What would you do if your best friend ( who is a gay guy ) asks you if you would be a surrogate mother for him and he's domestic partner of 10 years?
2007-10-10 06:51:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is my best friend, who would do anything for me, who is always there for me whenever I need him, in good times and bad. I would do almost anything for him, almost anything. And yes Paul, I am aware of my catholic virtues and the doctrine of moral principles that is why it’s so difficult to decide.
2007-10-10 12:17:38 · update #1
Girl, what is your boyfriend going to say? You know he is already jealous about your relationship with this "gay guy" all together. Besides, it can be very expensive to have a baby, not only the doctor visits, but also the daily vitamins, the special foods that you have to eat, plus you will need a new wardrobe, as your body will be bigger than the side of a barn. My question is who will the father be? Gay Man 1 or Gay Man 2? In addition, how will this happen, through the normal way ( sex ) or artificially? Auwe, au ole hilahila? Opala Haole Kanaka, Pilau!
Come on people convince my friend that she cannot do this!
2007-10-10 07:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly IF I could have children (ive been fixed and to high risk to carry another I have 2 of my own) YES I'd do it. Wouldnt think twice about it in fact a gay couple deserves children too. However if your not comfortable doing it dont I think the only problem I'd have would be handing the child over. A friend of mine did this and she said through the entire pregnancy she just kept reminding herself anytime she felt the baby "this isnt my child" she said the look on her friends face (no they were not gay) brought her so much joy. She is still in the little boys life and when the boy is old enough they plan on telling him what a wonderful thing my friend did
2007-10-10 07:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I cannot be asked to be a surrogate mother because I am a guy...but if I was in your position I would say no. Mainly because I do not agree with the lifestyle nor do I believe in raising a child in that lifestyle. It has nothing to do with hating anyone, just not liking the choice they made. I have always said hate the sin not the sinner. Even if he was a good friend, I would say no.
2007-10-10 12:10:04 · answer #3 · answered by bobbo342 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
E Nei, auole pilikia! Girl, what will everyone say? Why would you do this for Jordan ? He's gay, how will the child be raised? This is not right, the child will be confused as he will have two dads? Will you tell the child how he came to be? Will you be his "aunty" until he is older? How will you handle this emotionally? I know he is your best friend but you should think about it, it's a life time commitment..... Why don't he adopt? Is it because he cannot because of his sexual preference? Well too bad! Maybe there is a reason why the agency will not let Gay People adopt. Think about it. E Nei, auole auole auole pilikia, auwe, auole hilahila? Haole Opala!
2007-10-10 08:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by surfagirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't do it. I'm a guy.
But seriously, according to church teachings, gay couples are living in a state of sin, and it would also be sinful to bring a baby into the world outside of marriage. So if you're a God-fearing person, I recommend you don't do it.
If you're not a God-fearing person, well others have waxed eloquently about how hard it is for a mother to separate from her baby after 9 months of carrying it to term. She'd be within her moral and legal rights not only to keep the baby, but also to demand child support payments from the father until the child is over 16 years of age. And if you're thinking of mixing the sperm from both guys, there's still DNA testing to tell which one fathered the child.
My recommendation is: don't do it.
2007-10-10 11:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by dweebken 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others. You need to realize all you'd be putting yourself through and that you would be giving up a baby and all rights to the child (regardless of what they said). Going through a pregnancy is a big thing and long process not just in time but emotionally and spiritually. I would just encourage them to look into adopting.
2007-10-10 06:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have children of your own are you married? If you have no ties to anyone at the moment and emotionally you can handle it, do it. I have 2 children of my own and after my 2nd child they told me no more...it was horrible but my BF has no children and wants 1. And my cousin said she would be surrogate for me! It's a privilege to give someone that gift and you will feel so good about yourself!
2007-10-10 07:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would think about it. Weight the pros and cons...and think real hard if I would want to have a baby inside for 9 months, bond with the baby, learn to love it, and then have to give it up after going through all the pain of giving birth to it.
2007-10-10 06:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by Betty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats for you to answer only.. we dont know the details of you or your relationship.
i wouldnt want to give birth to a child that is going to get taken away from me! to heck with that. have you ever had a child before?? do u know how your body changes when you're pregnant? do u know how attached a mother can be to a child!?!?! u need to do some research!!
2007-10-10 06:55:55 · answer #9 · answered by *DiZzLe* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Say No. You'd be giving away your baby. You would not have any legal right to any decisions involving that child.
2007-10-10 06:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋