i cant make it to a wedding and feel bad. i am sending a card but dont know what to write. i would like to write something long as it looks like you mean it. lol so any help would be great. so ffar i have dear and thats it.
thanks
2007-10-10 12:11:49 · 11 answers · asked by goryrory1986 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Dear "X",
Thank you so much for thinking of me to share in your "big day"! I am so disappointed that I won't be able to make it. It would have meant a lot to me to share such a special time in your life with you in person, but I promise you will be in my thoughts! (If you know the groom add something like-- You and GROOM are so great together!) I wish you a world of happiness on your wedding day and every day after! (If you live nearby and know the couple closely-- I'd love to take you and GROOM out to dinner/have you over for dinner/go out for a drink) to celebrate in the coming weeks if you aren't too swamped with planning! :))
All the best/all my love--
YOU
(depending on your age and closeness with the couple, enclose a gift or give them a gift when you go out with them) Return the RSVP card promptly and send this card afterwards, a few days later.
2007-10-10 12:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I think the longer you make it, the more insincere it sounds, because it sounds like you're trying to make stuff up. Simply say that you regret you will not be able to attend the wedding due to whatever your reason is. Keep it short and sweet. I'd say something like this:
Dear Mary and John,
Thank you so much for the invitation to your upcoming wedding. While I would love to be able to share your special day with you, I won't be able to. I will be thinking of the 2 of you though, and know that my thoughts and prayers will be with both of you. Congratualations, and may you have a long and happy life together!
Love,
Me
2007-10-10 12:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you write, it sounds like you have good intentions. Just writing a bit in the card is sweet. Some people just send back the response card by checking the "unable to attend" line and that's it.
Just say that you are sincerely sorry that you'll be unable to attend for whatever reason. And that you'll be there in spirit and be thinking of the couple on their special day.
Very sweet and to the point is fine.
2007-10-10 13:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by BeverlyA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a real stickler because it really depends on how close it is to the wedding. If it is soon, it is likely they have already given a number to the caterers so they will have to pay for you (and a guest) for the dinner. That makes it harder for them to swallow. I hope you have a good excuse if that is the case. My dinner was $45/plate and it will be hard to forgive the coworker who did that to me because he never gave me a gift as well. I know it is not about the gifts (and I don't necessarily believe the old adage about "covering your plate"), but in this case you need to give a large gift as compensation. If it is early on and they probably haven't given the count yet, they will likely be disappointed but at least not financially burdened. Just be totally honest about why you can't come.
If you are really close to these people, you should make every effort to be there even if it is something like your significant other doesn't want to come. You should at least try to make the service and stay for the dinner, particularly if they already paid for you. If it is something big (like you are having surgery), they will understand. They will likely find out anyway, so be sure you tell the real reason. Things like that tend to get back to people.
2007-10-10 12:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by PixdeeArtist 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Long doesn't equal better or sincere in my book. If you can't make it, there's no need to elaborate to make it believable. That just makes it sound like you're trying to convince them you're not lying which always looks questionable.
Just write that you're sorry you can't make it. If you feel the need to explain why, keep it short and honest. You hope they have a wonderful day and a wonderful honeymoon. Congratulations or you're very happy for them or whatever and that you hope you can all see each other sometime soon. Love, Your Name.
2007-10-10 12:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jareth's Trousers 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give them the truth. "We would love to be there to
celebrate your special day with you, but unfortunately we
will be unable to attend. We will be thinking of you on that
day and wish you a lifetime of happiness." You could go into more detail, like the reason, if it's money, or a schedule conflict, or something, but it's not necessary to do that unless you want to.
2007-10-10 12:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by doodlebug 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you ought to pass with some thing humorous like: "of direction i'm going to be attending, whilst else might i'm getting an probability to tell an embarrassing tale approximately you in front of a vast team of folk?"
2016-10-06 11:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as i wish i could be with you to celebrate your marriage i am unable to.
my wish for you both is a life filled with happiness, love and devotion.
i hope you will be kind enough to send me a photograph of the two of you celebrating your new life together!
wishing you every possible happiness
much love
2007-10-10 12:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on your wedding day! May your life be filled with love and laughter.
2007-10-10 12:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the response card, just say that you will not be attending. Buy a greeting card to include your heartfelt wishes!
2007-10-10 12:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by booboo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋