Why does my 14 month old laugh at me when i disipline her?

Question

Everytime i tell my daughter "no" she laughs at me. She will hit me and i will grab her hand and tell her "that hurts mommy, dont hit" and she laughs and continues to hit, or do whatever shes not suppose to be doing. It gets me so angry that i cant control her. She used to listen so well, now everything is just a joke. What can i do???

Answer 1

because ur ugly

Answer 2

you at the instant are not employing discipline, you're employing very harsh punishment as a potential of manipulation. which will make her cry greater, no longer much less, and hitting her will coach her to be a bully. At 14 months a new child would not cry 'for no reason'. Any time she is crying, she desires a hug, and a few reassurance which you adore her and that this is okay to sense disenchanted. She needs to correctly known which you empathise together with her, and whilst she is specific of your love and help, you may according to probability help her be certain what's incorrect. i'm guessing she would not yet say very lots, yet she in all probability is familiar with maximum of what you assert, so she could desire to have the skill to enable you to comprehend what's incorrect. in case you communicate together with her then she will have the flexibility to learn that talk and communique are far greater effectual than crying. At a year old she's too youthful to be spoiled - she's on the age the place she is possibly to be very clingy and needy - that's an significant portion of her progression. in case you punish her for being a common toddler, you may desire to reason extreme developmental subject concerns.

Answer 3

Acording to Dr. Becky Baily, "Easy to Love difficult to discipline" she says that young children deal with fear by running away while laughing or look at it as a game. Its some kind of defense mechanism that ALL CHILDREN HAVE. In knowing this about children , we now know that they are not disrespecting us. My question to you would be, "Why is she hitting you?" and take it from there to help her or give her the words to problem solve. We have to remember that children misbehave because they don't know what to do. So as a rule of thumb we have to tell them what to do instead of telling her what not to do. When my 2 yr old hits me its because I took something away from her that I thought could hurt her. She doesn't understand this so she shows me her RAW AND TRUE TEMPERMENT (temperment is inborn and you cannot change it) You can help her deal with her emotiones by naming them ei. You're angry because I took the glass from you. The glass is not a toy. It can break and hurt you. Lets find something safe that you can play with. You can also let her know that its not ok to hit and that hitting hurts. I personally pretend to cry and my daughter comes to console me. Then I talk to her and help her problem solve. on the other hand if I get angry right away she takes it as a game.

Answer 4

" It gets me so angry that i cant control her" That's why, because she KNOWS she has control over the situation. Instead of grabbing her hands when she hits, put her in time out. Get to her level and TELL her why she is in time out. She should stay there for about a minute, when she comes out, get to her level again and remind her WHY she was there. Then ask for her to apologize for hurting you. You HAVE to be consistent, she is not going to change over night and will probably fight time out, but keep putting her there. Of course you are aware that she IS entering the terrible twos as well. This is when consistency and patience is Key.

Answer 5

She laughs because it's funny to get a reaction out of you. You may even look funny to her while you do it. Try to tone down the way you say no, while still staying firm.
Also, liven up the way you praise.
My son (13-mths) always used to throw his cup on the floor after each sip, even though I kept telling him to put it on the table. Then I realized the way I said no was so much livelier than the yes. So I started giving him a simple no and an excited "good job putting your cup on the table". It worked.

Answer 6

Check into "No More Hitting" by Dr. Maryln Appelbaum.

www.atiseminars.org

I picked up this book at a childcare conference recently and have found it very useful. :)

They actually have a whole line of fairly short and helpful guides for behavior issues.

Let me know if you need more information. :)

Answer 7

Show her you mean business, time out, corners, ect ect. and dont be lax about it. Dont let her get away with something 1 time, then punisher the next, mixed messages.

Good Luck

timeouts work well at that age, sitting still for that long is hard.

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Answer 8

Its probably your tone and or expression...

Are you saying ...''Ouuuuuwwww...that Huuuurts Mommeeeee...dont hit..."

Or are you saying "NO, That HURTS the MOMMY...DON"T HIT"

Tone and expression are 70% at least of the command....it you aren't selling it...they won't buy it.

My son does the same thing...and if I stand up and speak sternly...he stops whatever he's doing. If I say it normal or even slightly whiny...he laughs too.

Good Luck...be tough.

Answer 9

She's trying to exert her independence. Sometimes I think toddlers act that way because they can. Try to stay calm and give her no reaction with tone of voice or facial expression. If she thinks she can push your buttons she might continue to do so.

Answer 10

She probably thinks you're playing a game with her. Maybe it's in your tone of voice or your facial expressions. Try being more firm when you tell her "no".

Answer 11

This is about who's in control. Read, understand and follow two books. They will change first your behavior, then your daughter's:
http://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Love-Logic-Updated-Expanded/dp/1576839540/ref=pd_sim_b_1/103-0879624-6639864
http://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/0380811960