What happens if this guy tells you he loves you? Some of his words don't connect to his actions. But he tells me repeatedly there isn't any reason to lie to me. Should I still give a chance and see that his words might speak louder than actions? Or should it be equal, where words and actions show the same amount.
2007-10-10 12:22:55 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I read everyone answers and most of them are sufficient. The one thing I did leave out is that we work together and were very good friends for about 2 years now, through that period of time he start to gain feelings which I believe and he came out of the blue when he said he love me. He is very sensitive towards me, kind, patience, caring, and I a most of time laughing and smiling when were together. What I have been thinking is that he doesn't want me in on certain parts of his life. I am not going to front but through a period of time I gain feelings but I don't know what type. If I am really around him to be friends or more.
2007-10-10 12:53:40 · update #1
First decide if you are willing to risk your time wondering if he really means it... If it isn't worth your time to worry about it, it doesn't matter if he really means it or not.
Secondly, if you have to wonder, you've either been seriously burned in the past and you are just being cautious, or there is just something not right about the guy. If it's the latter, trust your gut and save your energy for someone who doesn't make you doubt his words and actions. If you are being overly cautious, step back and rethink why you are so worried about it; if you can't come up with a good reason, you might find that you were over reacting.
2007-10-10 12:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by philosolaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of things come to my mind, like how long have you known eachother? If its been a time then yes actions speak louder than words. I think actions are just as important as words. If he says he has no reason to lie, but lies then theres a big problem.
2007-10-10 12:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by Survivor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone truly loves you they will put your interest above their own. I had a relationship with someone for 9 years. We married and had children. He always told me he loved me but when push came to shove he had a real hard time with making our children and myself come first in his life. He was a nice guy and I'm not sure he's ever loved anyone as much as he loved me but the fact is he walked out on us because he said he didn't want all the responsibilities. He's been married three times since me and is on his fourth divorce. Be sure this person is everything you think he is or you could be left out in the cold trying to raise children on your own too. I still regret the fact that I didn't see his true colors before I had children. Don't get me wrong, I 'm very fortunate to have my sons but it was difficult for them not having a father.
2007-10-10 12:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know that I am not anyone to say anything about this, but her, I'm here to help. Lol. Okay, well, I thonk you shold hear him out. If he really does truley love you, you wouldn't wanna ruin your chances with him would you? If you're a little confused of how he shows his love, well then tell him your feelings. Tell him you want him to prove himself to you and that no matter what, you'll believe him. And, hey, I'm sure that you'll make the right choice. Just listen to your heart and soul. And do what you think is right.
2007-10-10 12:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by Laura M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Actions always speak volumes above words. My BF wont tell me he loves me as in is IN Love with me. He said he isnt ready to cross that line from loving me in "that special way" to in love. But it never fails, the things he does for me, and things he says sometimes shows me beyond a shadow of a doubt that he does really LOVE me.
2007-10-10 12:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by Kujo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
human beings continuously substitute in a courting. continuously. ideally, the alterations deliver them closer at the same time, yet each so often no longer. It looks like he has, for regardless of reason, replaced and moved faraway from the courting. He will possibly no longer even comprehend why it particularly is purely no longer there for him anymore. whilst he says he loves you yet isn't in love, he's saying that the romance and keenness is long gone for him, and he cares approximately you like a pal. even however you nevertheless love him, you are able to desire to % somebody who has as plenty hobby for you as you for them. If I have been you, i might bypass away him on my own. If he's having subject concerns finding out his thoughts, it is for him on my own to do. interior the intervening time, be open to finding somebody who loves you and is likewise "in love" with you. the two. You deserve it.
2017-01-03 10:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your intuition. It sounds very much like there are warning bells ringing in your mind.
He probably does believe he loves you. One thing to look out for is how he treats others. No bloke is perfect, but if he's only nice to you, and takes his parents and family for granted as an example then you'd probably be better investing your friendship elsewhere.
Above all let him be him and you be you
2007-10-10 12:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by d00ney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask Twenty Questions, like an interview, see if he sticks around for all of them, if he answers all of them whether you liked them or not, 'cause nobody's going to match up exactly, but if the majority of them match what you want, then go for it. No matter what you'll probably be safer, and don't ask all the questions at one time, but build rapport.
2007-10-10 12:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words. He may have a mental illness and can't show love the "normal" way.
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/borderline-personality-disorder.shtml
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/intermittent-explosive-disorder/DS00730
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/bipolar-disorder/complete-publication.shtml
2007-10-10 12:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by Serena 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kathy's right.
And unfortunately so is Mimik.
words consist of lies and truth. how are you to know what's lie and what's truth?
words can also say that he is the incredible hulk. now that's not true unless he acutally showed you that he has a green chest, can lift cars many times his weight, and his shirt rips when he's flexing. lol
actions are what matter. now i don't mean sexual intercourse. i mean, physical care for you. if he says i love you, tell him "prove it".
2007-10-10 12:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋