Ok basically.. my bf was having a relasionship with his grade school love..over the phone she lives 3000miles away in his home town.and he was planning on moving there summer of 08. Tell him and i started dating. We started dating last sep. not to serious by xmas he went home and hooked up with this grl. Then him and i got serious after he came home. He rushed from V,A to AZ just to be able to give me a new yrs kiss. Then march i had a miscarraig..3 days later i look in his phone and see texts to her saying "miss u love u , thinking of u , do u still love me" ..He lied up and down and finally said sorry it was a huge mistake. MY DUMBUTT forgave him..had alot of probs after cause of it..::trust::..so i started to do some bad thngs i very much regret!!!!!! then thngs got worse cause he would just lie and lie about her. and then she was added to his myspace and was on his top next to me =/ wtf he said shes just a friend and it wasnt the grl who i found him texting in march..
2007-10-10 05:36:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She kept leaving comments saying miss u .. even tho she knew he was dating ME. Then i broke up with him and deleted him frm my page. She got moved up on his friends list and left moreee messages. We got back together and HE added me.so i added him and saw all the comments she left him. i was like wtf delete them..who is this grl bla bla..HE STILL DENIED IT! then one day she messaged me and said i was pretty..=/ that was wierd out of the blue..then messaged me again and told me everyyyything that had been going on between her and jason..because she was jelous he was back with me and were in AZ and she is in V.A .. he played us both she didnt know alot about him and i either..Then after we both confronted him..he said to both of us behinde our back that shes crazy and she said he said im crazy . Then finally i said i dnt want u ..and she said she didnt want him either..so then i told him i cheated on him .2 get it out..and then he did everrrything to get me back for some reason?dnt getit
2007-10-10 05:40:57 · update #1
Why after wanting to be with her and have a fam and a life when he moves back ::she said thats what he wanted:: and texting her all the time saying he loves her..does he all the sudden want ME after all that ..and me saying i cheated...?? Then a month later i was prego and miscarried..he said he loves me and wants to try again ..::whispered that::..and acts like we will soon..and says comments like when we have kids...and also said he would have married me..I DONT GET IT. he did say he was getting older and wanted a fam. Also if we dont stay together he is moving to V.a if we do stay together eventually he wants me to move with him and start a life..now im stuff with not trusting him and obssessing over this stupid grl thinking she is better then me..cause shes older has more going for her and is asian ..his fav! .. WHAT DO I DO
2007-10-10 05:43:50 · update #2
I wasnt really all that crazy about him up until i found out about him and this grl..and he had even said to me he didnt really realise what he had rite in front of him until he almost lost me..and then after that weekend of "makeing up" i got prego found out a few weeks later..he was verrrry scared and worried ..saying we need to rebuild our relasionship b4 having a kid..then said he wants to have the baby and we can do this and he loves me even more every day. Then i miscarried, and he got really sad and said "youre a part of me now forever" ill always love u and care for u and be there no matter what happends ..he does treat me good and takes me shopping and to din..and takes my neice places. and realllly does try "NOW"! actually acts like a real bf should! But why all the sudden does he want me? when b4 he wanted her and a fam with her? i dnt get it
2007-10-10 05:51:08 · update #3
You might say you want men's advice, but you really need woman's advice. This guy sounds selfish. It sounds like he will say or do whatever he needs to say or do, to get what he wants. It is human nature to want what you can't have. I think that is why he is wanting you now, and you admit you weren't that interested until you found out he was interested in her. Quit playing games with him and move on. You may think what you feel is love, and you may have trouble getting him out of your mind, but you will never have long term happiness with him.
2007-10-10 05:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by Don't Wanna Die 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey move on. This guy is playing both of you. He wants to have a girl in every port. There are plenty of men out there who would love to have a person like you beside them. Cut the cord and tell him to F%&% OFF and leave you alone. You sound like you are young and have your whole life ahead of you. The trust is gone and that is the basis of a real relationship, if you do not have that, you have nothing. You will be better off without him. Good luck.
2007-10-10 06:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by Ron 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The trust is gone in the relationship, with good reason. It's time to move on. It sounds like he's just keeping you around until either the girl comes back or he goes there. You don't want to be left out to dry when that happens. Just move on and find someone else.
2007-10-10 05:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by Die S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Word of Advice from a guy: Just leave the dude to play the field and go and start another life of your own. Because, he says he loves you yet he cheats on you!!! Then there is a problem somewhere or something is missing.
2007-10-10 05:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by Omon 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just walk away. He does not get it, will not get it and just wants the sex. He isn't worth your time or heart ache.He sounds like he wants to be a "playa" and needs to seriously grow up.
2007-10-10 05:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you NEEED to do is just give your boy the busniess tell him that you're no Bi@#h on the side. it's either you or some other girl. not both let him decide and let it be that. and if it still continues dump him like you should anyway.
2007-10-10 05:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by mixed_brother 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you really need an answer to this?
It's time for you to move on..and don't look back...
2007-10-10 05:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dawm girl ,put you priorities straight and tell him your walking away if this continious ,truth can be hard sometimes ,and love is blind just try not be the blind one in this story .
2007-10-10 05:41:58 · answer #8 · answered by ahvillian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on its over
2007-10-10 05:45:22 · answer #9 · answered by wessalan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on dot gal
2007-10-10 05:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by Victor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋