How can I deal with my depressive feelings?

Question

I'm 31, divorced with a 7 yrs old son who is very disruptive in school, and doesn't get along properly with his classmates. I just moved to this city a year ago, and nobody from my family lives here. I feel in love with a guy I know since I was 12, but he lives in US (I'm in Mexico), and we "started" a relationship in sep 21, but I obviously feel this is not a real relation, but I do love him. He can't live in Mexico 'cause he is divorced too and his daugther lives in US, I can't go there 'cause I don't have money to get a visa. I have a good work, but I'm earnig less than the last year, and my expenses are the same, so I barely have money to afford them. Besides my son attendes the same school where I work, and I feel very stressed with all the complains that I've got from his teachers, and I fear to lose my job because of it (I lost my previous job because of that). I know that I'm young, even pretty and intelligent, but emotionally I'm awfully wrong. And this has been since I was 15

Answer 1

CALL YOUR LOCAL MENTAL HEATH FACILITY AND OR PROGRAM. THEY WILL HAVE INFO OF WHAT YOUR CHOICES COULD BE. i WORK IN A INPATIENT FACILITY AND THAT IS WHERE ALL SHOULD START. TALK TO YOUR PCP AND SEE WHAT THEY THINK TOO.

Answer 2

I dont understand why dear that he cant send you the money to come to the USA? I mean women import men from other countries to the USA by helping them financially all the time.
If you are emotionally wrong then you should figure out why, maybe you suffered some abuse during childhood,or in a previous relationship>? Having a firm beleif is what gets many people by, Im muslim so praying always helps me feel better, and also understanding (beleiving) that God tests those who he loves, and the ones who are patient and perservere will get an unimaginable reward b/c only God knows how hard it is to be patient in such situations!!Having a good friend to talk to always helps as well-but remember even if you have a good man that wont make you bettter (emotionally) only you can do that- Best wishes-
Also*exercise* ALWAYS helps to releive stress somehow!
By the way if your son is very disruptive then there must be a reason for this, if you are displaying a bad temper at home then even that could be responsible for his behaviour, if not then you need to get to the root of this and help him out of the behaviour B4 he becomes one angry adult! Best Wishes

Answer 3

I think you really need to work on yourself emotionally, like go to counseling or something. Your son is acting out in school because he's picking up on your unhappy feelings at home. He's probably hurting a lot from the divorce too. Perhaps you and your son could do counseling together. If you have insurance it can be pretty affordable.

Maybe you should move somewhere where you can relax a little bit? Move in w/ some family until you get back on your feet? If you find time for yourself and are relaxed, everything else will fall into place.

Answer 4

You have a lot going on, so first recognize that your unhappiness is a normal response to what you have described as your life. If you were happy about a;; this , then you might be crazy. BUT if you were crazy you wouldn't know it. The first thing to do is list out all the ways to describe crazy behavior. In English you have nuts, bonkers, off the wall. not laying with full deck, and on and on. The only one I know of in Spanish is loco, but there must be more. Hopefully you will find this little exercise somewhat amusing. If so, then you have just given yourself a very very short break.
There is no easy or universal answer to helping you get rid of all the stuff that is making you unhappy. However, laughter. either yours, or making someone laugh is a pretty universal way to reduce , ever so slightly, your reaction to all that stuff.

Answer 5

Take a deep breath and relax. You need to love your self befor you can love any one else. As for your job take a look around if you think your going to get fired start looking for a new one. And always remember if you think positive, positive things will come if you think negative, negative things will come. It's proven. Read the book "The Sceret" and that will help plenty. And spend more time with your son. Im not a professional just my own advice.
Hope i helped.....

Answer 6

first off, you need to find out WHY your son is misbehaving. He obviously has some issues. It seems to me that you need to focus your energy less on your need for love, but investing it in your son and your career. Woman, build yourself, that means, getting a grip, gaining confidence and integrity and helping your son deal with the changes. Imagine, you are affected by the move, what about your 7 year old son??

Answer 7

in all probability gonna get thumbs down for this (I hate the persons in this website..) yet attempt weed. it may desire to reason hallucinations in large doses and could extremely be a psychedelic journey. you additionally can attempt large doses of mellatonin in the previous you bypass to be while you're searching for strange/vibrant desires. while you're searching for euphoria then yeah weed can doubtlessly create that yet greater effectual yet you may attempt tramadol and get hooked on that :) properly ok don't get hooked on it of course even even though it extremely could reason euphoria with none undesirable outcomes after the drug leaves your equipment. i do no longer comprehend something approximately ambien so can no longer extremely say something there.. Tramadol could desire to no longer be the terrific while you're companies to habit even although this is extremely an option that could doubtlessly be probability loose as long as you dont use too lots (stay is particularly).. Weed is in all probability the greater effectual suggestion here because of the fact I honestly have heard of people coping with their additions by employing smoking weed and that's much greater probability loose than tramadol and non addictive.. of direction you may desire to attempt taking some gabba for an extremely person-friendly all organic intense.. i think of this is reliable that your ativan use is proscribed by employing a physician even even though it may desire to be an thought to tell him you're getting somewhat addicted and spot what he says. you additionally can attempt time-honored antidepressants.

Answer 8

Do something nice for someone else such as offering your time and attention as in charity work. Make sure to attend church, surround yourself with loving friends and family members, and pray every night to your Bible for guidance from God...He will take you places you have never been to before!!

ps...tithing (10%) of your money to charities also helps...cheer up...i feel your pain:)

Answer 9

Yoga.

Answer 10

anything that keeps you busy brings comfort and relieves stress..