I think of him in moments of loniless, and loss. The what ifs plague me, and it's been nearly 10 years! I'm curious to know what other people have done.
2007-10-10 08:32:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What if's do nothing, you have to focus on the what is..and that is it's 10 years later.
At some point you have to let it go.
In your mind you imagine he's out there, available, looking for you maybe? Truth is 99.9% of stories don't work like that and he's probably long forgotten or just moved on, especially after 10 years. It only works like that in movies and books. If it were meant to be with him then you would be with him. Move on and don't let this be a burden on your life any longer.
If you can't seem to move on, then save up the dough, do some detective work at on ussearch.com or another people search site, take a trip and see where they, if they are married ect and put your mind at ease. Sometimes seeing that someone is not what you imagined, puts it all back in perspective, such as the one I wondered about and saw a few years later who was easily 100lbs heavier and missing 3 teeth and smoked.
2007-10-10 08:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Dude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a ex that I use to feel that way for. What you need to remember is why you two are not together any more. Most of the time there is some thing that was not good that happened between two people that makes them break up. Also think about the good things in your life that you might not have gotten to experience if you two were still together. And also remember that you think of him when you are lonely. Do you have some one new in your life? If so just remember how that person treats you and how happy you are. Also on the same note. If you are not with any one, are you happy now? I wish you the best of luck and remember it is normal to think about a ex but just make sure it does not turn into a obsession. Which this does not sound like that is the case. Focus on the good stuff in your life.
2007-10-10 08:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly_2blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are "what ifs" in every choice; but the reality is that if you'd stayed with this guy, you'd probably be sick of him by now. He's human. But it's easy and comforting to fantasize that there's someone out there that was "perfect" and that's what this guy does for you.
You think about him during your "down" times because those feelings and that fantasy make you feel better. The negative is that you compare him to your real relationships, and consider him an alternative -- if only you could have him back.
Having someone to fantasize about is healthy. Loving someone is great. But try to keep your head in what's happening now. The "one that got away" isn't real.
2007-10-10 08:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by . 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
there is no quick fix! you have to move on though, I know that! 10 yrs is a long time, I hope you haven't waisted that amount of time waiting on him... you know what? if you know where he is & have the oportunity to give him a call... then why not? he may not have thought about you the same over the years, but you can be sure he's thought about you! Nothing ventured, Nothing gained!!!
2007-10-10 08:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably can't , completely anyway.
Find some one who will take your mind off the memory.
You might try to find out something about him. He may have turned into a "rat" by now.
2007-10-10 08:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by Fred F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg, I'm still dealing with it. Wondering if he think about me? I text he almost everyday.. And nothing, I guess you have to take it one day at a time, And hope one day you can find someone almost closet to the person you lost...
2007-10-10 09:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by moody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've met someone and I've put all my energy into our relationship. Sure sometimes I wonder about him but it's very rare and mostly only when I happen to see him about town.
2007-10-10 08:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is what it is. sweetie if you find a 'magic' trick, concoction, pill, dairy dust, please let me know. i'd like to buy stock in it.
ya know i feel like shaking him too. with my hands around his neck!!!!
www.loveshack.org try visiting it's good to get another point of view
2007-10-10 08:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by mauikittie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋