recently my boyfriend dumped me for another girl and i was heartbroken. now a guy asked me out that i never liked in the first place and i said 'yes' mainly to show off to my ex. ok lets just say my new boyfriend reminds me of 50 cent, big black guy and im ciara more smaller and petite and HES JUST TOO BIG AND MANLY for me also perverted!!! im scared to break up with him because everyone at my school will start spreading rumors and we have only been dating for a day!! i dont have any feelings for him! i like someone else and that someone else likes me and this isnt working!ugh im so stressed! please help me!
by the way IM NOT GOOD at breaking up! :[[ how do you do it??? HELP! im in chaos!!
2007-10-10 12:03:33 · 35 answers · asked by Angiee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like a sweet girl who doesn't wanna hurt nobody's feelingz even tho you've been hurt.
Here's one piece of sound advice:
Dont EVER stay with some one to please others!!
(...aaaaaaand, DON'T date scary-lookin dudes, ESPECIALLY to get back at your ex!!)
People will spread rumors regardless, so, u gotta develope some tuff skin and do what u gotta do, girl!
Tell him u need to figure out some thangz in your life right now and a relationship only clouds your judgement about other aspects in your world... Don't be mean cuz, he soundz kinda crazy, but DO say it with URGENCY and act kinda looney, yourself just to scare him!! (hee, hee)
(Besides, it's only been 1 day, rite?)
... and then do this for your own sanity, NOT for the sake of others...
I wish u blessingz and a great outcome with your situation!!
Lemme kno how it turned out.
2007-10-10 12:06:37 · answer #1 · answered by BlakLuv_06!! 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Sounds like you're in high school and so that means that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks! You'll be leaving there soon enough and probably not see 99% of those people for years, if ever again. It was a bad move to agree to date this one guy just to get back at your ex. First of all, your ex probably doesn't care at all. Second of all, you're stringing your current "boyfriend" along and will end up just hurting him unless you want to be with him until he decides to dump you. Finally, you're unhappy and you're just trying to date as a popularity/social thing. You don't understand real relationships. You think you'll get back at your boyfriend but that's so immature. Just tell this new guy that you don't really feel ready for this relationship and need some single time because in reality, you need to grow up and figure out what you really want and play dating like this is not the way to do it. Forget what other people think and realize that there's more to life then "forcing" yourself to date someone.
2007-10-10 12:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by Rockit 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just give the guy a call and tell him your sorry but it's just too soon for you to be going out after breaking up with your ex. And hopefully he will understand. Just be polite.
Next who cares what anyone thinks it's just one day. Tell people you weren't thinking after your break up and realized you made a mistake.
Now wait and a little before jumping into another relationship. Use your head, leaping before you look as well as going out with someone to get back at your ex will backfire EVERY time....
2007-10-10 12:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 23:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, how much dating can you do in one day?
Also, if you like someone else, why didn't you just go and date that boy? You seem to incredibly shallow, and your best bet is to take on the rumors. There is so much of that stuff going on that by the weekend you will be stale news.
2007-10-10 12:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by cattbarf 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honey get ur pride and self esteem back and dump this dodo and forget about the other one. Let ur friends help u thru this and u will become a stronger person because of it. Let No Man bring u down to his level . U R a Woman and U R above this sort of stupidity. Most men r not worth our energy much less our tears. Get ur life back and b the woman that we all know u r.
2007-10-10 12:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by Nora G 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him what i did to my ex in your situation: "I'm in love with someone else and just can't see myself with you in any way". It wasn't easy, believe me. But i was glad when the other ex i'm in love with came back for good :)
Here's some advice: Once you break up with the perv, cut off all communication with him so that he knows you're leaving him for good and not coming back. Forget what everyone else says, it's your happiness that's at stake here and that's what matters
2007-10-10 12:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Lil love lady ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what you did was in fact use him to get back at your ex. Do the right thing, tell him it was a mistake and back off. Forget about other people and rumours - that will be a minor concern compared to the fall out if you continue in a relationship built upon an outright lie.
2007-10-10 12:07:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should tell the guy you're dating how you feel, and tell him nicely- just tell him that you dont have feelings for him, or hes just not your type, tell him that hes nice and its not that hes a bad guy and you still want to be friends, but you think you just werent meant to be. I know its hard, but you shouldnt be with him if you dont like him, get with someone that makes you happy
2007-10-10 12:10:47 · answer #9 · answered by Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call your new boyfriend on the phone and just break up with him...don't worry about people say...if you are not happy with the guy don't keep seeing him.
....if your new boyfriend asks why you are breaking up with him...just say you need to have time for you and for now you don't want to date....or say you need to concentrate on school work...
I know how you feel...after breaking up with a boyfriend...I really tried liking a guy....but didn't so after a couple of dates....stopped it....this is something funny for you...the guy I dated...his breath was so bad...I made him drink a strong mint flavored drink in hopes it would make his breath better...but nothing is going to help make yourself like someone....it is a attraction thing....it is either there or it isn't....
...so don't worry about guys for a while...you will meet another guy you like and just make sure he is a nice guy...don't waste your time on a guy who doesn't care about you...
2007-10-10 12:15:50 · answer #10 · answered by answergirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋