Why can't I get over him?

Question

I broke up with my bf 3 months ago because he's an alcoholic and other issues. We are both 36. I've been checking his myspace page out and I'm still friends with his friends. I can see that he's still on his downward spiral. His quote is about drinking so much liquor to a point to feel no feelings anymore. His newest pics show him drunk on a camping trip (he even put that in his caption) and with drinks in hand on a recent trip to Mexico. He's made a new "friend" who is 28 and also looks to be a drunk (every pic of her she has a drink in her hand or cases of beer stacked up)

I left him. Why do I still care for him and his well being? I know this is his problem, not mine. Yes, I know I shouldn't look at his myspace page. His friends are heavy drinkers too. They enable each other. Why do I care? I know his drinking is going to kill him soon enough.

Answer 1

It's only been 3 months since you broke up. That's not really enough time to get over someone. Give it more time, but if you continue to obsess over him, such as checking out his myspace daily, he will only be in your thoughts. My thinking is, you are just being a caring person, worrying about a loved one's health and well-being. However, he's already 36 and should have a sense of responsibility. He will probably never stop his ways if he hangs out with the same bad crowd (i.e. bad influence) everyday of his life. He may need professional help if he's willing to change. The best thing you can do is to NOT get back with him. Stay away from these people if they are, in some way, encouraging you to go down the same path. It's hard to believe this now, but you'll see there are other (better) men to be in love with. Good luck!

Answer 2

Because you're still trying to be a friend to him.
From what I can tell, you've tried doing your best to get through to him to help him with his problems. His lack of response and your breaking up with him conclude that you're both done with each other as lovers.
He's on a DFA trip (Desperate For Attention) and you were one of the many unfortunate roadkill in his path.
You've done what you can do. Live your own lives now.
If and when he will ever be ready to talk to you, he will.. just make sure he does it sober, to keep it from going bad to worse.

Answer 3

if you were not able to help him when you were together then sad to say there's nothing you can do now especially if most of the people around him now are also into what he's into. send him a message i guess. it won't do a thing but at least you know you tried.