I still like my girlfriend and i'd do anything to help it go back to how it was when we first started dating. But its been 8 months now and we've been through a couple of break ups and im tired of being sad and depressed and depending on her for my happiness. I feel like we need to break things off but i'm afraid of seeing her or hearing about her and another guy. I know im being a poon. What should i do? Move on? or continue trying to get things back to normal?
2007-10-10 12:29:24 · 22 answers · asked by Adam P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on. It 'aint easy (never is) but it is a sign of maturity to be able to walk away from a bad relationship.
2007-10-10 12:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by bulruq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being anything bad bro.
You're being human.
I dont know how long you two were together but its been 8 months.
Is she seeing other people?
You need to stop killing yourself.
Its more than possible that you might get back together and live happily ever after.
But, it might not ever happen.
I was with my ex for over four years. From age 18 to 22.
It hurt like hell when i would see or hear about her with others men. "Time heals all wounds"
You need to completely cut off communication, at least for awhile, so you can figure things out.
Believe me bro, I know it hurts, but its the best thing you can do.
As long as you keep talking to her and letting yourself get stringed along, the longer your going to hurt.
Right now you need to focus on you, not her or the relationship.
Get out with your friends, family, other women, whatever you have to to keep your mind off it.
Despite the outcome, I guaranty you'll be happy again.
BUT YOU NEED TO CUT OFF COMMUNICATON.
IF SOMEONE SAYS SHE SAW HER HER AND BLAH BLAH, DONT LISTEN
You might realize she isnt what you want. I did.
2007-10-10 19:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, if you even feel that you should break up then break up, you cant depend on anyone for YOUR OWN happiness. thats not healthy, 8 months is a short period of time, i think that if in this short amount of time and its making you crazy and feel depressed then imagen the mess you will be in years from now if you stay. all the heartache, stress, you can avoid if you break it off now.
but if you two really love eachother then maybe some couples thearpy would help.
2007-10-10 19:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by heartsik66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship can never be "like it used to be" or ever go "back to normal." I think once you realize this, you will know whether you can move on IN THE RELATIONSHIP or move on without her.
If your relationship is just in a bad spot, there are things you can do to make it BETTER. First step should be to talk it over with her very openly and you should have a better understanding of where you two are headed and need to end up.
2007-10-10 19:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by Space 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like things will go back to "normal" anytime soon. Break if off cleanly and move on with your life. You could tell your immediate circle of friends to never mention anything about her to you for a year (and then extend that if you feel you are still not ready to hear about it!). There's plenty of other cool girls out there. Chalk this one up to experience and move on.
my two cents.
2007-10-10 19:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by TeeK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my opinion if your jeolous seeing her with another guy then maybe you feel something for her. Try talking to her and tell her how you feel if you are not happy then move on and find someone else that will make you happy all of the time and not just sometimes good luck :)
2007-10-10 19:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by ♦♣♣! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look man you should never depend on anyone for happiness. if you dont think its goin to work out than end it you gotta make that call you know her better than we do. but if you do end it its going to hurt but after a while you will be back to normal and wonder why you put up with that **** for so long. Now its gonna hurt seeing her with someone else, she'll prolly find someone faster than you do thats just how women are. but i guran damn tee you that you will find a woman that will treat you right and respect and make you feel like man.
2007-10-10 19:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well relationships like that isn't stable and will hurt you more if you will continue it that way. If you really love the girl don't break up..learn to most of your fights and work it out more, have patience and understanding, relationships isn't made just by a snap of a hand it's a work in process.
2007-10-10 19:33:31 · answer #8 · answered by mela d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is not working then maybe you need to stay away from eachother for a while. Then if you want to try again, you can do it on new terms after you evaluate why it didn't work in the first place.
2007-10-10 19:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by ☆Zestee☆ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that you are young....move on! I know that is easy to say, but I look back at my younger days and there were so many times I needed someone to say move on...but nobody did and I had many months and years of settling for someone less than who I deserved
2007-10-10 19:32:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋