1
Besides the obvious that she needs some serious help if she's gone from sweet to rotten overnight. If they can't help maybe she has a cousin her age that can help the family find out what's up if she doesn't want to talk to an adult or maybe her friends could clue your brother in on what may be troubling her otherwise here's what you should do about the wedding... if you should still follow through with it instead of putting it on hold to help her.
As much as u would like your niece to be a part if she's as bad as you've been mentioning it may be a better idea to find a back up. All u need is some rebellious child ruining your perfect day with all her drama! I'd find another or at least get a back up person and clue them in that in case something should change I'd need you to fill in for so and so... however you want to word it. I'm sure your brother would understand and wouldn't be upset that his daughter be passed over due to her behavior. It's your special day you don't need any added stress to make it go from happy to flop due to her attitude. move on to someone else or drop the extra girl all together and have less in the party.
2007-10-10 13:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by Detroiter1967is outa here! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something else is going on with her, it may be a phase but it's really bad timing for you.
There may not be a whole lot you can do, keep talking to her parents about what's going on. Don't try to solve the problem yourself - she may rebel against you even more.
If in the end she doesn't want to be a Jr. Bridesmaid it may save grace for your wedding day and release some stress for you. In time she'll look back and may regret her bahavior but you can't force someone to change, especially at that age and in such a short amount of time.
2007-10-10 14:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you two close? You could take her out for a girls day out and have some one on one time with her. If she trusts you she might tell you what's going on. As for dresses and whatnot try to get her oppinion on what dress she'll be wearing. If she continues to behave badly in school and with you I would tell her if she doesn't start behaving your going to exclude her from the wedding. It's not very nice, but maybe she doesn't want to be in it.
2007-10-10 15:42:56 · answer #3 · answered by tainted_obsession 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Offer to act as a sounding board for her to let out whatever it is that's troubling her, because there is something major going on here. I know you say you want her in the wedding, but it doesn't sound like she really wants to be in it. Ask her and don't take it personally if she says she's changed her mind.
2007-10-10 13:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by Cory C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ah, being 12 sucked. I would consider not having her in the wedding, the entire day could be blissfully perfect, but if she acts out, that will be the thing you remember the most. way too much to stress about. Good Luck!!
2007-10-10 16:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by R G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would no longer be a Jr Bridesmaid if she acted like that.
Her parents need to do an intervention, find out why she is acting like this all of the sudden.
Or like someone said try to do a girls night out with her.
2007-10-11 03:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about the wedding, everyone should be worried about the child. Kids don't go from being really good to really bad for no reason. Something happened to her to make this change.
2007-10-10 13:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋