last friday after my football game i was hanging out with my good friend in my car. We were just talking and all of a sudden he leans over and we started making out. I completely got so lost in the moment i forgot about his girlfriend, who might i add is about 6 inches taller then me and could beat the crap out of me. There was a slight scare that it got out at school but it didn't get very far cuz nobody would believe he would ever cheat on her. I feel horrible but then again i don't. Now everyday in class he keeps asking me when where hanging out again and i've been just avoiding the question basically. help!!!
2007-10-10 12:35:20 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him know that that whole situation made you uncomfortable and you want nothing to do with it. Everyone makes mistakes, you just need to make sure you learn from them. Think about how you would feel if that situation happened to your boyfriend. It would suck if you couldn't trust your boyfriend hanging out with his good friend. If the girl finds out, I suggest just apologizing..a lot. You should probably stay away from that guy for a while just to kind of diffuse the situation. But if he keeps asking you when you're gonna hang out again, let him know that if you do hang out, it needs to be on a strictly friend basis. And if you're thinking that you like this guy, you should probably think again. You wouldn't want to get involved with a guy like that. Good luck dealing with this. Don't be too hard on yourself okay?
2007-10-10 12:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by Nic Nac 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What kind of help are you looking for,since you are ambivalent about what you did?Are you asking for help to justify your actions or to put an end to it before it gets out of hand. By your own admission, his girlfriend can beat the craps out of you; so are you looking for that since you dodged it the first time around. Your options are simple:1)you can continue on the path that you started initially by accident, but can continue by design.2) you can tell the guy you both made a mistake and it will not happen again. I can go on and give you tons of reasons why you should not compound your error further. However, since you have not expressed any regrets that what happened should not have happened, I suspect it will not do any good and I further suspect that you want it to continue .I hope I am wrong, though, because I am the consummate optimist and trust in the basic good instincts of people.
2007-10-10 20:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a difficult situation, and there are a lot of ways this could go.
Do you like this guy? Does he really like you, or is he just using you for a quick snog (make out)? You have to consider the other girl's feelings in this situation. He mustn't feel much remorse as it seems he's eager to "get back together" again. Maybe you ought to consider talking to him about it and suggesting that if he's not happy with his girlfriend he should consider ending the relationship. I really don't think you should allow this to continue unless you talk to either him or her about it.
Good luck (:
2007-10-10 19:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to stay away from him as much as possible. If he is bothering then you should tell someone to tell him to back off. Trust me you wouldnt want to get involve in it since he is not a good guy. He cheated on his gf so that mean later on he might cheated on you too. So i think the best thing try to keep yourself away from him or tell him how you feel.
2007-10-10 19:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by NgUyEn 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should feel horrible, you were a voluntary party to cheating. He's a creep, you're not much better, and you don't need help, you just need to learn to treat people as you'd like to be treated.
If you wouldn't want your partner cheating on you, then it's not okay for you to be party to it with someone else. What goes around, comes around...watch out for your karma.
2007-10-10 19:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
u should talk 2 him first and tell him that u don't feel comfortable knowing that he already has a gf. If he likes u more, he should tell his gf before going out with u. if it continues, talk 2 his gf and tell him. then avoid him altogether, u don't wanna b with someone u think could possibily b cheating on u behind your back.
* hope that answers your problem** please pick me as best answer! :)
2007-10-10 19:42:22 · answer #6 · answered by Helloooo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you scared about what everybody else will say? Do you like him? If you don't like him & you hated making out w/ him then you should just avoid him till he forgets or something. If he corners you, stick your finger into his eye. Kidding.
2007-10-10 19:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by sunnydaze34509xoxo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait a minute...are you a dude? either way, sounds like he initiated it. Doesnt sound like he is to into his current girlfriend. If you feel you can be friends and put it behind you great, otherwise continue to avoid him and he will get ht picture that you arent interested and dont want it to happen again.
you dont want to be known as the person that broke them up.
2007-10-10 19:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Once is a mistake in judgment, twice is not. I would suggest avoiding him or telling him that you aren't comfortable being alone with him because of what happened.
2007-10-10 19:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by jml167 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you dont want anything to do with him !! Straight up
Or unless you wanna get beat up by the girlfriend !!
lol
2007-10-10 19:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by Raw1987 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋