I have known my bf for 1.5years. After eight month I started to feel we are not made for each others.l He has all the qualities I want in a guy but at most of times I don't feel connected to him at all ad ask myself why am i with him. After 1 year in the relationship when things were thrifing anyway. I got to know this guy and we became friends. He just got out of bad relationship of 3 years and his gf left him. With time we came close and felt connected but he was afraid to have a relationship and kept changing his mind and in process I was hurt now he is back and want to be in serious relationship. I about to marry my ex bf even through no date fixed but we talking about it this year. I don't know what to do? I have known other guy for about 7 or 8 months but we never met in person. No he is not some crazy guy out there before you say that.
2007-10-10 07:38:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One guy who loves me but I'm not connected to him. Another guy I will never forgive for the way he made me cry for him
2007-10-10 07:41:02 · update #1
after 8 months he is coming to meet me
2007-10-10 07:46:25 · update #2
If you have any doubts about marriage, you should wait.
If you have nay doubts about bf being the one.. you should wait.
if you have any hope that your other friend may be something more in the future, you should be cautious and explore that friendship.
Never happen into a relationship, because it is available to you, and for God sakes don't marry someone just because you were asked.
Go explore the world, when the right guy comes along, you won't have any doubts, you will know.
You should never live your life wondering what could have been especially when you are young enuff to go live it.
2007-10-10 07:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is about commitment. In all relationships no matter how perfect you are going to have times when you aren't 100% in love all the time. That is what marriage is about. If you are not sure you are ready to commit to a person for a lifetime then don't. It is the biggest decision you can make in your life. You want to marry someone not that you will be in love with forever, because that doesn't happen, you want to marry someone who is your best friend, who you'll always be committed to and who you love enough to stick by even when things are not so great.
2007-10-10 07:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by amandajeanus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your number one problem is that you are doing something behind your boyfriends back. If you are willing to talk to another guy then you should not be in that relationship. Just break it off before you get married and it costs you much more to break it off. And, as for this other guy...people are completely different in person, you need to meet him( IN A GROUP SETTING!!!!) and find out if it is the same..more than likely it wont. But even if you don't like this new guy, break it off with the other one asap!
2007-10-10 07:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by anon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you still have doubts. If that is the case, do not get married. The worst thing is to marry because you have been together for a long time and you are both comfortable.. and really not in love. You will know it in your gut when you have the right guy.
2007-10-10 07:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by Marv S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your just nervous of the fact that your going to marry this guy and your just not ready.. talk to him before you do anything *but if you seriously dont feel ready then tell him your not ready for such a commitment*
and for the other guy just keep him as a good friend kinda like brother=)
2007-10-10 07:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you need to distance yourself from both guys and figure out what you need. I don't think it would be a good idea to break it off with your fiance just to date the other guy. You probably need time on your own for now.
2007-10-10 07:43:02 · answer #6 · answered by annamolly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should always marry the guy u understand and the man that loves u not the 1 u love cuz the 1 u love might just take u for granted but the one that loves u will love u forever!!!!!!!
2007-10-10 07:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You marry the guy you promised to marry. You don't even know the other guy. You've never met him. You have no idea if he's really the person he pretends to be.
2007-10-10 07:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call it quits for both of them. You are a fantastic person. You deserve to be loved and cherished. You don't have to put up with other guys baggage and crap. Go find a new guy who will cherish you. Good luck
2007-10-10 07:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem like your heart is in the relationship with your bf. Might be time to call it quits.
2007-10-10 07:41:12 · answer #10 · answered by jellybean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋