Mother's of sons suffering Mama's Boy Sydrome (MBS)?

Question

Why do you do that to your son?
Why would you raise your son not to think for himself?
We have one @ my job and his mother called his boss and told his boss that he his working her son too hard, WTF! Who does that, do those of you that do this see that you are damaging you child, no woman would want a man like that.

I'm just asking ppl my bf is not a mama's boy, nor do I know any mama's boy's except my co-worker

Answer 1

I think there are any number of reasons that could factor into why a particular mother would treat her son in this manner. One reason that springs to mind is the desire for the son to become the man who the mother wishes her father or husband would have been. I have a grandmother who is exactly like that. She had two sons who she tried to make into her version of the perfect man (everything that she wished her father and her husband [their father] would have been). One of her sons fled from the situation after recovering from alcoholism. He is now happily married and has nothing to do with anyone other than me, my husband, and my parents (for reasons other than his mother... Two words- dysfunctional family.)... Anyway, the other son was driven into la la land. So, unfortunately, I have an uncle who is koo koo. And I'm not saying that he couldn't have saved himself. Actually, he COULD HAVE. But he was a lazy person and chose leisure over work and effort. And this cost him his sanity. I'm not exaggerating.... He now has the mind of a child. And, sadly, he now has a mother who thinks he's a burden. She just keeps him around for his disability check. (And I'm not making illogical judgments. Trust it... I'm close enough to the situation that I know.) I realize that this is a VERY EXTREME situation; but I wanted to share it because this sort of thing really does happen more than what some may think.

Mothers, please don't "baby" your boys or try to mold them into what you think they should be. The consequences could be who knows what.

Answer 2

My older brother is a mama's boy (though to be fair, mom wouldn't meddle in his employment affairs). In my bro's case, I think there are a couple of things going on. One, my mom's protective instinct has gone a little cuckoo -- I think because it took her like 12 years to get pregnant with him, and then he had health problems as a kid. Second, I think there is an ethnic element to it (we're Japanese American) -- he's the "number 1 son" destined to carry on the family name, so he needs special care. His wife jokes about the apron strings, but you can tell she's frustrated by it (I certainly have been my entire life).

Girl, I feel your pain! :-)

Answer 3

though i don't yet have a son that i can talk to (he's due with his twin to be born in about 7 weeks) i can't imagine why mothers would do that to their kids....not only is it damaging but the son will have no clue that it's wrong and he'll be so used to it that he'll never grow out of it....there's the mothers who mother right and then the mothers that go overboard....

Answer 4

lol I had to LMAO at the mother calling his boss. That is truly pathetic, no offense. Women and men should raise their children (boys and girls) to think for themselves and to be as independent as they can be.

Answer 5

Girl i know how you feel. My fiancee was like that and he is slowly coming out of it, but man is it annoying. Just leave him let him realize it for himself.