ok my bf nd i have been going out for 2 months now nd we go to different schools we met last year when we both transfered to the school im in now but he moved. Now he lives half an our away nd i never see him. i only stay with him cuz i love him more thatn nethng. The other day we were talking and he askd me what was rwrong nd i cnt lie to him so i tld him. sum 1 at my skul said yeah hes a flirt but thats when they knew him last year and his gf was very controlling over him. now im worried that if he was that big of a flirt when she controlled everything he did how bad is he now when i controll absolutely nothing he does. im not as woried about him as i am all the girls who are all over him all the time and ive heard that most of them dnt even kno i exist. what do i do?
2007-10-10 05:23:45 · 9 answers · asked by richgurrl14 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*i am not too young
*i have perfect grades in school
2007-10-10 05:33:22 · update #1
wow its strange how were going through the same thing, except my boyfriend is in my school.. having a flirty boyfriend can be tough, but u gotta let him know if it bugs u.. and dont worry about the fact that he used to be really flirty when he was with his ex, my boyfriend was like that as well, but u can work things out.. talk to him, and when worse comes to worst, if he doesnt listen, break up with him.. at least you'd know that you tried to work things out but he just wasnt willing to do his part.. if he cares enough he'll do what it takes to make u happy.. ps, a word of advice though, dont do things back for the sake of pissing him off as revenge, it makes ur problems worse.. hope this helps
2007-10-10 06:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by sherri13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think he's acting like an insensitive jerk, and he is! What your boyfriend is doing is totally disrespectful. I call it "leaking sexual energy." He may not be doing anything physical, but on the astral plane, he's lusting after other girls behind you no less. If his saying it's just "friendly" behavior, then, it's like someone whose dog is humping your leg telling you the animal is just being friendly. You know it much more---you can feel it in your gut.
Now if he accuses that you are "insecure" or "jealous" when you ask him. Those are buzz words men often use to control their partner, invalidate their feelings, and make them feel something is wrong with them. Don't fall for it, and don't let him minimize what's he's doing to you. This is a problem that needs facing.
So it's possible that your sweetheart is a really nice, but misguided, member of the male race who just doesn't realize how his behavior is hurting you. Then again, it's possible that he's not a nice guy and couldn't care less about your feelings. That's a distinction only you can make.
Talk to your boyfriend without blaming him, coming from a more neutral place. See if it helps him understand how hurtful his behavior is to you, and let him know you respect yourself too much to stay in the relationship if the flirting continues.
ravishingV
2007-10-10 05:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by ravishingV 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a flirt, but if u think a/b it he's not going to do nething stupid b-cuz he obviously loves u or he still wudnt be w/ u! these girls see in him the same things u do and want him, they want him even more b-cuz they cant have him and its kind of like a challenge to them. i wouldnt worry a/b it, hes not making the actions...sure hes a flirt, most guyz are but as long as its the harmless flirting then u shouldnt have ne worries. and as for the other girls, its no competition for u b-cuz u already have him so if they're making u mad by being all up on him then when u n him are together return the favor and make them jelous and wish they were u! lol Best of Luck!
Sunshine
2007-10-10 05:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) You are to young to be in a relationship. You need to understand that he is a verile young male and his hormones are telling him to get as much tail as possible. He will not stop flirting. He may be cheating.
2) Start worrying about your education and future and get your career started before you even think about long term relationships. Don't do the BF thing, just mingle.
3) If you are under 27, you are too young.
2007-10-10 05:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jesus & Kristle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy and women like me.
I am not doing anything wrong.
The lady just needs reassurance.
2007-10-10 05:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by Michael M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you should be happy. As long as he's behaving himself - just think that there's all these girls who want him - but you've got him!!
2007-10-10 05:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by mark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I THINK YOU SHOULD TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL, AND IF HE KEEPS DOING IT THERE ARE MORE FISH IN THE SEA FOR YOU.ONCE YOU FINALLY CONVINCED THAT IT IS OVER SOME ONE WILL COME IN YOU LIFE AND TREAT YOU WITH MORE LOYALTY AND RESPEST....TRUST AND BELIEVE IT
2007-10-10 05:30:14 · answer #7 · answered by SHAYLA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let it bother you
hes a PIMP LIKE ME
2007-10-10 05:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him and you'll get bACK with your self esteem.. guaranteed
2007-10-10 05:26:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋