ok see i have been talking to this guy for like 2 yrs now and well we dated for like 4 months and then he dumped me for his ex. well see the thing is that its a long distance relationship b/c I live in NC and he lives in Wisconsin. So it is kinda complicated trying to see each other. So he started going back out with his ex and just a month ago she cheated on him with this other guy and so he left her and is now coming back my way. the thing is that i don't want to get to close again and get hurt. I have told him this and he assures me that it want happen again. But I dont' know I mean with her he did see her every day and with me he isn't seeing me b/c we live so far out. But he wants us to get back together but i don't know. I mean do u think we should or not? I really like him but I just don't know about us getting back together just yet. I want us to be friends but he doesn't. any ideas?
2007-10-10 04:59:49 · 25 answers · asked by bluedevilsgirl07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he isn't willing to maintain some sort of friendship with you, then he isn't really interested in you. He's looking for convenience, not a lasting connection - if he knows he has a guaranteed hook-up with you when you're in town, then that's more than he has right now. But it won't stop him from cheating on you when you go home; he has no incentive to stay faithful if he doesn't care about your feelings, and obviously puts his libido ahead of his conscience.
Write this guy off as a lesson in love, and move on. Find a more worthwhile guy in your own area.
2007-10-10 05:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want the quick answer: no, you should not date him.
now for the long explanation:
first, he is in that bounce back state where he would rather date someone long distance than being alone... even though technically he is. there is a good possibility that once his confidence is up, he will try to date someone closer to him. since he seems to be pushing you into that state i believe that is what he wants even though he might not realize it. he might just be acting from his subconscious. if you really are interested in him, be his friend but do not let him date you/be your boyfriend for now. once he has had time to get over this relationship, then you can see if this will lead anywhere. if he is not willing to do that then he is not worth it and you will probably be hurt again.
In the end, you have to do what is right for you. you need to make the decision you will be able to live with. not the one that everyone tells you is right. good luck.
2007-10-10 05:10:42 · answer #2 · answered by viper_ej 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl pay attention to your words you can answer your question yourself. Why does he want to get back with you? Because he's not with her. You have to think what is he gonna do when someone else wants him or his ex cries and begs for forgiveness. He left you at the drop of a dime for his ex which would have me feeling played. He has to realize that he can't get back that easy. If you let him he will feel like he can do what ever he wants and get away with it. I think you should be his friend because it takes two to make a long distance relationship work. He can move to your town or you can move to his but I don't believe you should go to his, so let him chase you and let him show you how bad he wants you back.
2007-10-10 05:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by Vanecia K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have choices to make that are good for you. He was with you and cheated with is his ex. So he figured he come back to your waiting arms. Hm, wondering why folks let people walk all over them and not do anything about it. Have some values you want in a relationship and stick to them. You are not going to buy a car you don't like? Right? So why settle for the same in a relationship with some one.
2007-10-10 05:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just be friends with him. It's pretty obvious what type of guy he is. You should let him know that it just won't work out. Tell him that you don't want your heart broken and that you're not ready for a relationship with him. I'm sure there are better guys out there for you. Keep the faith and a true man will show up. Possibly even more handsome and more of a gentleman than this guy! good luck!
2007-10-10 05:05:34 · answer #5 · answered by 09 _ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to move to NC, then I say yeah give him one more chance. Howver sounds like your his #2 or his fall back basically and that's not cool. Get yourself someone who puts you before their ex's and first at most things, instead of a long distance relationship that already has very loose threads. Good Luck
2007-10-10 05:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he is way too far away. I live in NC and part of my family lives in Wisconsin and I only get to see them maybe once a year, if that.
2007-10-10 05:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by smash6385 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he dumped you that easily to go out with his ex, he really isn't worth the time or the effort. His ex is near him so he can see her anytime. You're not. You don't know if he'll dump you again.With that being said, I think you two should just go your seperate ways. You can find someone better, near you.
2007-10-10 05:04:43 · answer #8 · answered by **Mystica** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never get back with my boyfriend if he left me for his ex. you can do better
and long term relationships hardly ever work out, so just be friends and rub it in his face a little bit when you get a better guy :P
2007-10-10 05:04:18 · answer #9 · answered by bellamiella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really up to you on whether you want to give this another shot. But the big obstacle is whether this relationship can survive the long-distance. Many times, this proves too much and the relationship fizzles, and both just go their separate ways.
2007-10-10 05:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋