Asking Bridesmaids & Maid Of Honor to be in wedding?

Question

Who did you ask? Why? How did you keep the peace with people who wanted to be in the wedding but were not asked? Or others (say parents, aunts, uncles) who were displeased with the people you did ask?
Just wondering how other folks have handled this headache.

I'll add this - I have 1 sis, he has 2. Original thought was to have the 3 and be done with it. Problem is I don't want my sister. We're not close, we really don't get along well, she is immature, irresponsible, unreliable, & untrustworthy.
I am inclined to choose a cousin who I am very close to or a girlfriend that I am not as close to instead of my sis. The girlfiend choice only ticks off my sis and my mom - which I could care less. The cousin choice sets off a firestorm in the family of 'why that one' and not any others. But I'm closer to the cousin.

Answer 1

My MOH- my sister and only sister
Bridesmaid #1 Sister in law for over 4 years
Bridesmaid #2 Friends since gradeschool but dont talk as much now
Bridesmaid#3 Sister in law since June of this year
Flower girls (i have 2) They are bridesmaid #2's neices and they call me auntie also because Ive known them all their life.

Its simple I just stated only family. Even though #2 is not "family" she practicly is because we were raised together

Answer 2

Well I started with siblings. I have 1 younger sister and I discussed this w/ my mom first because my sister is only 15 and cant pay for all MOH things on her own. So after that I asked my sister to be my Maid of Honor b/c she is my only sister and we are very close. Then as fas as bridesmaids I asked one close cousin and A special girlfriend of mine. I tried to keep in mind...this is my special day and I want to look back and know I made the right decision.
All these people will still be there in 10 yrs down the road.

You can't worry about EVERYBODY else! You will make yourself nuts! I suggest people you are very close with and special friends!!!

GOOD LUCK

Answer 3

I emailed my sister, his sister, my Best Friend from grade school (maidron of honor), my Best friend from college (maide of honor), and my two teenage cousin's that I promised they could be in my wedding as Junior Brides Maides (since they never had a chance to be a flower girl growing up) They are 16 and 19, a little old for junior bridesmaides- but what the heck it's our wedding. One will be giving out bubbles to our guests, the other will help us with the roses for our moms.

I sent one email to them all - explaining why I want them in the wedding - they all said yes and are excited and willing to help.

Good luck! I had no problems. Nobody in our families are butting in. It's hard to get an honest opionion.

Answer 4

I asked my best friend and my daughter. However, I have a lot of sisters, and my husband has several female relatives. I explained very nicely to everyone that I wanted a small wedding party, and I chose based on the fact that I did not want to specifically leave out any family members. For the most part, people understood.

Answer 5

Both my family and my fiance's family are HUGE! so we asked the people that mean the most to us for our maid of honor and best man, then i had his 2 sisters and my baby cousin and he is having his 3 cousins that we are the closest too. We did what WE wanted to, his one aunt wanted her son in the wedding, but we arent as close with him and we wanted it to me this way! do what you want, no matter what everyone will get over it in the long run and you will have a fantastic wedding with the people that you want! Congrats and good luck!!!

Answer 6

I had my 3 sisters and 2 best girl friends....there was supposed to be a 3rd, but she took herself out after the rumors she was spreading came out. People didn't really comment on my choices, but if they had my simple response would be that it is my wedding and I can choose who I want. Those who wanted to be in the wedding just had to understand that there is only money and room for so many people, and they did.

Answer 7

We wanted our attendants to be those people who support us and who we were closest to.
My MOH was my very close friend of almost 10 years, my bridesmaids were a good friend I worked with, a cousin, and a niece.
I had three older married sisters - one was the Mistress of Ceremonies for the reception, one gave the toast to the bride and groom, and one sat at the guest book.

Answer 8

My MoH is my best friend. We are extremly close and she has saved my life, as I have hers. My other bridesmaids are my good friend that I have been through alot with, my sister, and my hunny's daughter. No one has wanted to be there that I havn't asked. I know that my mother hates that I asked my sister last, but we aren't close and she just wasnt the most important person for me to be there. I just tell my mother that it's my wedding and if she wants to get married agai then she can ask my sister and not me. (very distant family, if you couldn't tell lol)

Answer 9

I asked my sister to be MOH and the following to be bridesmaids:
-My best friend since Kindergarten
-His sister
-My 2 best friends from high school
-My 2 best friends from college

I have one girl who thinks she is going to be in the wedding cause she asked me to be in hers. Don't ask them. It is their fault for assuming they would be in it. If they give you a hard time, tell them you could only have a certain umber. make them a guest book attendant or something else that is important to the wedding, but not massively important

Answer 10

Keep smiling and saying "I wish I could have 100 bridesmaids so I say yes to everyone!" Aside from that, try to to not give a damn. These unhappy people will either get over it or die unhappy.