who pays for the wedding?

Question

the girl or the guy?

Answer 1

Its not old fashioned anymore. The two of you are getting married and your money is your money, by that I mean "our money" You both pay for the wedding!

Answer 2

Traditionally, the bride's parents pay. HOWEVER, most people these days combine funds from anyone that wants to pitch in.
My fiance and I are paying for half, my parents are picking up the other half.
Months after we got engaged, I spoke with my parents letting them know that I was starting to put together a budget for the wedding, and asked them "if and how much they would like to CONTRIBUTE." That's the key word.
Let them decide what's a comfortable number. My fiance then had the same conversation privately with his parents. They are picking up the rehearsal dinner tab and will pitch in if he asks for more, but I doubt he'll need to.
As for "the guy or the girl" paying, generally by the time you're engaged, i would think that your finances would be combined. So it'd be pretty hard to figured out who's paying for what.

Answer 3

"Traditionally", the bride's parents pay for the ceremony and reception while the groom's family pays for the rehearsal dinner. The groom covers his attendant's gifts, the officiant's fee, and the honeymoon. The bride pays for her attendant's gifts and I think transportation.

That said, hradly any wedding is paid for this way any more. Only 6% of wedding couples have their parents pay for the wedding. 27% pay for it all themselves, and the rest split the bill between the couple and their parents.

The best way to determine who pays what is to sit down with both sets of future in-laws, and discuss how much they are willing to give. You and your fiancee then determine how much you can contribute, and that is your wedding budget. It shouldn't be considered "bride vs. groom" paying the bill, because generally if you're going to be married you plan on having joint finances or already do. Usually it is said "the bridal couple gave this much ____ and their parents gave this much ______", not "the groom gave this much ____ and the bride gave this much____".

Answer 4

It's whatever works for the couple. Sometimes parents pitch in, but it's not a set-in-stone tradition anymore. If the couple pays for the wedding themselves, it's not the girl vs. the guy - it is both of them together.

Answer 5

Traditionally, the brides parents host the wedding (meaning they pay for it). They pay for the church, reception, dress, invites, photographs, flowers for all (except bridal bouquet), even travel expenses of the groom's family--if you're going the ultra traditional route. The groom's family hosts (and pays for) the brides bouquet, marriage licence, officiant fee, stuff like that. However, in today's econmonic environment, you'll see alot of brides and grooms simply paying for the entire wedding themselves, that way they don't have to adhere to any limitations put on them by family members. I've also seen weddings where parents of the bride and groom each kick in a certain amount, and the bride and groom come up with the rest. It honestly depends on each family's financial circumstances.

What you need to do, soon, is have a meeting with you, your fiance, and each set of parents. Decide if your parents would feel more comfortable meeting together or separately--since finances will be discussed, you may want to meet with each set of parents separately. Find out how much money, if any, each set of parents is willing to contribute towards wedding expenses. Then, figure out how much you and your fiance can contribute, and there's your total budget. Set your budget early, because otherwise it can completely get away from you.

Edit: What you also need to remember here, is that if each set of parents contributes to wedding expenses, etiquette dictates that they both be recongnized as hosts of the wedding. A good way to word the invitation is this:

Mr. and Mrs. (brides parents)
and
Mr. and Mrs. (grooms parents)
request the honor of your presense
at the marriage of their children

You can also do:
Together with their parents,
Mr. and Mrs. (brides)
and
Mr. and Mrs. (grooms)
Brides full name
and
Grooms full name
request the honor of your presense...

Good luck!

Answer 6

The two adults that are getting married pay for their own wedding... they can decide if they'd like to split the cost of how they'd prefer to work it out...but it falls on no one BUT the bride and groom

Answer 7

Weddings are expensive, I doubt just one person will pay for the whole thing. Unless you're marrying someone very rich (or you're rich yourself) probably both groom, bride, and their families will pitch in to help.

Answer 8

i grew up going to weddings where the brides's family request what they want for the bride n the wedding and the groom and his family pays for all of it.

I think it's best that the bride's family should pay for the dress, flowers and bridesmaid stuff. Groom's family pay for the tux/groomsmen tux and catering. ANd BOTH bride and groom should pay for the invites, reception, ceremony, and all the extras. i guess this all depends on who u marry

Answer 9

in the "olden days" it was the brides parents who paid for everything- BUT she didn't leave the parents home till she was married, nor did she have premarital sex or children out of marriage.
Now days, the cost is usually split between the groom and bride if they both have jobs, sometimes the parents of both will kick in some money to help. Congrats!

Answer 10

Depends on where you are, but in most cultures the brides family pays for the wedding and the grooms family pays for the rehearsal dinner.