Q about 3 somes, need mainly male input...?

Question

From beginning...we have been together 4 1/2 years we have two small children together. I am 22, he is 25. We love each other very much, although we do have a somewhat rocky relationship. We spend alot of time together and we tend to bicker alot about small things. I have alot of trust issues stemming from an affair he had while i was pregnant with our first. He was talking to her and hanging out with her behind my back, but swears they only slept together once when he ended up at her place after a night at the bar. These trust issues have gotten alot better since it happened a year and half ago. We worked through it mainly because we were having a baby, but also because we loved each other and he knew he had made a big mistake. Since then, we have been getting better, raising our daughter together and moving on with life. He and I have an amazing sex life. We have sex nearly every night and it is always extremely satisfying for both. We're both very sexual people and like 2 experiment

Last year we discussed being intimate with other people together, like other couples, swinging and such. He introduced the idea but i was interested. we made a profile on adultfriendfinder and ended up meeting with 2 couples one a few times the other only once. we had alot of fun together in doing so. About a month or 2 into it i discovered i was pregnant again and we stopped playing abruptly. throughout my pregnancy, we only discussed it a few times, mainly to say to each other, do you think we will ever try that stuff again in the future? Well i am getting closer to my due date and recently i brought it up when we were fooling around, only i started talking about just bringing another girl to bed with us. i brought it up because i am turned on my ffm 3somes in movies and such and i know it is a fantasy of his as well. Lets say he liked that i brought it up. the sex was fabulous that night, even better than usual and we have been talking about it alot in bed for the past week,

it is really doing alot for both of us. Now for my question, i am slightly scared to dwelve into this. I want to do it because it would really be fulfilling a fantasy for me, and him too - but i dont want to do it at the cost of our relationship, and I am scared that with the rockiness of our relationship (the fact that we dont always get along) combined with his history of cheating might lead me to deep waters. I am afraid being with another girl will ignite his hunger iof being with other people and he may experiment without me. He says why would i ever cheat when i know you will do this stuff with me? but I still worry. What is your take on all of this? Guys especially?

His affair occured at a time when we were having alot of trouble in our relationship and before we had children and became engaged. I had alot of trust issues for awhile afterwards but as i said we worked through it at the time, i included it because i thought it would be relevant to what i am asking. I am expecting his baby, obviously. we used protection when we were experimenting together.

Answer 1

Your worried about infidelity and you participate in or want to participate in threesomes? Whatever trouble results from all this, you're equally to blame. If you are doing this because he cheated on you and you think this is a solution, you're deluding yourself.

While not impossible, few couples survive these types of relationships, especially when children are involved.

If you live in debauchery, you can expect disaster.

Answer 2

hey, I was only on here for fun and found this question by accident lol, anyway I have a profile on adultfriendfinder "nickbequick" have a mooch, anyway I am moving abroad in next few years and did not want a girl to ruin stuff for me like they have in the past so I started dating couples on AdultFF now i found all couples were very close, closer than a "normal" relationship, I would say if this is your fantasy also then go for it, and if at a later date you want to try mmf and he is up for that, then you have a great relationship in the making, if one the other hand he is doing it just to pleasure himself then things are different, good luck p.s I love pregnant girls also :-)

Answer 3

To be honest anytime you start to experiment with additional people in your relationship there is always the chance for both of you to find someone else more interesting. That is the chance you take for this kind of play. The one way I know to combat this is to be really open with each other and discuss everything including setting up ground rules for what is ok and not ok during the play session. You are brave I wish you the best of luck in this arena - I was not very good at it and stopped doing it because it brought up to many issues of jealousy and distrust.

Answer 4

You can kiss your relationship goodbye...good chance he will want to have sex with the other woman when you are not there...and lets say that doesn't happen...what is going to happen when you say you would like to have another male in the threesome...do you think he is going to be up for that...even if he is...can you say that you won't want to have sex with the guy behind your partners back...as i said you can kiss your relationship goodbye...it takes very special people to get into threesomes...you also haven't thought about what you are going to do when the threesomes get boring (that's assuming you make it through the threesomes)...you say you have been together four and a half years...well trust me you haven't even scrapped the surface of what you can do sexually without risking your relationship

Answer 5

Considering your past with this young man, I feel you are treading into some rocky waters girlfriend.

What would stop him from screwing girl #2 on the side? Nothing! Because nothing stopped him before.
Please be careful.
The odds are not in your favour, this usually only works for couples with a very DEEP commitment to eachother, with NO trust issues and who've been together for a LONG time.

Answer 6

this have been known to break strong relationships up and then again bring them together how are you going to feel when your husband is having sex with another girl in front of you and then you see hes enjoying it, that could bring the feelin that hes cheating and what if you dont like it as much as you thought you would and he loves it and doesnt wanna stop, bringing in a third party to the relationship can be tricky you just have to make up your mind and hope it works for the best

Answer 7

You guys have been with another couple, and now your concerned about a three-some. You don't have to be concerned if you are the one that sets up the encounter. You used the web the first time, use it again. There are women out there that want to be the third person, so you make the selection,. set up the hotel, and go for it.

Answer 8

I wish my wife was like you!!

Seriously if you guys can do this with each other then I don't think he'll cheat. Why go behind your back when he can do it front of you???

Answer 9

I can never understanad swinging because it seems to course far more problems than it solves.

Answer 10

i think it would be good cuz you have boyh had lots of fun already and this is something you want that he wont say no to and all you have done already you 'll be fine
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