I'm 15 and the other day my dad told me that my grandad might have lung cancer but it isn't for deffiante!
i wasn't really affected at first jus shocked witht the news.
the next day i got a text of my step-dad saying i'm sorry to hear about your grandad and i was in the middle of class n i burst into tears.
we have a big family and it is often rare we spend time together however we still remain very close.
i'm still very upset about the situation.
Is it normal to react the same way that i did?
2007-10-10 08:49:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
very normal for feelings to come up at different times. people process feelings in different ways. it's ok.
2007-10-10 08:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by Sufi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal to react like this. Anytime you hear a family member has any type of cancer there is always a shock, tears, denial and alot of love and heartache.. Your emotions will be there alot until you know what is going on.. Do not let yourself get to upset.. just know that the word MIGHT is a big word.. Your granddad MIGHT have but he MIGHT not have lung cancer... so pray a lot and hope that the MIGHT not is what actually happens.. I hope this helps..
Also if you need to talk to your dad.. Let him know your feelings. that is very important.. Keep open lines with your family members.
If you need someone that knows please email me.. I lost my granddad over twenty years ago to cancer.. Now days there is so much better treatment and diagnosing is so much better.
2007-10-10 10:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by ldyjsmyn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly normal. I think your step father should have called you in person rather than sending you a text message because it obviously upset you during school hours. It's never too late to start spending more time together as a family. I hope your grandfather receives the treatment and support he needs.
2007-10-10 09:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You'll find yourself reacting at odd times. It's really kind of part of the grieving process. I hope your granddad is going to be alright. Even if he does have cancer, there are many kinds of things that can be done these days. Meanwhile, spend as much time with him as possible. You'll look back on all the times you got to spend with him for the rest of your life. Make the most of the time you have with him.
2007-10-10 08:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kay3535 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with how you reacted. Everyone reacts to these sort of things in very different ways. You may find that you will continue to have all sorts of reactions to this type of news and each of those reactions will have their own value.
Keep your head high.
2007-10-10 08:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by forlotsadaisies 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Sometimes bad news just hits you. You can bottle it up when you feel the emotion coming but when something unexpected happens it can throw you for a loop. You acted very normally for a girl your age.
2007-10-10 08:53:48 · answer #6 · answered by Colonel Obvious AM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. Everyone deals with things differently. I'm sorry to hear about your grandad...just spend time with him and make some good memories.
2007-10-10 08:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is very normal. I'm glad that you cried because most girls i know try to hide this stuff and bottle it up and let it eat them up inside. I'm not saying go and tell the world about your grand dad just maybe you need to confide in your BEST most TRUSTWORTHY friend and see what they say. It'll bring you comfort.
2007-10-10 08:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is your grandpa, I did the same thing when my grandpa got sick it was probably harder to see my mom be so sad then it was to watch him pass into a better place. Just always remember that he will be going to a better place in the end. God Bless!
2007-10-10 08:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, its ok. its someone u love and someone thats apart of ur family. everyone cries about things like that all the time. the only way ur gonna get better is just letting ur feelings out.
2007-10-10 08:53:27 · answer #10 · answered by lala 16 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋