Shouldn't someone who wants to come over to your house call ahead of time to warn you that they are coming?
It was about 9:30pm on sunday and my wife's relatives just dropped in without even calling!
I told her that she needs to put them straight.
no more last minute visits, specially when you have to work the next day....
2007-10-10 05:05:19 · 22 answers · asked by MrRight 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It was pretty thoughtless of them to come over so late without calling, especially on a work night. I know you don't want to be rude, but you could politely ask them to drop by for a visit much earlier in the evening when you have to work the next day. Any reasonable adult would understand that. Good luck. 2D
2007-10-10 05:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by 2D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right. It's rude and inconsiderate to just "drop in." People do it to me all the time and it's so annoying! My family and friends think they have the right to visit me anytime and It's been getting on my nerves lately. I only have a little downtime during the day because I work a split shift so when they stop by they don't realize I am busy and need to do things with the time I have.
My brothers just dropped by when it was my boyfriend's last night at my house (we live 400 miles away from one another) and we went to dinner. It was romantic and then my bro calls when we are on the way home to tell me him, my other bro and their friend is at my apartment. It sucked because we wanted privacy. Besides 9:30 pm on Sunday????!!!! That's the time that I rest and recharge for the week ahead, very rude of the wife's relatives.
2007-10-10 12:15:15 · answer #2 · answered by Pssssh Whatever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100% - we have a 'friend' who we do not know that well at all who has recently moved back to the area....she kept doing that sort of thing. I try so hard to be nice to people so I let it go a couple of times...then I started dropping hints that it was inappropriate not to call us before visiting.....nothing worked.....I had to sit her down and tell her flat out honestly how I felt. Of course it seemed like I was being a jerk and I even felt bad but sometimes you just have to feel like a creep to get peace in your own home.
2007-10-10 13:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not polite but it will happen regaurdless :( however you have the choice to open your door or not!
I normally set things straight no phone calls after 10 unless someone died or is sick, no company after 10. period..
it is rude when others stop by but family is family and theys shouldn't have to make a big deal every time the come over and it is nice to let you know a head of time they could of called!
but it would upset me if someone in my family was near by and they didn't drop on by to say hi!
like just drive my house with out saying hello that's rude too!
so it's a 50/50 case by case issues here!
2007-10-10 12:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that was rude of them - especially that late in the day. They should have called to see if it was ok first, but most people would assume out of politeness that 9:30 at night is too late for a visit and skip it all together.
2007-10-10 12:08:33 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ тнє σяιgιиαℓ gιяℓfяι∂αу ♥ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think it was rude of them to come unexpected so late in the evening. Personally I'd think it was less of a big deal had they done it in the middle of the day, or if they had called first and asked if it was ok to come even though it's late, but coming unexpected at that hour, that's just plain rude.
2007-10-10 12:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by undir 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very rude...I had to put my husbands Mother straight on this...she had no idea that some people need a warning....she's one of those people whpo dont mind if you just walk into the bathroom when she's in the shower...I like my privacy and hate unexpected callers.
2007-10-10 13:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and no. If my local family did that I would be upset. But If my mother in law drove all the way to South Carolina from Detroit Michigan and said "SURPRISE" I probably would not be as upset.
I guess it would really depend on the reason for the visit.
2007-10-10 12:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by winterpixie_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up in a family where that is acceptable. When I married, my mother always made an appointment with us to come over, she respected my husband enough to do that. Your wife should request of her family to call ahead to be sure it's okay to come.
2007-10-10 12:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by gigglings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely poor ettiquette on the part of the relatives. Unless of course, you have a warm and friendly relationship which would permit such things. From what you say, it does not appear to be the case.
2007-10-10 12:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by dpilipis 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋