A guy I was dating for 2 months broke up with me because "he wasn't feeling it" for a long-term relationship. However, he won't stop calling and texting me, but makes no arrangements for us to hang out. What's going on? How should I handle?
2007-10-10 08:22:56 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Note that I took the "break up" very well, but asked for some space.
2007-10-10 08:24:45 · update #1
He's playing games - keeping you on the hook for when he can't find another date. It is kinda funny but it was an old Supreme's hit a long long time ago. "You don't want me for yourself but you won't let me love someone else", or something like that.
I had the same problem with a guy long before my husband. He told me he did not want anything to do with me but kept pestering me. He would even complain to mutual friends why wasn't I talking to him and how wounded he was.
I told him point blank you said you didn't want anything to do with me, that was your choice now you need to live with it. I got on with my life. His went in the dumper, just so you know. Mine went on to a wonderful husband and beautiful brilliant children.
2007-10-10 08:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe that's the truth. Maybe he wasn't ready for a relationship at the time and just wanting to get to know you for the time being.
See, this also happened to me. About 2 years ago I met a boy (that I was TOTALLY crushing for) and he asked me out. Needless to say, we went out and then broke up for the same reason you're claiming. After that we kept talking after a little break (just for the sake of pushing off all awkwardness) and about 2 months later he asked me out. Now, we have been together for almost 2 years and still VERY happy.
Try it out if you like him..who knows.
ashummz05@yahoo.com
2007-10-10 08:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by Oops, did I say that? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should ignore his calls and texts for a couple weeks. He broke up with you and probably wonders why you aren't fighting harder to get him back. Male egos are prone to poke at the ex to make sure she still wants him... it makes him feel good to see a girl he's hurt will still take him back. I'm not saying you should be mean to him... I think that you need to see it as irrelevant. If he calls you and you happen to find the time to talk to him, answer one out of 5 calls for a couple minutes. Make sure you focus on doing your thing because that's EXACTLY what he was doing when he broke up with you. Be fun, be cool, but don't put too much effort into this guy. If he wants you back, he needs to realize that you aren't someone he can just drop and pick back up whenever he "feels like it".
2007-10-10 08:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by Kristen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's super common when one or even both people want to connect after a break up. But not all couple can work out as friends. think of where you were before the relationship. Maybe he want to go back to what you had. Or is regretting loosing what he now found out he was taking advantage of. you're bOtH going to have to get over what you had together before you can move forward in whatever direction you're going to take.
I recently broke up with my boyfriend, we weren't friends before the relationship, but get along great now.
2007-10-10 08:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by Valerie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously he feels like he made a mistake for breaking it off with you im going thru something similar.. it may be that he's not ready for a relationship, but at the same he wants to keep you close..... i know because me and my boyfriend of 4 years broke up about a month ago and he's still calling me......
2007-10-10 08:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Chocolate_Kissez 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him!, always go to the source in matters like this.
Go to him and ask why are you Calling me.Maybe he saw you
as a friend and wasn't Romantically inclined.If you want a friend go for it ,if you don't want a friend have him move on.
I bet you can use a friend.Most of us can.Friends are hard to find.
2007-10-10 08:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible he missed the attention and is looking back because there is something he misses about you. It's easier to look back then to move forward. I would ask him to be very clear about his intentions, tell him how you felt about his initial rejection towards you and if you aren't satisfied with his intentions, let him go but be firm about it. Good luck to you.
2007-10-10 08:28:25 · answer #7 · answered by chaddermx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like he still wishes 2 be friends, but not on a bf/gf type relationship.
2007-10-10 08:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by drillsgt77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not i know how men and boys work he sounds like a little boy to me who cant keep his winky in his pants, i bet you he wants to just have sex with you, dont even dare because your only hurting yourself in the end and your gonna give him what he wants..Even if he hasnt told you trust me you should get the clue, i say ignore him he isnt worth your time, *** HIM.
2007-10-10 08:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by Ari 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore or respond to the text messages.
It is not a big deal. Just continue to move on and find
a new boyfriend.
2007-10-10 08:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by georgia_peach 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋