In a relationsip why is it that when a woman holds out on sex the guy isnt interested in the woman anymore? Are ALL men like this or just most men? I have been dating this guy for almost two months now I like him and he likes me, but I have told him Im not ready for sex. For men sex is just physical, but for a woman its physical and its emotional. Once a woman has sex with a guy she is in some way emotionally attached to him. WHY dont men understand that? Im not ready to be emotionally attached like that. Sex is so private and intimate so its not just physical for women. Is it POSSIBLE to date a guy and NOT have sex for the first several months? Or not? I would love to hear some men's opinions!
2007-10-10 07:55:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry about the question title...I meant answers not questions.
2007-10-10 07:58:08 · update #1
Is it possible? Sure.
That guy has got to be out there somewhere for you.
Are they in abundance?
Hell no.
We as men are sexual beings because it has been ingrained in us over thousands of years as a means to further the species.
With that said, there are men out there who, if you are up front with them, will likely be able to wait it out.
Good luck.
P.S. Feel free to send the check along when you get a free moment.
2007-10-10 08:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by spamovision 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a good question. I think that not all men are the same. Some guys will do and say whatever it takes to get a girl into sack. There are also guys who will have an expectation of sex, but will not do or say anything just to get to that point. There are also guys who become emotionally attached as well after sex, as you've described for yourself. Guys are people, and all people are different, which means all guys are different.
It sounds like you really know what you are looking for in a relationship, if you continue coming across guys who don't meet your expectations, then either keep looking, or bend your rules. I would be weary of bending your rules though. It's good to know what you want, and to stick by it.
Two things to think about: Be careful of becoming convinced that all guys are the same, it's simply not true, and you don't want to miss out something good. and 2: don't be afraid to take the risk of becoming attached... if that is your main reason for not having sex... no need to rush into it, but if and when it feels right, don't let that fear keep you from growing closer to someone.
2007-10-10 15:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by blujello 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First several months??? Are you insane, woman?
If you don't feel like you want to have sex with him after the first month of dating (I'm talking about feeling like it, not actually doing it), then you're not dating the right guy.
It's not just a physical thing with guys. It's emotional too.
If a woman was dating me for that long and not having sex with me, I wouldn't exactly be feeling like the most loved guy on the planet.
Guys struggle just as much as, if not more than, women do to find someone to fall in love with. And with that comes an emotional AND physical responsibility.
You love him? Either make him understand your side of it or prove it already.
2007-10-10 15:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by Paul V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately that is how a lot of men are wired. To Think with the wrong head. But if you want someone in your life that is going to have your interst first , stick to your rules. If a guy can't handle this then you need to move on. He is not the person for you. A man who wants to know you will stick around. There is someone out there that is willing to get to know you for you and not what is between your legs. God gives a women a six sense use it!!!
2007-10-10 15:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand you. I'm a virgin an i'm waitin for my cinderella(its taking forever). (Answer in the order asked) Most men tend to rush in relationships an they tend to think with there johnson rather than there brains so there just lookin for somethin to f^ck an if they get a i'm not ready for sex spiel they generally start to give up an look for some who will have sex. Secondly most men are like this even me, sometimes i get urges ,but i wanna impress god so the urge dies down. Thirdly men arnt as sexually mature as females so they generally don't understand an plus their d^ck is tellin them to do it an we listen to that voice a lot cause it feels good. Fourthly yes it is possible to date a man without having sex those men are primarily christian men who are living to serve god( you can find em in church). If he can't understand that your not ready for sex leave him its plenty of fish in the sea. You should go for a man thats gonna stand by your decision an respect u for that decison. Thats why theres so much divorce cause of premarital sex. An just talk to him about it an tell him how you truly feel about sex. Good luck an happy huntin!
2007-10-10 15:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by On a mission 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind waiting. I just haven't dated a woman that would wait several months. The longest I've waited was a month. So yes, it is possible to find a guy who's willing to wait and considers sex as special as you do.
2007-10-10 15:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by Don 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possable, ask the guy about his morals before you start dating him...I think younger men are in a rush, older men know the deal and are willing to wait.
2007-10-10 15:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by dheck03 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, it is possible. its tough especially today cuz sex is almost expected in a relationship. sex changes everything, i say u keep him waiting. the chase is half the fun. but dont hold out too long, it might backfire.
2007-10-10 15:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all men are pigs take me for example lol
but seriously use that against him it work on me with my gurl she held otu for 2 weeks adn when finally did have sex I was the most thankful man on earth
2007-10-10 15:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by T-Rich 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ak, just have some fun. Life is too short for all that emotion cr@p!
2007-10-10 15:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by Bronson 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋