does this seem fair to you!!??

Question

i recently bought a compound bow at a yardsale, i have had a recurve, wich is not as powerful as a compound, i went to shoot the compound in my yard and my mom flipped, but my compound is the kind that you can adjust the power, so i lowered the power to that of the recurve before i shot it, my mom flipped and i cant shoot it anymore, and i always shot the recurve in my yard, i tried to explain it to her, but she wouldnt listen, what do i do? i paid for it, i should be able to keep it.

Answer 1

Fortunately, your mother is looking out for your safety (hard to believe) and the liability issues associated with discharging a weapon in town (if you do live in town). Unfortunately, it’s her house and her rules. In order to allow it back in your hands, show her that you are responsible and willing to take to right steps to prevent an accident. Take a hunter's safety course, start shooting at a range, tell her that you will set up a particular area for shooting the bow (if you live in the country) with a back drop (i.e. dirt pile, high density foam pads, etc...). Let her know that you are willing to go the extra mile for safety and she will hopefully respect that with some leniency.

If you bought the weapon with out her permission, you are out of luck my freind. You mother has the final say on what you shoot or don't shoot as long as you live under her roof. Abide by the rules and go the extra mile and hopefully all goes well.

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Never - "Dry fire your bow" or shoot it without an arrow. This will result in damage to your bow.

Never - Let anyone draw or shoot your bow if their draw length is longer than yours. Over drawing of the bow can cause cable damage.

Never - Draw, aim, or shoot your bow unless you are sure that the line of fire is clear. Remember, once an arrow is fired it cannot be recalled.

Never - Shoot an arrow that is less than five grains per pound. For example, an 80# bow requires a minimum of 400 grains of arrow weight. Less than five grains per pound of arrow weight simulates a dry fire effect and may damage your bow.

Never - Expose your bow to extreme heat. Excessive heat, such as your car on a hot day, could lead to limb failure.


Always- Check all of your arrow shafts and nocks upon removal from the target. Do not shoot any arrows that show defects or broken nocks.

Always- Carefully inspect your bow after each use. Be sure all screws are snug and accessories are tight. Inspect your string and cables for wear or damage.

Always- Draw your bow while pointing it at the target. A premature release of the arrow can be very dangerous. If you cannot draw your bow while pointing it at the target without excessive movement, lower the peak weight of your bow until you can draw smoothly and correctly. Over time you will build up strength, and will be able to return to the higher weight.

Always- Draw your bow with an arrow on the string while keeping it pointed in a safe direction. Never draw your bow with a release aid without an arrow. A release aid failure could result in the dry fire of your bow.

Always- Back your limb bolts off five full turns from the riser before putting it in a bow press.

Answer 2

Well, right or wrong, your mom is your mom and she has the right to tell you not to shoot your bow in the yard. I understand that you want to shoot it and it seems to you that it would be okay to do it in the yard if you shot the recurve in the yard before. Don't fight this fight with your mom because you will only make your situation worse. Try this, locate the closest archery range and talk to your mom about taking you there if you don't drive. If you do drive, invite her along and let her shoot the bow with you. You may end up with a partner who enjoys archery with you instead of fighting with you over it. Heck, if she really gets into it, you might find such things as a new bow under the Christmas tree. When a parent shares your interest, you win BIG time.

Answer 3

It's not unfair. Your mom has every right to say you can't shoot it in the yard, which is fine. I don't think you have to get rid of it though. You can look for another place to shoot it at. Or wait until she's calmed down and explain it to her in a calm manner. maybe showing her what you did and show her that it's the same as the recurve bow will help too. I have to do that with my mom all the time but once she's calmed down and actually takes the time to listen she changes her mind.

Answer 4

Go back to shooting the recurve if you still have it.** Keep the compound away for the day you can use it.* You did not mention what Lb the recurve bow is.** I am curious what pound is the recurve Bow?** If she still permits you to shoot the recurve in the yard shoot it.** How many pounds is the compound Bow?**

Answer 5

I paid for it so i should be able to keep it.

This logic alone tells me you're not mature, this isn't an insult, it's fact.

You live under your mothers roof, her house, her rules. When you are old enough to move out, then you are old enough to do what you want.

Did you even ask your mother if you could buy a new bow? That's probably the whole problem right there, not having permission to buy it.

My kids, both of them, shoot rifles with me at the rifle range, where it's safe to do so, if either one brought home a firearm that they either somehow bought, or traded something for, I'd have the same problem your mother has. Neither asked permission to buy it and keep it in my house. Maybe start showing your mother the respect she deserves and maybe she'll change her mind about the compound bow.

Answer 6

I have no idea how old you are but I get this nagging feeling that there is more to this "story" than you are telling us. Maybe your Mom is upset that you bought your Bow without talking about it with her first, and did it behind her back.Anyway..Turning it down isn't going to do squat to make it any safer.So that's not a solution at all. When I hear "I paid for it so I should be able to keep it." that is a BIG indicator that this is the TRUE problem here..

You are going to have to put in some time and research some websites on Archery safety to convince your Mom that you really want to do this as a hobby and to sell her on the "safety" idea..The WHOLE idea is to talk this over with her calmly and not let it turn into World War 3. You will lose every time.....Mom is God (Almost).Don't burn your bridges fighting a battle that you can't win here........Let the "storm" blow over for a few days.......

Answer 7

No thats not fair! I hate how parents never make sense!!!!!!!! I wonder why? When I'm a parent (which won't be for a while) I am going to make LOTS of sense. Sheesh parents are so weird sometimes. I'm sorry. Sisters can be a pain too (and brothers) I AM SO SORRY! That sucks!!!!! ADD: Btw DO NOT talk to a counselor! They could take you away from your parents! Hitting a child Is NOT abuse! Don't believe it is. BEATING a child IS abuse. hitting is not. Your dad is just mad. Let him cool down. My parents used to hit me with belts ONLY when I was bad though. I told the counselor and it almost ruined my family. They threatened to call the CPA and take me and my sisters away.

Answer 8

How old are you and where do you live. I would have to know the answer before I can make a decision. If you are 16 or so, then I would let you. But again, we live in the country and we are a family that hunts. To be honest you could do it a 10 or 12 in my house, but I would first work with you and see how responsible you were.

Hard question to answer without knowing you. Your mom may have her reasons. Especially if it is in town. Bows like bullets tend to go places that they aren't wanted and a person really needs to be careful.

Answer 9

OK so life isn't fair. I would ask your mom just why she objects to your shooting your bow. If it is the safety factor (probably is) then see what she would let you do (build a good back stop) to lessen the problem. If you show her you are willing to work with her on the problem and you understand her fears then it might change her mind.
But right now you are just whining and that is not going to help you at all. You need to act and talk mature so she will consider that you are old enough to be trusted with that weapon.
Sarge

Answer 10

Well, as a Mom myself I know that she is concerned for your safety as well as not getting sued by the neighbor for a weapon impaling itself in someone, something. BUT... If you truly want to try to pursuade her... Get some print out information from the computer that shows her what you're talking about between the two bows. That'll show one, that you are educated about the bow you are using and that you want her to feel educated herself so she knows the difference. Good Luck and DON'T shoot anything that moves!