part of me wants help, the other part doesnt want to at all and knows that if i do go to rehab or anything i would relapse again anyways.
I would go to rehab to at least try, but i'm fifteen, and my parents have no idea about it. If i told them it would ruin my life. They would hate me.
I want help, but i don't want my parents knowing.
My drug use started freshman year drinking, then i started smoking weed ocationally. My weed smoking increased to multiple times a day, then i started getting into other **** too.
To list some, ive done/still do extacy vicodin xanax, acid, ritalin, lsd, shrooms, coke, pcp, etc.
(never done crack or heroin, thank god)
I love doing them. My friends and i have a great time together. I love it. But since i am only a sophmore, i worry that later this year and next year, i might just keep getting worse.
I also feel like ive ****** up my life already, and stopping now wont change anything.
Ive lost everything that was once important to me.
2007-10-10
11:42:29
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ive lost many friends, my sports, my drive to do well in school. My goals, and my want to suceed in life.
now im just high a lot.
i know this may sound very confusing. I wasnt quite sure how to organize my feelings.
BUt basically the point of me being on here is to see if anyone has anyways to get help with out my parents knowing. Or if there isnt a way, i good way to talk to them.
Thanks ahead of time for helping. It means a lot to me!
2007-10-10
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update #1
GO TO REHAB!!! GET HELP!!! TALK TO SOMEBODY THAT CARES FOR YOU THEY CAN HELP YOU. YOU MIGHT DIE AT A EARLY AGE IF YOU KEEP THIS UP AND YOUR ONLY A SOPHOMORE IN HIGH SCHOOL. THATS BAD!!!! REALLY BAD!!!!
2007-10-10 11:45:38
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answered by Anonymous
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Looks like you are over the hump and 60% there. You admit you have a problem. Have a friend that we don't associate with anymore because he gets drunk and acts a fool. When you talked to him about his problem he said he didn't have a problem as there was a liquor store right down the road and another one the other way. Lost his family and everything.
Seems like you have understood that if you go on more it might mean not turning back and hurting the ones you love. You are mature which helps.
YOU have not hit rock bottom as you are not on the street sleeping and doing other stuff, so that's good. One thing I wish I had had was an expositors Bible that explianed it. Go to jsm.org or com Swaggart is selling expositoriy Bibles for $30 and they are over 2,500 pages, go figure.
Anyway you can mope and want people to fill sorry for you, but you know you got it made as you stated you have great parents and trust me no one can make the decision for you.
You''ll have to make changes and you will not like them and your friends now wil probably make fun of you, but you got to gut it out and if youfeel like doing it go to an AA or drug rehab meeting, but be careful as some of them there are there just to pick someone up. So go look in a mirror and begin liking yourself and remember you can be washed clean and no one is perfect today.
You may need a good vitamin and I suggest Natures Plus, independantly tested by neutral labs. I also suggest phosphatidylserine and B50 for your brain. Also do not get in a situation where it can happen, go to church group change friends, by you doing this you may save some others, never know what the "Big Man" does and way.
Anyway it's not the end of the world, but the start. Take care and everyone has advice, but deep down you already know what to do, so do it. Go get em Tigerette!
2007-10-10 12:07:16
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answered by R J 7
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Stopping now would change everything. Seize the day, make your life extraordinary. Drugs drapp people down in life. I have tried some, but when I tried them I said, that's that and never would do it again, I just did weed I guess. Anyway, quitting might be a challenge your body will go through withdrawl and you will feel sick. This is your body trying to get all the stuff out of your system and put your body back into a state that doesn't have drugs in it. You need to get help. Either help yourself, which may be more difficult than getting help. Telling your parents would be the best method. If they love you they would be very relieved that you told them. They will help you, that is what parent are for. Good luck I am rooting for you, you can do it!
2007-10-10 11:51:41
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answered by Anonymous
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Wow and you're 15...
Lets face it, you're into some serious drug use you're not going to just stop anytime soon. And if you try you'll probably fail which will then make the whole situation worse.
If you can go several days without doing any particular drug without feeling sick then you're not addicted which is a HUGE advantage. My advice would be to grow up and mature, take some responsibility for the decisions you've made. Continue to smoke weed and occasionally alcohol, the key is to do so RESPONSIBLY. Try to get away from the other stuff as much as possible, you don't need that **** and you can get just as high with pot without the need to mess with stuff that can actually kill you.
You have to learn to take control of your life, finish school and go to college. Just because you smoke pot and drink doesn't mean you don't have to finish school.
If you really want to turn things around you're going to have to find new friends. Obviously the crowd you are with now is responsible for your situation and they will continue to hold you back unless you leave them completely.
IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO TURN YOUR LIFE AROUND!
2007-10-10 11:56:31
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answered by Anonymous
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Let me correct you on a few statements you made here:
1- your parents will never hate you, they may be upset for a while about it but face it I am sure they already know something is wrong. Parents are funny that way, they deny it to themselves.
2- You need to want to help yourself instead of saying that you will go back to doing drugs anyway after rehab.
3- I know it is hard but you need to tell your parents as soon as possible, the first help you can get for yourself is a good solid support system, made of family and friends
4- That stuff gets expensive, try to not keep money on you and that may lessen your chances of getting drugs and using them.
5- Don't think your life is over because you are 15, it is never too late to get things straightened out. In a few years, you will look back on this and probably pat yourself on the back for waking up and recognizing your problem when you did.
2007-10-10 11:51:08
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answered by Settelbanat 4
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Yes, you have a drug problem. I did too, beginning when I was 16, back in 1973. My life has been pretty much wasted. I went into a 12 step program to get my life together. I am sober now. I hope you will get help. It is NOT too late.
Life is much better without drugs.
My nephew Josh is now sober for the last nine months. He is a very cool, hip guy with a long ponytail and he is in a rock band. He knows now how cool it is to be sober. Life is great! You need help to see it. I hope you will get help before you waste your life like I did.
But, even now, I am happy that I have quit drugs. It isn't too late for me either.
I hope you get off drugs and begin enjoying a good life. The sooner, the better.
2007-10-10 11:51:07
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answered by Alvin York 5
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I'm a recovering alcoholic. I've been sober for 10 1/2 months. I didn't even want to admit I was an alcoholic. My mom made me go to rehab (I was 33 and living with her when this happened) so I had to go or live on the streets. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. I did not want to get sober. I didn't think it would work because I loved to drink. LOVED to drink. But something happened when I was there (I was in for 4 months and 1 week) and now I can't imagine going back. It's not easy, and it takes a lot of courage, strength, and character to live a sober life. A LOT. If you feel like you'd want some help or just want to talk to someone to feel it out then call NA or AA. You can find it in the phone book. Someone can talk to you and they WILL NOT JUDGE YOU OR TELL YOUR PARENTS. If you feel you might want to go to rehab, someone can help you talk to your parents about it. There's no shame in being an addict or alcholic. The only shame is not getting help for it. It is a disease, but one that can be lived with gracefully. There is a better life for you out there, and you deserve the absolute best. Don't give up until the miracle happens!! Good luck and God bless you!
2007-10-10 11:50:26
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answered by tanam73 3
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Hey you really do need to get help now before it spirals out of control. You're instinct is telling you that if you keep going down this road you will be a hard core drug addict. The good things youve got going for you are that you haven't done crack or heroin (which are the two hardest to quit, especially heroin, statistically). If you don't get help you will get worse.
You're only a sophomore, your life isn't f----d up for good, I promise! You've only been doing it a year, and you still have at least 2 more years in HS to define that part of your life. You should tell your parents, they may freak at first but they'll be the first ones to help. The hardest part will be telling them...you'll feel relieved afterwards. Good Luck!
2007-10-10 11:53:26
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answered by Anonymous
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Hello Kathryn! I believe you know you need to stop doing what you're doing but don't know how! You're only 15 years old and you are ruining your own life by going on with this. Your parents will be shocked, but they will not hate you nor will it ruin your life. To the contrary I would think! I think they would be very proud of a daughter who could own up to something as large as this and ask for help. I know how difficult you think it's going to be to tell them but I have a suggestion for you.
Go to one of your guidance counselors or a favorite teacher at school and ask her/him to help you with this problem. After you're comfortable enough with that person have them invite your parents in for a talk so you can be supported when you tell them. I know you must be so scared your knees are knocking against one another right now!
Yes Kathryn, you have messed up your life thus far, but not enough to be unable to recover from. You are playing with dangerous drugs and it hardly matters that you haven't done crack or heroin. What you're taking is just as bad and as dangerous! What you are doing to your internal organs is horrific and the interaction of the drugs is lethal.
Saying that if you go to rehab you would relapse and go back to using is what they call STINKING THINKING in the N/A program! You're trying to defeat yourself before you even begin because you don't think you can stop! I'm here to tell you that you CAN & WILL stop! If you don't, you will continue to get worse and use more lethal drugs. Several of the things you're taking can kill you in one second if your chemical reaction is bad or if you do too much! You can't think about next week or next year. You must think about TODAY! It's all you have and all you'll ever have.
Stopping now will change EVERYTHING. You've lost everything that ever meant anything to you because of your drug use and abuse! You can feel better about stuff for a few hours or even a half a day when you're using but then what? It's fun when you're high, I KNOW that! But it's not fun anymore is it...because down deep you know! Now it's your choice Kathryn...it's all up to you! You can help end your life or you can begin life...free of drugs and not controlled by anything but your own mind, goodness and heart. You will have much help in de-tox, rehab and in the program. They understand what this is and will be there for you...but you have to make the commitment to LIVE...One Day At A Time!
2007-10-10 12:14:04
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answered by Chris B 7
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ok, lets start with the first paragraph. The part that say's "if i do go to rehab i would relapse anyway."
You already have it in your mind that you are going to relapse . So you are already admitting defeat before u even try. That's not cool.
Second paragraph,you say if you told your parents it would ruin your life. Can you begin to even imagine what your life will be like if you continue the path your on???
I wish you people would wake up and smell the coffee!!! You damn right it's goin to get worse!! Sure your life is fecked up but damn you can make it better.You stopping now will save your life. If you can't tell your parents than you need to get somebody that can sit them down and talk to them. To let them know their daughter has a terminal desease and if she don't get the help she needs she will die!!!
I hate to put it so bluntly but it's a fact. Please get the help you need before you are just another example of what drugs can and will do to young people. I will be praying real hard for you.
Take care hon, there are folks out here that care.
2007-10-10 13:28:19
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answered by Leneki 4
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look you really need to stop its fuc*ing rediculous what you take your going to kill yourself..And you no what happins when you do..And you have achieved nothing or only have drug fuc*ed friends...no1 will remember you you'll just be "that girl" and nobody wants that..I found my cousin one night when i was out...OD'd in a gutter dead..Ill never ever forget that night i wish he had the will power to quit..But no1 felt sorry for him cause he brought in on himself.
Imagin what you would do to your parents, if you Od'd and they didnt have a clue you were on drugs they would feel SO guilty for the rest of there lives and im sure you dont want to put that on them.
You may think you wont OD and that what your taking is fine..If you have that sence of morality then keep going.
Your killing yourself on the inside already, you have no drive all you do now is take drugs and that is not a life. You need help and you need it fast!
You should first start off seeing a counceller at a local help centre (there free) and just talk to them about your situation so atleast you can be talking to someone about your problem.
Look i dont no what you can say to your parents but all i no is im sure they would be more relieved of you getting help than not tell them and one day your dead.
I might be sounding rough but its the truth.
I wish you all the luck in the world
xo
2007-10-10 11:56:49
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answered by Anonymous
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