Right, i asked this girl i'd liked for nearly a year out in mid august, and she txted back "tbh i don't know what can be said, your a gd friend but your not really my type, im sorry." then about a week later she was telling her + my friends that she'd turned me down, and when i heard i was kinda annoyed, i didnt say anything to her or see her the next few days though. then i got a txt off her saying how sorry she was and that she hoped i didnt hate her, and that she hopes i can forgive her ... i told her i forgave her about it all. however yesterday she came to church, missing something else she was going to, and she came with her hair down, which id told her she looks fab with it down even though she doesnt like it that much, and i would swear she looked at me during the singing. later on she also came to a church club l8r, still with her hair down, even though she had to put it up for duty (i think?), and our eyes caught each other more than once. i want to know if im being paranoid?
2007-10-10 04:39:29 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we're going ice skating with a club. im planning on asking her out one the ice in november .... is this a good plan? i last asked her in july. im gunna make it romantic i like her so much?! Oh yer and she's kinda shy so i dont think she'd ask ... and also i think she doesnt like texts and i asked her out really late when she was tired, she's the type who likes romance (i think)
2007-10-10 04:39:43 · update #1
haha ok ill tell you everything babe....
She likes the chase, she likes being wanted and she doesnt like you but the thrill of someone liking you is intense and she likes that attention so shes gonna try to turn you on even more just to get a reaction.
TRUST ME! This is the truth and honest answer...ive seen it done before. If she already turned you down theres no way she in as into you and you are into her so dont even waste your time getting embaressed by her turning you down again....
And be honest with yourself, you like the thrill of chasing her too. You wanna know how to get her? Stop the contact..thats right...dont look at her, dont ask her out, dont stare at her just be comphertable in your own skin and act SUPER confident...This is a HUGE turn on with girls.
2007-10-10 07:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by tiun 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Don't take it personally when she tells you that you are just not her type. It's nothing against you that she's not interested. I'm sure there are plenty of girls that have liked you but you haven't given them the time of day because they weren't your type. She's not interested in you in that way, she might think you are a cool friend and wants to keep it that way but if you want to make her uncomfortable around you go ahead and ask her out again and see how fast she stops being your friend.
Dude you need to move on and find someone that does like you "that way" When a girl says that it's because they are not attracted to you physically and there has to be physical attraction before there can be a relationship. I've had plenty of guys who were friends but would get weirded out if they even showed the slightest bit of interest towards me more than friends and it eventually ruined the friendship. That's why I always say men and women can never be friends because the sex always gets in the way.
Save yourself the embarrassment and the heartache don't ask her out again or even make it romantic. You'll only get hurt when she turns you down again and tells her friends that you are obviously not too bright if you asked her after she already told you that she wasn't interested in you in that way.
Bottom line is: She's just not that into you. Sorry
2007-10-11 03:42:38 · answer #2 · answered by Weimaraner Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, babe, she is definatly playing you. She likes the drama and wants to keep you wanting her, so she'll do things to make you think that maybe she might like you and then you do things and blah blah she gets what she wants. This is ONLY my opinion and I DEFNATLY COULD BE WRONG seeing as I have never met her but this is what I think is the case, especially if she was telling everyone she turned you down, thats just LOW, who cares what time it was or how you asked her out she shouldnt brag about turning you down. I don't think she deserves a guy who would be as sweet as to ask a girl out on the ice. My suggestion: Move on
2007-10-11 03:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do the texting late at night :) She might just be interested in being friends at first--she probably is really genuinely concerned that she hurt you, so she cares and wants things to be right between you. Just be patient--ask her out to the ice, and if it's meant to be, God will work it all out a? You should pray about it! :) I also wouldn't jump to conclusions about the time she came to church with her hair down etc. that's not definite enough, but spend some more time with her and see where things go :)
2007-10-12 02:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont understand her if she was interested then why she told your and her friends that she "refused you".....and then coming back and sayin sorry...
dont mind but there is something fishy..
maybe one of your friends must have told her that how much you love her or anything like that then she must have realised that what has she done..
in my opinion... better ask her first that why did she do it first and then coming and saying sorry(not rudely but in a very casual manner)...tell her to be honest in answering this and say that you will not say anything to her even if the answer is rude or tough to hear..."you have to bear that"
then if she give you a answer which is really acceptable then you might carry on and then plan out something romantic for her or whtever she likes the most rather than getting hurted again by planning out something very nice for her before only and if she hurts you again then what??
i hope the best for you good luck....take care
2007-10-11 03:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by smartgal" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
K its good u forgave her
she was being relli mean at first though
but if u still lyk her try again
i think she lyks u
that happened with me and my ex we always caought eyes more than once
and we ended up dating again
but seriously if she gonna act that way with you its kinda lyk shes using u
but if u should try again relli
its relli a brave thing 2 do
maybe she'll think that was 2 sweet 4 asking her out again even though she relli hurt u
and say yes
that happened 2 my friend
2007-10-10 10:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by BLAH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She already turned you down once, leave it be. If you continue to ask her she's going to think you can't even be just friends. If she does end up liking you as more than a friend you'll need to wait for something a little more clearer than her wearing her hair the way you like it and looking at you. Wait for definitive signs of flirting before you go after her again. Better yet, try to spend your time finding someone else. The best way to know how she really feels is to get another woman in your life. If it doesn't drive her crazy than she doesn't like you.
2007-10-10 04:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to be like she's not really interested in you. You told her she looks good when her hair is down, so she wears her hair down to look good - not just for you. Girls usually try to be nice about turning a guy down, and guys interpret this as them really liking them. Just accept that she would rather be friends. Don't put her in an awkward position by trying to be all romantic. Move on, you'll just look like a fool who can't take a hint.
2007-10-10 09:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by ninsianna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing she did was wear her hair down. That is not a signal of "Hey, I like you". She already told you once NO, what more do you want?? Quit being a stalker and move on, if she changes her mind and comes after you, good, until then leave the girl alone.
2007-10-11 03:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by Lookin-2-Talk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, to be honest, I don't think she is into you. She told you no once before for a reason. Is there any other guy at church that she would be interested in? Maybe that is why she wore her hair down. And maybe she feels akward around you and thats why she made "eyes" at you. I wouldn't ask her out any time soon-or atleast until you are for sure that she likes you. Try talking to her as a friend and see what happens.
2007-10-10 04:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by anon 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋