No hope left.. What do I do now?

Question

At 13 yrs old, these problems are probably nothing compared to what's out in the "real world", but the stress and pain keep piling up and I don't think I can handle this much longer. My parents are rarely home anymore, and being self-employees, often work well past midnight. I'm losing my friends year after year, and it seems like I'm always the one that doesn't fit in. I make tons of mistakes like normal people would, but they constantly get shoved in my face. The suicidal thoughts keep coming back no matter how hard I try to get my life back the way it was. My problem probably isn't big enough for other people to want to kill themselves over, but I'm not that strong, and I just want to give up and for it to end. I've been trying to take it a day at a time, pushing myself to make it through one more week, one more month, but after two years of this, it doesnt seem like there's much hope anymore.

Answer 1

dont kill yourself dont dont dont. talk to ur parents. or a school consular. it will help alot

Answer 2

There is always hope as long as you're still hanging on.
Believe me, it may seem impossible right now but it does get better (you just need patience).
If you focus on what's wrong right now, you can't see anything else. And that just makes it worse because you can't see the end. But there is an end (it may take a few years yet).

I know how hard it seems right now (I've been there myself), but trust me - the future is worth the pain right now.

You need to find someone you trust that you can talk to - a minister, a youth counsellor, an older friend or family member or someone. Maybe join an after-school club of some kind that is into something you're interested in.
Like an astronomy club - once you see the beauty of the universe personally, you'll feel totally different.

Remember that strength is a decision you can make every day. If you say to yourself "I am strong and will handle this" often enough, it will start to become real for you.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way! I know how it feels to be 13 and to feel lost in this world, like there's nothing to live for. I don't know what your problem is, but I do know that life is SO much more wonderful as you get older. You continue learning things about yourself as you grow and you'll find something you love about life! When you're in middle/high school you tend to get lost in the world of school and think that popularity and boyfriends are all there is. Just a hint from experience, the "popular" thing ends after high school, and nothing you did in middle or high school will ever matter again. You start a whole new life and you can still be whoever you want to be...at any age. Your problem is important now, absolutely...but it will just be a memory soon. Life isn't perfect, but there are so many wonderful things in this world! Try volunteering for the needy....seriously it'll make you feel good about yourself, and it'll help you remember that you have tons of reasons to be thankful! Hope this helped!

Answer 4

Being a teenager sucks for everyone. I'm 14, and I've gone through some of the same things. Any time you feel like you can't take it anymore, call your best friend or someone who makes you happy to remind you that there are good times, too, and that there are people who care about you. Try talking to your parents and see if you can set aside one day a week, or something, for you to spend time together. Also, you should try channeling your negative feelings into something positive; I find that sewing is very calming, and thet writing is an excellent way to express your emotions in a way that isn't harmful. What you don't want to do is things like cutting yourself or other self-harm; I've been down that road, and it just ends up making you feel worse.

Answer 5

Listen, I know what you're going through. I myself was just like you when I was your age. I lost Friends, over small things like soccer games, sports, or gender. I make lots of mistakes more than most people do also, There were moments where I wanted to disappear, Not exist, and I know what I'm about to say may sound like a bunch of phooey, but I swear, It's not...
I was able to pull through by doing three things... 1. Remains Optimistic, And looking at the positive things in my life...
2.Making Friends online, it may sound crazy but I was able to pull through thanks to some of my friends online, find people who like the same stuff you do, people who can understand you, (But stay away from anyone who is mean.)
3. Get help from a school counselor or a teacher.
And those are the three steps you should try to follow to live a happy life. Hope You Feel Better!

Answer 6

You need to find something to learn about, to do, to get involved in that matters to YOU. From this you'll get a reason to live, and to become something in this world.

Don't wait for someone to bring this to you, you'll need to go and find what it is yourself. The sooner the better.

People HAVE to have something meaningful in their lives that makes them feel useful, and IS useful, or they lose hope.

So go and find out what that thing is for you, and get into it. Helping animals, learning an instrument and playing in a band, helping people, learning spiritually, something. You know what your interests are, or at least have an idea, so explore them.

Don't give up, you sound like a really awesome, sensitive person who could bring a lot of good into the world. Don't base your self worth on others. If you have to be solitary and alone for a while, you can deal with that, just find what interests you, is meaningful, and go for it.

Answer 7

First thing, you seem very mature for your age. Your obviously intelligent.
Forget suicide. You have your whole life ahead of you. Its most likely your making a cry for attention, as your parents are largely not there. Why not try to negotiate with them a little? Ask them to make some time, a couple of times a week for some time with them. I would say something like "Cmon folks, im growing up and your missing out on it. If this keeps on, we are gonna be a family of strangers". Should make them think.
You seem to be very hard on yourself. But, your only 13! your going to make mistakes-everyone does. If someone comes back on you in future for any of these mistakes that you make, tell them to get lost. (If its a teacher or something, tell them that you would have expected better understanding from a trained adult). And as for friends, they come and go - especially when your young. But above all else, talk to your folks, use your voice, make them understand.

Answer 8

You sound pretty old for a 13 year old. But lets look at these things one at a time.

Your parents are rarely at home. Have you tried to talk with them about this. I know they are busy, but hey, I bet they love you and don't know how hard it is on you. Try going to work with them. If they won't listen. Talk with some one at school about your problem. I bet they can talk with them and make them listen.

Now your friends, At your age friends come and go. Probably the way you feel, your friends pick up on it. For one they don't know how to handle it, and two, you probably don't do the things that you use to do with them because you are depressed. Yes child I think you are.

You do not need to be on the Internet asking me or any of the other yahoos, you need to talk with someone close to you. Go to a teacher or one of your remaining friends mom or dad.

Find something to do after school that will occupy your time. Go volunteer for something. Go to the library and help there. But first of all talk with someone and tell them how you feel.

Good luck

Answer 9

i know what you mean. I went throught the same thing last year. then i got into high school and it just got worse. the suicidal thoughts race through your mind, but its not the right way to deal with things. Try talking to your parents or to some other adult you feel comfortable with. It will turn out to be the best thing. The friends that you lose apparently werent your friends at all. Join some clubs, etc. to get your mind off of things and to make friends who enjoy the same things you do. Music also really helped me vent. I would just sit in my room and listen to a variety of genres and let it all out. I hope i have helped you in some way. =]]]]

Answer 10

GET HELP!!! NOW!!! Depression is a very debilitating thing, and we can't always "fix" it, alone. Talk to someone, anyone. A guidance counselor, friend, someone at your church, or a trusted relative. Look in your local phone book for mental health help. Everyone needs to feel they have somewhere to turn. Tell your mom or dad how you have been feeling and maybe they will get some help for you. Even your family doctor is a great resource. Good luck, and God Bless You! I will keep you in my prayers. (I always tell myself, when I'm having a bad day, THIS TOO, WILL PASS. And it always does.) Also, I look around and see if I can do something for someone else. It makes me feel better. I have an elderly neighbor that I do things for, and she appreciates it so much. She can't do things that she could a few years ago, and it frustrates her. I try to help her out. Many times it is something as simple as taking out her trash, or helping to care for her cats. She is a good friend, and tries to repay me for doing things, but the feelings I get for helping her make me feel so good, if I took anything for helping it would make the feelings seem less good. Does that make sense to you? By helping someone who can't help themselves, I am helping myself. I hope you can find something that gives you that special feeling. There is nothing else like it. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 11

Went through the same thing most of my teens years , it is normal to feel a little depressed when you are that age. It sounds like you have self esteem issues. List your good points about yourself , is there anything you are good at? Developing a skill, however small is a good place to start. You are only 13, you have a lot to live for though you may not know it yet.
Also, it helps to talk these things through with someone you know. I know it may not seem very helpful, believe me it is.