would you be able to tolerate and date someone who has different beliefs than you?

Question

do you ask your date about their specific beliefs or non-beliefs on the first date? or when? does knowing your date's beliefs or lack of beliefs or animosity towards your beliefs drastically change your impression of that person or not? would you still continue to date that person even though your beliefs are very conflicting and cause arguments? why or why not? and if you have a significant other, do you both have different religions/different beliefs? do you think a Christian can get along with an Athiest and set aside their differences for the sake of love or is it a sin or against your beliefs to date that kind of person? explain your opinions.thanks.

Answer 1

Not only did I date him but I married him and it's been going great for just over 11 years...

We discussed our different belief systems from about the 2nd date on coming to an understanding that we didn't always agree but we could agree dos disagree..

We made sure to discuss and agree upon a set of guidelines in regards to future children etc... We have 3 children (2 I had before we got together and 1 we have together) we have always answered their questions regarding beliefs with "This is what mom believes, this is what dad believes, and other people believe in these other ways... You have to decide on your own what you believe and why you believe it."

Our different beliefs and perspectives have occassionally caused tension but more often than not they simply give us a wider view on any given issue...

I would hate being married to someone who didn't bring a different perspective to the table it would be boring...

Answer 2

That's a lot of questions.

When I met my husband, I was a non-religious theist (leaning towards Christianity, studying Buddhism, but missing Wicca, which HAD been my path), and he was an atheist. Now, I'm a Christian and he's a non-religious theist.

We get along fine. Of course, it's easy because we don't have kids yet. And I don't bring up my religion unless he does. Which he's started to do a LOT because of all the apologetics' books, science books, and books on various mythology I've got laying around.

Seriously, just within my line of sight I've got a book by Norman Geisler, two books on Egyptian mythology, two books by Richard Dawkins (Blind Watchmaker and God Delusion), a copy of the Koran, my NIV Bible, The Message, three different books by Lee Strobel, and a book by Josh McDowell. Got a good selection to choose from.

Answer 3

Been there, done that. In fact, all my life I've probably only dated two or three women who had the same religion as me.

No, I normally haven't had to ask about religion, because often times we both knew what each other was beforehand.

I've had a few long-term relationships with those of different religions. I think it can work, if religion simply never comes up in conversation, or if the religions are largely compatible. But if one party sincerely believes that the other is in danger (metaphysical or otherwise) due to their religion, it's not going to last long.

Answer 4

Yes - I even married him.

Why would you get into beliefs on the first date - first dates are to have fun and to casually see what a person is about. There is plenty of time to go deeper if one feels they want to see the person again.

Yes christians and atheists can get along when there is respect - after all, I an atheist, married a christian and we've been together 11 years total now - 8 of them married. He does not try to change me and nor do I try to change him. When you love someone you accept them for all that they are.

Answer 5

I'd never be able to date someone who has different beliefs.. nor would I want to date them. Religious beliefs are one of the first things I think about.. they can tell you a lot about a person.. (personality and mentality).

Answer 6

Their belief would not matter. Everybody gets to have their own. BUT - what WOULD be important - is their ability to tolerate and accept my beliefs. And, of course, I would tolerate and accept theirs.

This doesn't really apply to me - because I'm a Religious Scientist - and the man I've been living with for 10 years is too.

Answer 7

I can be friends with anyone... but I dated to find a husband with whom I could start a family.
I think you have to be very careful when raising children in a house with split beliefs. It's not as easy as it sounds to explain that to children.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Im fine with whatever religion they are, im fine if they are atheist.
But if we wind up marrying, I want my kids to be a part of my religion, not hers.

Answer 10

I personally did not and would NOT marry outside of my own faith because I believe that marriage in our Temple is very sacred and something to be treasured.. and people not of my faith (and not all of my faith) are allowed inside the Temple.