my 5 year old will calmly, out of the blue say, "mom, I don't love you" . I feel like I am being stabbed in the chest. The first couple times he said it I just told him you know that's ok, I love you and went on with it, but it's gone on too long now, and now I am really hurt. I do the best I can as a mom and he's telling me it's not good enough. It hurts. This time i did not respond at all. Just tried not to cry. he's making me feel like I'm a terrible person.
2007-10-10 13:04:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just let him be. He s still too young and he doesn't know how hurtful those words are. I remember when I was little, I use to tell my mother that I hated her when I was upset or angry. It is just a phase. Maybe there is something that is troubling your son. Maybe you should find out what is going on with him. Let him know that he can talk to you about anything. Until then, don't take it personal. Be strong mom.
-God Bless.
2007-10-10 13:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she only said it this once, i wouldn't worry too much about it. if she says it more than once, i would set her down and ask her why she said it and why she should not say it. from personal expirience, i would say that she might have just heard the word and figured out what it means, if it was the first time and she noramally doesn't talk like that. it is actually an ok thing for her to use new words as long as you teach her to use them appropriately. im not saying that the word "hate" is a great word, but she is 5. my 8 year old stepped on our kittens tail and he said "i should just kill myself!" i immediately explained to him that is not something he should say and how it makes me feel when he says it. he understood and i havent heard anything like it since then. he has said other innapropriate things as well, but that is what kids do. if your daughter shows other signs like hurting herself or others or being unessicarily mean to friends and family or saying off the wall things everyday, then i would become concerned and contact your family doctor. good luck!!
2016-05-21 01:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to worry to much...
It's just a phase kids go through...
I am saying this from personal experience I said that to my mom when i was about 5 or 6 and I really Hurt my mom's feeling's but as i grew older I realized that it wasn't such a nice thing to say to my mother...
at the tI'me I said those things as a joke you know...
I thought it was funny... but i was to young to realize i was hurting my mom's feelings...
But now im 16 yrs. old and I have a gr8 relationship with my mom....
Also you should talk to him and tell him how you feel
He will get over that phase trust me
2007-10-10 13:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by Edith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Next time, don't hold back the tears. Cry in front of him. That will teach him a lesson better than anything else you can do. He needs to see that it hurts people when he says mean things."
This advice is probably the worst. Your 5-year-old is doing this to get a reaction out of you; if he figures he can make you cry, he will only do it more often to get attention/a rise out of you.
2007-10-10 14:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a phase kids go through, but I know it hurts. I have a 4 year old nephew that tells me he hates his mom, me and some other people. Kids don't know how to say what they feel so when you deny them something they will say things like "I don't love you." or "I hate you." I'm sure he will grown out of it. Try explaining to him that it hurts your feelings.
2007-10-10 15:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by *Dreamer* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time, don't hold back the tears. Cry in front of him. That will teach him a lesson better than anything else you can do. He needs to see that it hurts people when he says mean things.
2007-10-10 13:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by pisceswoman87 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Little kids say things they don't really mean deep down inside. Take it from someone living with a four-year-old. Small children have very basic emotions, so instead of saying "Mom, I don't like that you punish me/deny me something I want", he says "Mom, I don't love you".
First of all, he's probably trying to get a reaction, so don't give him one. Secondly, tell him that you don't like him saying that and suggest a more appropriate phrase to let him vent his displeasure.
2007-10-10 13:13:37 · answer #7 · answered by Cosmo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. He's 5 years old. The older he gets, the more he will realise he loves you. Anyway, people do tend to say things they don't mean.
2007-10-10 13:14:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids used to tell me that they hated me or didn't love me and I would retort with a "GOOD.....my work here is done." Then I just left the room. He's only 5....next year he might think you are his own personal super-hero.
2007-10-10 13:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by Grandma of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
little kids sont really know what they are saying, dont pay any attention to it its not intentional. I would just tell hime fine i dont love you either and when he sees how much it hurts him he may stop
2007-10-10 14:43:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋