I think that he may be hinting, but me and my issues can't quite figure this one out. My boyfriend and I haven't gone down on each other...lately though, before we are about to have sex, he'll ask me "is there anything you'd like me to do?" to which I usually respond to by taking off my clothes and getting down to business, but I'm wondering now, in retrospect if I should be saying something more like, "yes! please before heading to the condom drawer just go down on me already!" Anyhow, I know he can't read my mind, but part of me is wondering if that's what he means, as he's not asked me to do the same to him yet. HELP! I'd love to be able to communicate better in bed with him, as I know we're compatible, but I'd like us to be able to turn each other on as much as possible. Thanks!
2007-10-10 09:34:54 · 12 answers · asked by UW_econ_chic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
put the condom under the pillow ahead of time. when you are ready to have sex, kiss him on the lips and neck, rip off his shirt and kiss his chest, then go down to unzip his pant. push him on to the bed. you unbutton your blouse a little and pull down your undergarments slightly, then you go down on him facing his feet, so your bottom is sitting on his face. he should take the hint. when need to go further, you just grab the condom under the pillow, so it won't disrupt the rhythm.
2007-10-10 09:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by Carborane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is from another universe, I think he would be more than happy to go down on you.
Most guys love to do that, of course, in most cases as long as she is “nice and clean” down there. There is nothing that can turn a guy off more than a very bad smell down there or a “nasty” look like you haven’t been on the shower for months.
If you go down on him, I think the most natural move for him would be to go down on you too, or maybe a 69, but it is all up to you guys. The best way to go on a sexual relation is to be honest and not to be afraid to ask and to give. At the end is all pleasure and fun, so what do you have to loose?
If he doesn’t like to do something, including going down on you, then he should tell you, same as you should tell him if there is something you don’t like, and even more if there is something you like. As you said, he can not read your mind.
And if you are afraid to ask directly, maybe you can tell him some hints, like “yes, I need a kiss on my lips… the other lips” or “there is something down here that is dying to get a kiss from you”. Be creative.
Good luck and have fun!
2007-10-10 16:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite possibly he's testing the waters so to speak. Next time he asks "is there anything you'd like me to do?" do both of you a favor and tell him the truth! Or better yet, show him. The ability to communicate should apply to both in and out of bed. Good luck and have fun!
2007-10-10 16:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by mummy heffalump 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try food. Whiped cream is good, but cherrys are great. If that doesen't work try asking it in a conversation but be a little hintful with your words. And if that dosen't work 69 always does.
2007-10-10 16:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by Hakim B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to tell them what you want..
I'm blessed with multiple orgasms, Jason is good for one--
I explained to him what we needed to do..--made sure he got something in return...
Most of the time, he goes down on me till I'm almost done, I get on top, until I am done, and he is close, I go down on him till he is done..
Lori , our girlfriend likes to be on the bottom, but it's about the same otherwise....
2007-10-10 16:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he wants to hear you ask for it....He is probably shy and thinks you may not want him to do it ...So,I know its difficult and awkward but I would just say ":yeah i want you to put your face between my legs" and make sure you ask him "is there anything i can do for you" Make him say it too
Or you just start going down on him and ask him how he likes what you are doing and then say I would love for you to try the same on me..... But you just have to say it or just do it....
NEXT challenge will probably be showing him how to do it just right.....:-)
2007-10-10 16:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by kakeydec 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is what he is hinting about! Just come to bed naked (after a shower is best) and put it in his face! WE LOVE IT!
Good Luck, remember COMMUNICATION is the best sexual tool!
2007-10-10 16:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him in a sexy voice you want him to go down on you.........another thing your telling me that you guys dont communicate when having s.e.x. How does that work?
2007-10-10 16:41:11 · answer #8 · answered by Max™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how about you play a game with it. play DARE no truth... or you could play COPYCAT. whatever you do he does. where you're asking him but you don't really ask him. whenever you don't know how to ask your boy something just find a game that helps you say it. i do that with my girl it's fun and sexy. she gets turned on everytime.
2007-10-10 16:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by mixed_brother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to stop the awkwardness, you know what you want tell him. Be creative and suprise him, and hopefully he'll suprise you. Its a fun thing get pleased, and it is also fun to please someone else.
2007-10-10 16:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by robert c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋