what to do when kids want something and you do not want to buy ?

Question

when my self and my 4 year old kid go for shopping he always
want some thing and if i did not buy he cried to much what to do?

Answer 1

Don't buy it and remove the child from the store as soon as he begins causing a scene. You are teaching him that he can either a) have whatever he wants, or b) if he cries hard enough, you will give it to him even if you say no initially. Be consistent and do what you say!

Answer 2

Don't buy the item. if they are not going to behave in a good manner then they don't deserve the thing in the first place.

You have to teach consequences. Tell them their behavior is the reason they did not get the item they wanted.

Tell them that if they are able to behave in an acceptable manner, (yes, 4 year olds can understand this) for such a such time, say, 2 days, then you will consider providing them with a gift... but it may not be what they want.

You have to teach a child that they can't always get what they want, but that good brings forth good. Life is definitely not fair, and we all know this, so it is good to teach your child to learn to deal with disappointments. It is much better than the permissiveness that has been brought into the foreground with political correctness. Not all kids should make the team.

Answer 3

You have to be in control. He is 4 years old, and you are the adult. If he starts to throw a tantrum, leave the groceries there and take him out to the car. Don't try to reason with him too much- 4 year olds have a very limited concept of nutrition and money, so don't try to make an argument for your case by going, "I don't have the money to buy those right now," or "that's not good for you to eat," because he just won't get it. I would suggest that you try to leave him with a relative, trusted friend, or neighbor when you go to the store, whenever possible. If he doesn't SEE the candy, sugary cereal, etc., he won't WANT it. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

I always told my daughter exactly what was expected of her before we entered a store. I would say something like, " We're just running in. I need to get this and this. We will not have time today to look at toys but if you are a good girl and listen to mommy, maybe later we can do this or that?" If she was exceptional, would tell her how well she did and that since she was such a good girl, i would get her something.
I would also tell her exactly what would happen if she did not behave which was leaving the store immediately and she could forget about playing with her friend that evening. She tried me maybe three times by throwing a tantrum, but I did exactly as I said and took her out (kicking & screaming) but it worked

Answer 5

When my 4 year old has the gimmies I say no not today and if that doesn't work and a tantrum breaks out I give her a warning that we are going to leave the store and go back home with no treat after dinner if that doesn't work I take her, leave the cart where it is and leave the store with a screaming kid, if you give in he will figure that will work next time. Just gotta stick to your guns, when my 4 year old is calmed down and i sit and explain things to her in the car like what she did wrong and what will happen to her if it happens again we go back in to the store to finish my shopping.

Answer 6

Just say "no". Let him cry. It might annoy everyone around you but if you pay him no attention he'll realize it's not working and stop...or try something else. I always told mine to stop after a few minutes of crying or else we'd be making a trip to the bathroom for "a talk". Of course it wasn't to do much talking as it was to spank them.
They have to learn they can't have everything they want. Do you get everything you want? Would throwing a tantrum help you get it? A four year old is old enough to learn to control himself, but if you keep giving in he will never get it and you will most likely go broke. Remember you are supposed to be smarter than the kid here, lol.

Answer 7

Have a talk with your child before you go to the store and explain that you will not be buying him anything. If he makes a fuss leave the store immediately, and tell him you will not take him with you until he learns to control himself. Then really don't take him with you several times and have a great time shopping, and be happy about your trips. He will eventually want to go again with you, but make sure you return home immediately if he starts to whine for something. You have to be strict and consistent, and he will learn. This worked with our three year old, and now we have very pleasant shopping trips.

Answer 8

Let him cry. Take him outside if he gets really loud. Whatever you d just don't buy it for him, you'll just spoil him. No parent in the store is going to think anything weird is going on when you take a screaming crying child out of the store.

Answer 9

Your the parent....tell him "Sorry, not today" then stick to your guns. He will learn to appreciate what he actually does get. If he starts to cry...let him. He'll stop sooner or later and then he still won't have what he originally wanted. If you buy him everything he wants, there will never be an end to it. Put limits on it now.

Answer 10

If the child asks for some sort of candy or sugary cereal or soda go ahead and buy a large package of it. Then, when you get home, make the child eat the entire large package in one sitting, while you watch him to make sure he doesn't skimp out. Make sure he/she eats EVERYTHING. See if the little bastard asks for candy again.