-been good friends with a girl for a long time
-shes always been with guys that just didn't deserve her, did not treat her well
-finally started to get together and things were going great
-she says she wants to be with me and that would be the best thing, that would make her happiest
-Then says just doesn't want to be with me right now but in the future and hangs out with other guys
not sure what to make of this?
2007-10-10 10:35:06 · 21 answers · asked by BarryBadrinath 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1) you are her ideal guy
2) she isn't finished testing her experience with guys to make sure you are the right one
3) you will be there for her, so she doesn't feel she needs to get you before some other girl does
Why don't you hang out with other girls and date around? You deserve it! Show her you won't be her lap dog (even if you are willing to be).
2007-10-10 10:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl behaves in that way because she does not really feel mature, and she seems to prefer to indulge in confusive love simulations,
or because she really really wants to be seduced, conquered. Then she is the one that the guy, the ardent wooer, the lovesick lad really fiercely must fight for.
Out there in the world of wild beasts males fight against each other while females graze or rest apparently indifferently. Then the strongest male, the real winner, gets all the females for himself and for the moment he may more or less father all off-spring, while the losers must flee or step aside and wait for the day when the winner will have become less strong.
More or less unconsciously the girl wants the wild world, where the lad fights against all the other wooers, and so he wins her and kisses her passionately marrying her immediately.
An utmost civilized strategy by the lovesick lad, the one not interested in simulations, would be to respectfully go and ask the girl's father, or the girl's aunt, for the girl's hand, for permission to marry his beloved dream girl.
2007-10-10 11:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by pasquale garonfolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, it type of feels to me that interior the start, this woman is playing alongside with you. She would not yet understand in case you're boyfriend cloth or no longer, and decides to attend slightly formerly making a dedication. She probable replaced right into slightly uncomfortable with you telling her you beloved her formerly she made a determination, and panicked and tried to purchase a even as by utilizing joking round. In my ideas, i imagine that she determined that you've been a pal and all started texting you back, and also you adult men all started doing the pal stuff back. She's a lot extra in her convenience zone now, yet once you reported "I wanna be acquaintances too!" she felt like you've been giving up on her too quickly. i understand that you imagine you've been respecting her determination, yet she sounds like you threw away the courting too immediately and (even nonetheless she needs you to be her pal), in case you've been extreme, then you would possibly want to have tried slightly extra sturdy. She probable feels that she's no longer sturdy sufficient now because you gave up so immediately. i'd provide her slightly area, yet make it sparkling that you nevertheless like her and the in worry-free words reason you agreed you should nevertheless be acquaintances replaced into because you had to renowned her judgements, too. I wish you success!
2016-10-20 06:33:14 · answer #3 · answered by costarakis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably not ready for a committment- wants to party with other guys and stuff before settling down- also if ur the only guy that seems to show her respect she may not know how to react to that if she's been treated badly before by other guys (self-esteem issue possible)
2007-10-10 10:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by THOR, god of THUNDER 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are a nice guy, which makes you too available. Girls like the mysterious guys. You know. . . the ones you can never guess what they're going to do next. Get on with your life and make yourself busy and maybe she'll come running.
2007-10-10 10:40:53 · answer #5 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not mature enough yet to know what she wants. But it isn't fair that she should expect you to wait around for her until she is mature enough, as that might not happen for quite a long time.....not to mention what she might pick up from "hanging out" with a lot of other guys. You should move on, find someone that is good enough for you and knows it.
2007-10-10 10:39:25 · answer #6 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not ready. Take her word for it. How ever I'm betting if she saw another woman getting close to you she'd quickly change her mind. She knows she likes you that's obvious, she just doesn't know how much. You never know what you got till it's gone, right.
Good luck my friend.
2007-10-10 10:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by latinrock77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a problem ... she can't see herself being treated well. Some people can run away from good choices. She won't be happy with anyone until she works this through herself.
2007-10-10 10:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by conejito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what that's a good question cause I tend to be the same way I've come across 2 great guys and ended up leaving them which was dumb
2007-10-10 10:39:37 · answer #9 · answered by Tanisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your opening question: She says she's not ready because you're not that guy. She's choosing guys she feels she deserves.
2007-10-10 10:39:44 · answer #10 · answered by TweetyBird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋